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CSB is a space where not only do I help you with your work journey, but also with being in touch with your feminine side - to enjoy being a woman. Therefore, I share information I wish my younger self knew regarding health, beauty, mentality, etc.

I’ve realised that mental + physical + spiritual progress combined will make you successful. I work on incorporating that in my life everyday, and I want to help you too.

Disclaimer: I’m not a doctor, therapist or any person of that kind. I’m sharing what worked for me, and could work for you potentially. For medical advice, please visit a doctor.

This list is constantly updated. Press on any keyword below to see its index.

To access my answers to the questions I get in my inbox, search for #q/a.

GUIDE TO USING CSB - READ THIS FIRST

CHIC GIRL SERIES

CULTURAL EDUCATION

ROUTINE

SOCIAL

MATERIAL WEALTH

MIND DEVELOPMENT

BODY

CAREER AND BUSINESS

HABITS

GOALS

LOVE

READING

MENTOR RECOMMENDATIONS

my major learnings from this book so far:

There will be a time when the upper class will be extremely aware of the risks to their attention (caused by tech, social media, our current generation) and the masses, with fewer resources to resist the temptation of technology, will be manipulated more and more by their computers. 

Multitasking is a myth. What actually happens when we multitask is that we “juggle” between tasks. This results in incomplete tasks, higher error rates, less focus, less creativity and memory decreases. 

Sleep is extremely important, especially sleeping according to nature - when the sun sets and sun rises. If the whole world slept the way we are naturally programmed, we would have an economic earthquake. Our economic systems run on sleep deprived people. 

Reading online and reading print has a huge difference. Reading online creates tendencies of skimming and scanning text. This prevents our brain from focusing intently on one story at a time, which print allows you to do. You also remember and understand things from printed texts better. 

Empathy. Certain research suggests that reading fiction and novels improves empathy, because you are immersing yourself in another character’s life for a while. Empathy has played a huge role in human advancements. If a group of white people did not realise that colonisation was wrong, if men did not realise that women deserve equal rights, we would not have independent nations nor be close to gender equality today. 

There are multiple types of paying attention. Focused attention is one thing. But day dreaming and letting your mind wander with no distraction (that is, being alone with your thoughts) is equally important. Some of the most important breakthroughs in human history were because the inventors were not actively focusing on solving the problem. 

Red light therapy/ red light sauna a few times a week

6 am wake up

Hot Sculpt by FK Body x2 a week, mat pilates x 2 a week, leg and back heavy strength days x2, one long walk on Sundays

10k steps everyday

90g of protein a day

Word puzzles

No alcohol, refined sugar or eating out

Oil massages (I do it myself) every Sunday

Minoxidil

Simplified skincare

Clay masks once a week: Multani mitti + yogurt on T Zone, amla powder + yogurt on cheeks

Epsom salt bucket baths for my feet (epsom + ginger pieces + baking powder) once a week, literally pulls the stress out of your body

Magnesium, fish oil, calcium supplements, electrolytes, plant protein

Visualise for even 17 seconds of who you want to be. Believe it. Act like it. Be consistent.

The Pearl Lam Podcast

https://open.spotify.com/show/6KgpIIDCpcKtfHbhfWgi5b?si=7U218XEvQD6MzxASn1j4HA

- art, history, culture

Making the most of widgets

Putting Wikipedia as a widget on my phone so I can be updated with what’s happening / trending at a glance

Oura Ring

I’m obsessed and I swear by it. It’s helped me with my fitness and overall health so much

FK body

Practice all questions beforehand so throughly that if I haw to shake you in the middle of the night and ask you the questions, you should be able to answer me without thinking twice.

Niki Glaser practiced her Golden Globes intro 93 times.

Repetition is a fundamental driver of success.

If you’re ready to work your ass off and ready to fail N number of times before you hit success, then yes

Speak slowly

Dress according to your body type and complexion

Read a LOT

Learn to be a good listener

Never show negative emotions publicly

Never gossip or say anything that could bite you in the ass

Study British royal etiquette and adopt it

Practice sitting well, standing properly, dressing well even when you’re at home

Don’t obsess over how people look / think about you, obsess over how tuned you are towards yourself

Pick up new hobbies. It could be poetry or embroidery, it doesn’t have to be expensive nor hectic

Never date your coworkers, your boss and anyone who is lower than you emotionally

Be disciplined but not stern and don’t lose the colour of life

Be confident. Confidence comes from experience and experience comes from putting yourself in new situations and experiencing the failure or success that comes with it

Don’t restrict lighting candles, wearing expensive perfumes, cleaning your space, beautiful outfits only for men.

What foolproof methods have worked for you/would you recommend? I need this vice to exit my body before 2025 happens to me.

Set app limits for a specific amount of time (I do 30 mins each for Reddit, IG and tumblr) and have your friends/ family select the passcode. They shouldn’t reveal it to you under any circumstances. Don’t set app limits for important apps like WhatsApp/ messages, set it for social media where you tend to doomscroll.

find other apps to binge on. The reality is, you’re going need to ease off slowly. So download an app that is educational - so even if your screen time is high, at least you’re being a little productive. This can be apps like Elevate or whatever works for you.

no screens after 9 pm (or one hour before your bedtime). Keep your phone charging on the other side of the room if possible, not near your head.

if you can move backwards, you can move forwards too. Life is a game of chess and you’re the queen.

evaluate your current standing. Where are you at the moment across these categories: work/ school, family life, love life and friendships, hobbies, personal growth?

where do you want to be in those categories?

It’s great that you’re collecting information to understand how to deal with the issue you have on hand. However, if you’re not going to actively put in the work whilst collecting said information, it’s all pointless. Codependency in relationships can form because of being overly attached, tending to put the partner’s needs above your own, lack of self worth, fear of being alone, fear of rejection, wanting to “fix” the other person, trauma, lack of healthy boundaries, etc.

So firstly, you need to make some ground rules for yourself. Rules such as: not going back to the ex; not answering their calls or messages; deleting pictures and videos; cleaning up your space and removing whatever was theirs - you need to cleanse your physical, mental and emotional spaces.

Then try to figure out in what areas of life you were codependent in, and try to become more independent in those. Some of the ways to overcome this can be building your self esteem, setting healthy boundaries, gaining confidence, working on creating a better version of yourself. perhaps you were more codependent on certain areas of life - such as socialising - than others. Work on those areas that you’re terrified to deal with without your partner.

activities can include making new friends, trying new hobbies, learning new skills such as cooking, deepening existing relationships, meditation, journaling, gratitude journals, etc.