The sound of life

I'm not going anywhere but I have zero tolerance for this horrible, creepy, entitlement that's been steadily growing in this community. It desperately needs to stop.

They take advantage of the fact that most women are conditioned to not cause a fuss and turning a blind eye.

Do not turn a blind eye.

Don't soften your language because this community is niche.

Call it out as it as.

Screenshot, report, block and start naming names.

I've turned anon off for the foreseeable future for this reason. Any asks that are anonymous after this point were received before the change.

@alexsa28 also reposts stolen content under private accounts with no credit given.

I seem to have confused everyone the first time i tried to say this.

You all keep complaining about why all these girls deactivate then stop trying to steal shit thats ALREADY FREE.

I've been apart of this beloved community for a while now, and not a day goes by where I'm not grateful to have met everyone. Unfortunately, there are also a number of users who have left for reasons unknown in the past, but a number of them are due to discomfort being felt from the responses, reactions and interactions from and by male users, especially, who lack consideration and even the concept of consent.

With this dishonor driving users away and sometimes causing female users to feel misandry based on their own experiences in the community and online elsewhere, I wanted to make a request and once again try and help present and future female users feel more safe and powerful to push the inconsiderate and the disrespectful back, especially because there really are a lot of female users on here, including ace users, who have remained strong and active for as long as they have without needing or feeling the need to quit for good, or come back much later with a chance of deciding to leave again.

I wanted to know if any female users active today would be willing to make a list or something that will give advice to present and future users to help them power through and find some stability and comfort in their place in the community, without fear or concern. I know there's diversity in this community, too, pertaining to sexuality and gender, and to those who fall under such identifications, most notable that of asexuality - as this community has a big ace following - and being a lesbian user, your input would be just as vital - if not more so - for my request of sharing advice with the wider community.

Thanks for reading in, and thank you to those who decide to give my idea a shot. If we need a way to make this community safer for everyone, we should try the concept of uniting.

You may feel bad because it's a niche community but don't:

You don't have to give a reason

You don't owe them anything

You have the content they want

You're the one in control

I dealt with a lot of people who completely ignored my boundaries in the beginning. Ignoring my asexuality and sending inappropriate, sexually-charged asks, one even following up along the lines of "i know it's bad so you can't be mad at me." Like, if you know it's bad then why send it to me?

It's entitlement. Straight up entitlement of, predominantly male, cardiophiles who believe that they are owed content because of how niche the kink actually is. Hilariously enough, they usually have super strict boundaries (regarding their sexuality) that they demand be respected and yet trample all over the boundaries of others'.

It wasn't until I made it painstakingly clear that I will block any and all bad actors with no second chances did they stop. The threat of being cut off from the content they want is usually enough for them to pack it in. Sucks that I have to do that but people seem to forget that I make this content for me primarily and no one is going to take away my agency in how I relieve stress.

If others enjoy the content I make, then yay! But I'm not a content farm and I'm glad to have reached a point where everyone is respectful of the boundaries I've set.

However, it is super hard and I don't blame anyone for leaving -- Be it temporary or permanently.

Do what is right for your own mental health; be it turning off DMs/anon asks, blocking people or leaving.

If you recognize this video and OP, please see the following. For the record, I am not said OP.

Let me preface this by saying that I accept almost all heart and heart fetish related material on my blog. This is my secret hideaway that’s full of things that are creepy and weird and messy and you can generally say what you want. If you get off to my material, awesome. I’m doing it right. THIS guide is for, say…. Skype. HBP. Other Tumblrs that are more innocent, and fluffy, and cute, etc.

This is a guide for private messages and so on and so forth. It’s pretty simple though. You should know what appropriate behavior is. But if cardiophile girls seem to block you for “no reason”, or you think they’re “overrreacting”, you should probably read all of it.

Because let me tell you buddy, people have some boundary issues. If you want a TL;DR….

Cardiophile girls are real people, not just their hearts.

Im sorry… I really will never posting anything like that for safety reasons. I don’t want to end up deactivating cuz anxiety eating me alive for seeing other re upload my content in different platforms…

Disturbing and inappropriate DMs, stolen videos and photos, posting Tumblr videos on adult sites... this has to stop. Nobody wants to see @lilithhb account deactivated like other accounts that were great but deactivated because of people like that

Yiksheng yau, I know you're here, I've reported you to YouTube and I'm completely disappointed in the people on Tumblr.

It seems that adding watermarks to my videos doesn't reduce the chances of my videos being stolen to other platforms, so I'm going to stop and never make videos again.

I'm asking you all again, my followers who have loved and shared my videos, please delete the videos you've shared. And please help me report this channel on YouTube. I really don't want my colleagues, siblings, or even my parents to find this content. I'm feeling extremely distressed

Il mio cuore è alterato da quello che vedo: un’altra volta una donna non viene rispettata nella sua privacy e nelle sue scelte. Non una figura qualunque, una cardiofila che ha un impatto forte nella community e che ha fatto sognare moltissimi di noi con i suoi contenuti sempre eleganti e da cardiopalma. Non una donna qualsiasi, una persona che aveva già sofferto il tradimento da parte di alcuni utenti ma che ha voluto riprovarci. Il risultato è stato quello di ritrovarsi di nuovo presa di mira e screditata senza pietà. Ognuno qui dentro è responsabile di quello che avviene nel nostro cerchio. Una community è fatta di persone, e se foste veri cardiofili avreste ben presente cosa significa patire il disagio e la folle paura di essere scoperti. Noi siamo stati emarginati tutta la vita da un mondo che nemmeno sa che esistiamo. Ci escludiamo da soli perché nel nostro cuore siamo coscienti che nessuno capirebbe la nostra sensibilità. Quindi, per favore, almeno fra noi alziamo la voce quando vediamo che qualcuno è vittima di gesti irresponsabili e vili come quello di rubare i contenuti e svenderli senza nessun titolo per farlo. Quello che è successo è vergognoso: oggi è toccato ad Amber, facciamo in modo che non succeda a qualcun altro domani.

My heart is deeply shaken by what I’m seeing: once again, a woman is not being respected in her privacy or in her choices. Not just anyone—a cardio enthusiast who has had a powerful impact on this community, someone who has made so many of us dream through her elegant, heart-racing content. Not just any woman, but someone who had already experienced betrayal from certain users and still chose to try again. And the result? She has been targeted and discredited once more, without mercy. Every single one of us is responsible for what happens within our circle. A community is made of people, and if you were truly part of this world, you would understand what it means to live with discomfort and the overwhelming fear of being exposed. Many of us have felt excluded our entire lives by a world that doesn’t even know we exist. We end up excluding ourselves, because deep down we believe no one would truly understand our sensitivity. So please—at the very least, among ourselves—let’s speak up when we see someone becoming the victim of irresponsible and cowardly actions, like stealing content and exploiting it without any right to do so. What happened is shameful. Today it was Amber—let’s make sure it doesn’t happen to someone else tomorrow.