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Boundary-setting sentences:

I can’t do that, but I can help you find someone who can

I appreciate the gesture, but in the future, I’d prefer…

I can’t take on additional responsibilities right now

I’m not comfortable discussing this topic with you

I’m uncomfortable with what you just said/did

Thanks for your concern, but I can handle this

I can’t attend, but I appreciate the invitation

I don’t give you permission to do X to me

I can’t do X, but I’m open to trying Y

I don’t feel safe so I’m going to leave

I won’t be spoken to in that manner

I’m allowed to change my mind

Thanks, but I’m not interested

I wish I could, but I can’t

No, thank you

No

Now take this logic and apply it to things like ADHD, autism, clinical depression, and other less visible/divergent disabilities. You cannot think your way out of feeling.

Waterloo I was defeated, you won the war Waterloo Promise to love you forever more

Gandalf discovering hobbits

if you happen to be reading this, i just wanted to say some things coming from someone who knows what it’s like to fall asleep in tears.

you are not a burden or a mistake or a problem. you are a person with feelings and talents and potential. you deserve happiness even when you feel you don’t, and you deserve a future even when you’re stuck in your past.

life isn’t all about finding the one or succeeding perfectly. life is about finding your happiness and wellbeing in a world that gives you chaos. in that chaos you might cry yourself to sleep, might stay in bed for a day only getting up to use the bathroom, might mean shutting out the world out of frustration, might mean saying “fine. bye.” when you really just want them to stay. but you have tomorrow. and i hope tomorrow brings you at least one, real, beautiful smile.

Women with big laughs, big smiles, big voices, big bodies, and even bigger personalities to match. Women that don’t care if they take up space with long strides and sit with their legs miles apart.