Through the looking glass

Accept that exercise needs to be a non-negotiable part of your life.

Eat sufficient protein at every meal. Not because it’s currently a buzzword, but because you should have always been doing that and need to keep it up even when a new food group inevitably trends.

Walk whenever you can. Calls, errands, waiting, etc.

You deserve proper rest even if you didn’t get everything done.

Keep healthy staples on autopilot and easily accessible. Things that don’t need to be cooked, 5 minute meals, snacks you can toss in your bag, etc.

Water before and after caffeine.

Ten minutes of movement beats zero.

Batch cook once, eat well all week. If not full meals then whatever key ingredients you can.

Protect your mornings from chaos. Let them be as absolutely slow as your responsibilities allow it to be.

Train for health, strength, and longevity as your top priority. You don’t have to strive for a specific visual outcome.

Stretch, even if it’s while you wait for your pot of water to boil or are letting the bathtub fill up.

Limit liquid calories.

Create a simple, repeatable routine.

Book checkups before there’s a problem.

2021 - The Year of Resetting

2022 - The Year of Loss and Lessons

2023 - The Year of Subtle Progress 

2024 - The Year of Preparation

I'm sick of your world that lets the outside disguise the inside.

Your men weren't bad men; undisciplined life did that to them. As pigs,

under the care of me and my ladies, they sweetened right up.

Then I reversed the spell, showing you my goodness as well as my power. I saw

we could be happy here, as men and women are when their needs are simple. In the same breath,

I foresaw your departure, your men with my help braving the crying and pounding sea. You think

a few tears upset me? My friend, every sorceress is a pragmatist at heart; nobody sees essence who can't face limitation. If I wanted only to hold you

I could hold you prisoner.

- intimate stabbing

- outright obsession

- confused pining

- "no one knows me like you do"

treat mundane activities like grocery shopping as adventures

make playlists for every feeling you can feel

give yourself quiet days to read and pass time slowly

keep a journal, a nonperfomative place to express yourself

reduce your screen time; use your screens mostly for inspiration

create more than you consume

have a place where you can run free and feel the wind rushing

Disciplined - if a target is set, it is achieved 

Speaking - Can speak multiple languages. Can express thoughts clearly even if vocabulary is limited. The listener understands their point. 

Strong extroversion socially - can approach and talk to new people with ease, but also make them feel comfortable. Good at following up, asking questions and inserting little stories about themselves without exposing too much 

Strong general knowledge / industry knowledge. They know what they’re talking about 

Hard to please but not arrogant about it. They won’t readily accept a fact or opinion, even if the majority agrees - they’ll debate with it, think over it, play the devil’s advocate

Good posture

Strong set of principles and self control. There’s no shame in wanting to say, help someone, choose not to drink socially, buy a coffee for a poor person on the street; they don’t hesitate to do good deeds 

Hygienic. Clean, groomed, well dressed, well maintained. 

Observant and proactive at the same time. Can pick up on body language relatively easily - can sense discomfort or unease in someone and do something about it.