Pro-ship people are virtually never on DNIs in spaces populated by people who have actually been in fandom, and been through, moral panic, because they're not children who say things without knowing what they mean or the history of the word.
Right so, I've been asked so here's my official dissertation on why I don't fuck with proshippers. I understand what proship is supposed to mean, but those are still not the people I want to associate with.
Proshippers' whole thing is not caring about what other people ship and not believing in "harassment" AKA not calling out weirdos. Which is fair. I definitely don't go looking for people being creeps just to scream at them, because that's never changed anything.
Proshippers effectively create safe spaces for these people. What they say is, "I will not hate on you. You are free to be creepy and I will not call it out when I see it."
And when you invite wolves and sheep, you will only be met with wolves.
I'm also not even totally against the paper description of "darkshipping" or dark media as a whole. But darkshipping is not a safe space, it is a space crawling with people who think it's cute to ship adults and children. I realize some people use their favorite media to work through trauma, which is not something I will judge, but again: when does darkshipping stop being a safe space for victims and start being a safe space for perpetrators?
I cannot fathom why the "good ones" would want to be associated, share the same name and community with such people. The names of darkshippers and the ones who protect them will forever be soiled by horrible people, and I will not tolerate them.
Simply, I do not really care if someone is anti harassment. I am in fact an adult with a job and screaming online---even at genuine predators---will never be anything more than a waste of time. But it is when you feel the need to specifically identify yourself as being a safe space, not for victims of abuse, but of people who enjoy consuming depictions of that abuse, that I do not feel safe around you or the community you attract.
And you know what? If the only thing proshippers were doing was keeping to themselves and not interacting with darkshippers at all I wouldn't have as much of an issue as I do, but you clearly fucking don't keep to yourselves because I have to hear about it.
I actually do think some people deserve to be ""harassed"" when they are posting genuine loli child predator shit with no warning for all to see. I would NEVER believe in blindly defending darkshippers as a whole, because they are clearly causing real harm---AKA I, as a SURVIVOR, getting fucking retraumatized after scrolling in the Bluey tag for 5 seconds.
The paper definition, the intent of a label is all well and good, but you have to step away and consider the observable impact that community has had and what it represents. You are creating a safe space for PREDATORS. You are militantly against bullying PREDATORS of all people.
I am not new to fandom. Truthfully I don't give a flying fuck what people are doing if I DON'T HAVE TO SEE IT. But I'm not just going to sit down and shut up when people are spreading predator ass shit right in front of my face. And I don't believe in wearing a giant badge that says "I DON'T HATE CHILD PREDATORS."
It's just very telling that the one defending their right to protect predators won't even show their face.
