For when you need a place to Vent

Everyone is welcome. We are endo-friendly and this is a safe space for anyone who needs it.

i have a lot of plural friends and i care about them obviously but sometimes i just feel so alone. there have been incidents where my friends have said "this sounds vaguely like plurality" but nothing ever comes of it and its so. ughhhh

i just . i wish there was anyone who could understand my life. i wish i wasn't alone. it feels so hopeless

i hope this is ok. i'm sorry

Of course this is okay! Anyone can post here, it's just mainly for plurals of any kind, but singlets are also allowed to vent here.

Hmm, I understand feeling lonely, having sys-mates is a deeply intimate experience, and you'll never find yourself truly alone.

I believe, if you truly would be happier plural, or with head mates, you should look into willowing and see if that's something you'd be comfortable with!

We personally have no experience with creating head mates, but we have heard stories of people creating / willowing head mates and ending up feeling happier in their life after. This is a deeply personal thing so I recommend doing your research and really thinking about it, but it might be helpful to you!

Tho, I'm sure there's someone out there who understands you, feeling hopeless is normal, but I promise you everything will be okay.

Im so sorry you're going through that.

Have you gotten a chance to talk to them about it and ask why? I honestly recommend locking them from front or only giving them supervised fronting time if that's something you're capable of, at least until things are more settled down possibly?

Points of evidence for: before he made it known he didn't want to be known (and we scrapped the project he's technically from) we described him (albeit not naming him because he didn't HAVE a name yet) to someone close to us and his PK icon and reference fits that description To A Tee.

Points of evidence against: nobody's pointed it out yet except for his fellow headmates within the system, and the people we described him to have memory issues and regularly forget some details abt their own OCs, let alone one we brought up a handful of times before dropping.

Personally we're just going to wait and try to sus out further things but it's likely it just won't ever come up unless he freaks himself out enough and crashes out about it

we fell in love with him. we were rejected (and i like to think we took the rejection gracefully!). [s] fell for [p]. [p] avoided front like the plague to avoid rejecting [s] and never fronted again even after coming clean. [w] fell in love with [b]. [w] was too scared to tell [b] and found out later that [b] was aroace from [b]'s sp profile. [r] fell in love with [g]. [r] never said anything.

,,,i don't have a conclusion. it just sucks.

That sucks a lot. I'm sorry.

but she has already called our host “delusional” for being trans so we are very scared . she is a transphobic homophobic trump supporter but she is at least not ableist towards us and we’re trying to hold onto that hope

the most we can do is hint to our symptoms (like telling her “i woke up very confused”, “i did something i don’t remember doing”, etc) but we still don’t even know how to begin talking about her with plurality. she works in the medical field so we are just hoping she’ll question us about it more someday

we have also been trying to get her to take us for a bpd and npd diagnosis but that’s a whole other thing

(Plural / & You)

Please be safe first okay? I'm not sure how old you are, and I know you need support but please try and be careful, if telling her could put you at risk try and keep your safety in mind first, I'm not trying to discourage you but just be safe, okay?

I really hope your guys mother will be accepting, and I'm really hoping she changes her view and becomes more supportive on everything towards y'all.

Oh no, I'm sorry that's happening 🫂

[pt: i have memories i don't think a kid-minded syskid should have formed with]

I’m so fucking tired of it. I’m tired of living in a world where most people don’t even know what a system is, and most of those who do know of plurality know it as DID only, and sometimes only in such an awful light. I’m sick and tired of living in a singlet world.

This really sucks. I hate how many spaces and systems/beings are anti-endo when it makes no logical sense to take that stance.

We've always had trouble discussing big, in-sys events, due to a level of detachment from them even if they happen while we're in front. There's so much we haven't told our partner systems. One of our headmates nearly crackled himself and it's had permanent effects on him and all of it is over something we should've talked to our boyfriend& about MONTHS ago, and we STILL HAVEN'T. We never even told him it happened.

I'm constantly fighting our oldest system admin to just take a fucking break for once. They still won't. I'm semi-regularly fighting one of our older persecutors who refuses to believe they can be redeemed. They're still too afraid to try.

Not to say outerworld has been all too amazing either. We've been out of our usual residence for months (trapped on a laptop with no desk) and our sleep schedule is fucked to some degree and I'm so, so tired I wish we had packed better oh my STARS. Offline outerworld stuff always kind of sucks, though, it's why we're even plural (traumagenic/araisagenic swag, I guess)