I have a friend who is constantly racked with guilt about being attracted to women since he started transitioning because posts like this have taught him that menâs attention to women is always predatory. I have friends who are cis dudes who feel the same way. I have a transfemme friend who constantly questions whether they are actually just fetishizing women because being âsocialized maleâ means they can never unlearn the predatory nature of their AGAB.
This sort of thinking also trains straight and bi women to expect to get treated like shit by their partners instead of believing that men are compassionate, kind, generous people who should be expected to treat their partners well.
And, not to get all âwhat about cis peopleâ on this but there are young teen boys on this blogging platform who are learning that they are âtrashâ simply for looking at or being attracted to women and there are adult men on this platform who are trying to turn themselves inside out to try to âmake upâ for their maleness and framing men as terrible, unsafe, selfish, bad people is the exact kind of gender essentialist bullshit that says all women are compassionate and good communicators and naturally maternal caregivers.
Itâs crap! Itâs garbage!
You can write off all cops as bad because they all looked at an abusive, corrupt system and went âI want to be a part of that.â
If you write off âmen,â the type category, fifty fucking percentish of the goddamned species, as trash youâre looking at a little boy or a black father or an autistic teen or a gay pensioner or even just a totally run of the mill cis straight white dude and saying âyou were born wrong.â
And you know what, for fucking YEARS Iâve been saying âfeminism benefits men tooâ and âfeminism helps everyoneâ and there has been this loud minority of utter fucking assholes saying that men are trash and thereâs no such thing as misandry and Iâve been trying to say âyeah, okay, those people are assholes but theyâre not really a huge part of the movementâ and but now it seems like their shitty ideas about purity culture have crossed over to the mainstream and their shitty sex negativity has crossed over to the mainstream, and radical feminism in general and TERFs in particular are brimming with misandry that is an exact fucking mirror to the misogyny of blackpilled incels and we are very calmly letting it infect our discourse and discredit our philosophy.
ALSO all of this bullshit broadcasts and spreads the idea that women must always be protected from men (which is exactly how JK Rowling justifies her transmisogyny) which does NOTHING to accomplish the equality that feminism is nominally about.
âMen are trashâ and âkill all men lolâ is a memeified, gender-swapped version of Mike Fucking Pence refusing to meet with women unsupervised because they might contaminate or tempt him.Â
And it *also* paves over the shitty, rapey, abusive, power imbalanced, oppressive things that women do. âIf men are trash and women arenât then clearly the abuse or sexual assault Iâm suffering from my female partner must be *different* in some way because sheâs not harming me through patriarchy or oppression.â
