still so fucking weird to go from real life, where a cis man being flamboyant/effeminate/camp is judged like 70+% by how he speaks and carries himself, to online queer communities, which often seem to have no concept of male gender non-conformity that doesn’t involve wearing a skirt

i promise you, a man can be fem to the point of being in danger while wearing literally exactly the same thing as a hypermasculine guy. a boring basic black suit. a t shirt and jeans. a UNIFORM. gender conformity is not only about what you wear

None of you have watched that heartbreaking scene in The Birdcage where Albert gives up wearing everything he likes to try and blend in for their son’s conservative prospective in-laws and is so awkward and uncomfortable that no one says much until finally he says, defeated, “I know what you’re thinking - dressed like this, I’m even more obvious, aren’t I?” and it shows.

I cannot begin to describe how hard I cried when I saw this scene the first time and how confused my conservative family was as to why I was crying.

This is why we talk about “toxic masculinity” – the idea that any expression of emotion besides anger or even wearing colorful clothes is non-masculine and therefore restricted is horrifying. It sucks! Men should be allowed to express themselves outside of a tiny box of acceptable behavior, because they’re, y'know, people, and people have a wide range of expression in the way they like to look and move and act. I honestly feel like it’s gotten worse over the last couple decades, too. If you look at men’s fashions from the 70s and even into the 80s, there’s a lot of style choices that look pretty cringe to us, but…. you also see a lot more color and pattern in suits than you do now. I’m not sure when this started to shift, or if it’s tied in to the increasing lack of color in all consumer products, but it sucks.

promise me you'll stay on this site for 10 more years okay?

Beautiful

jokes aside i think it’s amazing and heartwarming to see like 4chan incel bros perform the miracle of crawling out of that hole and becoming real human beings and chronicling their journey to realizing that they can be well adjusted happy normal dudes

Where’s the post about the guy who turned his life around bc of his shrimp? Bc that’s very relevant here

the generational range of star trek is so nuts to me like you have peepaw talking about how captain kirk was his childhood hero back when televisions had a foot long diameter and then you have teens on tumblr making powerpoint presentations about why spock was the patient zero for catboys

@staff @support

all of your feelings are valid as in “worth acknowledgment and internal consideration” but some of your feelings are also stupid and mean, and you need to deal with that shit without making it anyone else’s problem

like we are all beings of light, namaste, but also every single one of us has an ugly, dumb, selfish, lazy goblin living inside of us which can never be silenced or destroyed. and being a decent person means keeping that little fuck in his special little playpen hidden away in your heart, with his colorful enrichment rattles and his favorite pieces of raw meat, where he can pipe up with his wretched little opinions and you can nod sagaciously at him and pat him on the head and tell him you understand why he feels that way and never, ever let anybody else get their feelings hurt by him, because he sucks shit and nothing he has to say is worthy of notice by anyone but you. you should pay attention to him, but only because it’s important to understand your own worst impulses, and because trying to ignore him will make him break down a wall and run out into the street where he can show passerbys his privates and eat cigarette butts right off the ground. your goblin is valid: that doesn’t mean he’s fit for company.

i think landlady is right, i would be angry if someone was displaying just a painted version of a photo i took of my pets in a gallery without telling me he had even used the photo, i would think it was creepy, but i also think that even if she wasn’t right the way y’all are talking to her, demanding she speak to you in english and act just like you’d expect someone from the states or whatever to act, deriding her when she points this out, dismissing her explicit statement that her opinion was formed by the cultural norms she lives in while expecting her to conform to your cultural norms, treating her like she can’t understand what you’re saying just because she speaks english as her second language, it’s vile and it’s racist and it’s so clear that none of y’all actually give a shit about ~ip law~ or whatever (which she also said it’s not about that, it’s just about the rudeness of the act) you just want to be racist free of charge

oh boy, I bet there's a lot of people in these notes talking about how much they love doughnuts

My aesthetic: when you take off your glasses on a highway and all the lights go soft and smudged, a trail of amber behind you like a quiet afterthought

My aesthetic: keeping my own glasses on so I can see the road and not die

Im so sorry youve been trapped in the passenger seat all these years Yellow.

GOD PLEASE LET ME OUT I MISS MY FAMILY