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Hi friend!I’m very sorry to hear about your situation and I hope things get better. My advice is to connect to other queer people online, there a lot of facebook and tumblr groups you can join to talk and vent to people just like you. Another good space for support are mental health helplines, they can talk through your situation and sort something out.I promise talking about it with other people will help heaps

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It is perfectly normal and okay to like a specific sexual thing (as long as no one is being harmed or it is without consent). Liking the feeling of using a dildo does not necessarily mean that you want to have sex with a cis male. It just means that you probably enjoy the feeling of penetration.Sexuality is completely up to you! It’s how you feel that determines if you’re bi or not. 

Hello! Someone who is aromantic and asexual is still totally valid in feeling that want to be in a relationship and be hugged! A relationship does not necessarily have to be romantic or sexual and really just be a special type of friendship or anything that you want it to be. Which includes an asexual and aromantic person being with a sexual and romantic person. Relationships don’t have to be a specific way and it’s up to you and your partner to communicate what it is you want and/or need out of a relationship :)

Asexuality and aromanticism are very varied types of labels that can vary from person to person. But a way you could explain it is that it’s the absence of sexual and romantic attraction.  

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That is perfectly normal my friend. Straight girls may not be a preference for you but may be the more attractive people you’re around so you likely lean towards them. If you’re worried about “conforming” or being seen as straight I completely understand, but if people know you’re pan, dating a straight girl won’t change that, but if it does they’re likely stupid.

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Since you’re romantically attracted to men I would probably say that you’re heteroromantic (romantically attracted to the opposite sex). Also since you say that you’re sex repulsed I would probably say that you’re also asexual.

In terms of being physically attracted to men and some women. There is a difference between thinking someone looks nice and is pretty and being ‘sexually’ attracted to them. For example someone who is straight (and a girl) could recognise that other girls are pretty but not necessarily want to date and have sexual relations with them.

Hello! Bisexuality is attraction to two genders. (In your case it seems men and women).

Bisexuality doesn’t have to a perfect 50/50 attraction to two genders. So you could be 80% into men and 20% into women.

Since you said you were more emotionally attached to women perhaps you could be homosexual (sexually attracted to men) and then biromantic (romantically attracted to two genders (men and women))

Don’t forget that you can have romantic attractions as well and it doesn’t have to exactly align with your sexuality!

Hello! Firstly being bisexual means you are attracted to two (or more) genders. If to you this means you’re attracted to males and females this is fine! 

Secondly someone who is trans is whatever they identify with and not a “trans” version as such. Eg “trans male” is “male”. Don’t forget sexuality is about being attracted to a gender and not a persons genitalia. 

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You could definitely be bisexual, however it sounds like you’re a bit unsure. My best advice to you would be to perhaps look at other sexualities, other types of romantic attraction, and just feel it out. You could figure out whether the same sex attraction you are feeling is sexual, romantic or both and go from there. If you’re unsure now, the best thing you can do (in my non-expert opinion!) is look at different options, and maybe you’ll find a description that suits you, or several, or you might concoct your own, or perhaps you’ll decide to leave it be. Feel absolutely free to message us again if you have further questions or if part of this didn’t make sense!!

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Since you are romantically attracted to two genders (same and opposite) you could say that you’re biromantic. Or even panromantic if your romantic attraction isn’t limited to two genders.

Because you’re sexually into people of the same sex you could be homosexual but then being demisexual towards those of the opposite sex.

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Someone can be physically attracted and able to appreciate how someone looks while still not being romantically or sexually attracted to them. So if you look at guys and go “wow they look super nice” compared to something like “wow I would have sex/date that person”If you have no romantic attraction towards anyone then I would most likely say you’re aromantic from what you’ve said.

If you don’t want to have any urge to have sex or have any sexual attraction to anyone then I would also say you’re asexual (or maybe demisexual?)