I feel like People who arent into hdg view it in the perspective that its a non-consent slavery of humanity and the fan-base enforce that view of their rights being taken and losing your agency
while the fan-base consist of people who are unable/unwanting to help themselves into being in a happy or supportive enviroment in their life but the book gives them a world where instead of beating down on their insecurities takes them under their wing and will tell/show you "I care about you and I want to make you happy"
like how in the original book Akash says how "you will not have any secrets" or how they will love them forever. For the large part of the fandom[from my interaction are trans-gals] live in a world where most have to keep that secret cause they know most people's unconditional love does have a condition or else there wouldnt be a need to keep it secret, and affini are being who dont have the same flaws as people do but they tell you that they'll love you in no matter what
also most already feel like they have no agency in their own life but instead of the the things that are controlling them being benevolent they want to squezze every usefull thing out of you and throw you aside