How to help someone when theyâre hallucinating
Disclaimer: I am not every schizophrenic person ever. I am just one person. Iâm writing this using my own personal experiences with my hallucinations and what others can do to help. Feel free to add your own suggestions.Â
-Move the person to a different location. It should be relatively quiet without sensory overload or crowds of people. Sometimes the person will refuse to leave their hallucinations, in which case you have to find a way to make them. If they are refusing to leave but clearly very agitated, they are entering psychosis and need to get out.Â
-Stay with the person. Sometimes my hallucinations give me intense fear and anxiety in which case Iâd rather not be on my own to hallucinate terrifying things. Also, spoiler alert, but sometimes psychotic people hurt themselves. Sometimes they donât even know theyâre doing it. If you leave them completely alone, thereâs a chance self harm will occur.
-Reassure the person. Tell them that what theyâre experiencing is not real. Tell them youâre staying with them. Tell them it will be over soon. Be calm and kind.Â
-If the person is having auditory hallucinations, the best thing you can do is to actually get them away from noise. Donât try to make them listen to music or bring them into loud areas. That will likely cause them to hallucinate more. Take them somewhere quiet and wait for it to pass on its own.
-If the person is having visual hallucinations, likely they will be looking up, at least in my experience anyway. When I hallucinate, itâs usually something I need to raise my head to see. I have a friend who will notice when Iâm staring up at something she canât see and will raise her hands to block it. That way, I see her hands which distract me, and then I look down at her instead of at whatever Iâm hallucinating. Distractions are great for visual hallucinations.
-Touch the person (if theyâre okay with it). Touching me when Iâm hallucinating helps in two different ways. It helps to ground me. If I can feel you touching me, I know that Iâm still in reality. It is also calming. If Iâm very agitated or fearful, itâs nice to have a reassuring hand touch my shoulder to calm me down.
-Often when people are hallucinating, they get very antsy. Try giving them something they can fidget with, or ask if they want to squeeze your hand.Â
-Donât let the person focus on their hallucinations. Even if itâs terrifying, my natural urge is to look at or listen to the hallucination. I once was having quite a disturbing hallucination and every time I turned my head to look at it, a friend of mine would gently guide my head away from it and make me focus back on her.Â
-Ask them if thereâs anything they specifically need. Everyone is different. Donât bombard the person with questions, just ask them what they need. A question Iâm often asked is if food or water will help, to which I reply, no, it doesnât. (Except if the hallucination is causing me to panic, in which a case drinking water will help calm me down. Some people like to chew gum or suck on a candy to help ground them but I havenât really personally found that helpful for me.)
-Donât panic. Youâre not the one hallucinating. You have nothing to fear. Psychotic does not mean violent. A hallucinating person is not going to hurt you. The person likely will be quite fearful themselves, so you need to do your best to remain calm for them. Panicking will just make the situation worse.