Nevertheless, each writerās reflection on the public distancing by straight women from the objects of their desire rests on the belief that these displays reflect womenās feelings about their attachment to men as a stable categoryādisappointment or shameārather than their feelings about their attachment to women as a stable categoryāfear that this category is becoming politically obsolete. The thing is, the popular misandrist left discourse, perpetuated by straight women, has almost nothing to do with sexuality, but everything to do with gender. Like political lesbianism, this Political Heterosexuality is not concerned with actual, felt sexual orientation or relationshipsāitās concerned with the reifying of binary categories at the expense of a nuanced analysis of gender that accounts for race, class, and transition. [...] While the decrying of men by Political Heterosexuals is less overtly bio-essentialistātending to focus on menās emotional immaturity, commitment-phobia, poor sexual skills, lack of hygiene, or failure to own a real, off-the-ground bedāit still relies on an implicit or explicit comparison with women, and thus, a binary. What makes these men men is that they are not women; what makes these women, then, women is that they are not men. In my view, professing hatred of men online is not exclusively or even often reflective of individual disappointment or in service of individual absolution; it is in service of the desire to continue to define the political category of āwomenā by a clean-cut opposite, in a time when it is no longer politically correct to do so. [...] Good feminists do indeed acknowledge the impossibility of lumping women together as a discrete group with legible, united needs; over is the heyday of white second-wave feminism, claiming all womenāregardless of race or wealthāas equal in their second-class citizenship. But, even as progressive women dutifully point out the failure of the universal, acknowledging that the universalizing of the category āwomenā nearly always reeks of white supremacy and transphobia, many of those same women continue to fervently desire a universal, whether or not theyāll say it out loud. And the loophole, championed by Political Heterosexuality, is to affirm that men constitute a political classāthe silent foil being, then, that women still do, too.
from "In Defense of Men: On the failures of Political Heterosexuality and No Cis Men" by Sophia Giovannitti
By rehearsing the view that āmen are the worstā while continuing to pursue romantic and sexual attachments with them, we perform an othering gesture that shores up the purity or innocence of our own identities. We may love men, we declare, but we barely enjoy it, okay?; we are embarrassed; we are not contaminated by them; we are not they. In other words, we get to continue to be āwomenā. Perhaps, semi-unconsciously, we had worried that the very category of āwomenā had become untenable. If we can only continue to reproduce the category āmenā loudly enough, then, we wager, the category āwomenā might stay safe. (Note, while a majority of heterofatalist misandrists online today seem to think they are trans-affirming, their position not only requires erasing trans men altogether, but also all trace of trans womenās lived experiences as men, regardless of those womenās own self-understanding. Indeed, misandry, as I see it, can never reliably be prevented from collapsing into transphobia.)
from "Collective Turn Off" by Sophie Lewis
