MOVED.

SUMMER IS HERE, NOW ACCEPTING COMMISSIONS ! ! ! 

you can now find me at @mooniacc ! new year, new blog or something! 

you can now find me at @mooniacc ! new year, new blog or something! 

Dear loyal and amazing followers,

To all my followers, I am so sorry that I have not been posting for a while. At lot has been hitting me and my family this year, and yesterday turned out to be the worst and longest 24 hours of my life. Here is what’s been happening:

My son was taken away by helicopter to a hospital hours away from home because I took him to the ER expecting them to run a couple tests, and give him an IV and some medicine; they instead broke the news to me that he has a tumor the size of an orange or baseball on the left side of his brain. They say it could have been in his brain as far back as when he was born, even though up until recently he appeared to show no discernible signs that anything was wrong outside of common place issues, like the fact that earlier in the month he was teething and had a tough go of it, and I thought that after he seemed to be all better, he in fact was far from it. What a heck of a way to end an already tumultuous year.

More details according to my wife as she has informed me is: “the thing the images I was shown….the thing is huge….we knew that but it solidified it for me… The tumor is being fed with blood/veins…..thats partly why it’s so big…. There is swelling on the right side of the brain and fluid buildup…he called it hydrocephylis I believe…. The tumor is big enough that it’s causing pinching on the right side a little which he’s concerned about… But there is a possible issue when it comes to removing the whole thing…. He said that because it is being fed, there is a high chance of blood loss since he is so little, he can’t lose a lot…. So they are going to go in, with caution, and remove as much as possible, he said it is possible they can remove all of it at once….but most likely he will have to leave some…. Once surgery is done, it goes off to pathology, if it’s benign….things are a little simpler…. If not, you know the general idea…. Now he did say that if they don’t get all of it….they will try chemo for a little bit and see if that shrinks it….then if needed after a short time, they will do another surgery to remove the rest…. So it’s possible he could have 2 surgeries just for the tumor in a short span of time….I think he said about a week…. He also said that the hydrocephylis makes things difficult on another level….if removal of tumor doesn’t reduce the fluid%swelling they will have to do another surgery and place a shunt to drain the fluid/pressure…. So 3 surgeries are possible in a VERY short period of time depending on how tomorrow goes… He also….very vehemently stated that having a pediatrician would NOT have changed the outcome, or allowed it to be caught sooner…..he said in the 15 years he has been doing this….only a handful of pediatricians have caught something like this…..and usually only at the point that we did…. He emphasized that…..same as the doc at women’s and children’s did….”

As a result of all this hard to emotionally process information, financially, I do not know how we will recover as the bills get away from us.

To make matter even more difficult, just last night on my way to picking up my kids, I lost consciousness and veers off and hit something that flattened my tire on the driver’s side, I think it broke something when I hit the curb-like divider in the road, because the car is barely running now, and the rear wheel suspension on the same side as the flat is broke clean off. Now with my wife staying at the hospital with our son, and me somewhat stranded at home with our 3 small children, she is not able to go to work, and can’t pick up her paycheck (does not get paid via direct deposit) which limits access to financial resources to sustain this house in the meanwhile. We have warning notices on utilities coming our way. So this is why I have been out and off of Tumblr. I have to be a father first, nothing else matters by my family, and I know that you all understand this.

What sucks right now, is that my car can’t drive because of the accident until I get a new tire, and get the suspension part replace by tomorrow which is also the day of the first surgery which I am deeply worried about for my son’s sake.

I’m not asking, but if anyone wants to and are able to help by chipping I will leave a link to a gofundme that my wife’s super helpful friend has set up while we were focusing on our kids. I love having you guys sharing in my laughter, I pray that I can return home with my son, and return sometime whenever to some normalcy again, although I don’t know that it will ever be the same, I will fight to bring back happiness into this household and to my gift of sharing my happiness with you all.

VALL’S HOLIDAY COMMISSIONS

Hello, I’m back with commissions.💙 My dad has cataract in both of his eyes and we are trying to raise enough money to pay for an eye surgery, so he does not lose his sight althogether. Every penny counts, right? :)

INFORMATION

All characters will be fully coloured with simple shading. The same goes for backgrounds. Painted portraits are more detailed.

I’m more than happy to draw your OCs, but I’d appreciate picture references.

I’d prefer your OCs to be from fandoms I’m familiar with. That means Bioware games, Fallouts, Harry Potter, Star Wars, or LotR, but I can draw character from any fandom, as long as you are able to provide references.

I won’t draw gore, violence or horror.

I maintain the right to decline the commission if I don’t feel comfortable drawing your request.

I can draw small animals like dogs or cats. (or pyjaks). They will be charged extra (+ $5).

Payments via paypal invoice, when the first sketch is approved.

Very detailed outfits/armours can be charged a little bit extra.

Prices of backgrounds depend on complexity of a background.

CONTACT

If you are interested in commissioning me, please contact me on vallenielmail[at]gmail[dot]com, so we can disccus further details.

You can also contact me via message system here on tumblr to reserve a spot, but I’ll still ask you to send me an email with details. :)

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One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

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She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.” 

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:

SHE HAD STAGE 4 HEPATITIS AND WAS ABOUT TO DIE.

She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

FUCKING TAKE NOTE OF THIS!