āHe/Him Lesbianā is not an identity.
āLesbianā is a term used for a woman attracted to another woman. That being a cis woman, a trans woman, or a nonbinary female-aligned person.Ā
āHe/himā are pronouns directly linked to males. He/him pronouns are used for people who identify, in some way, as male. Cis men, trans men, and nonbinary male-aligned people most likely use he/him pronouns.
Pronouns are stillĀ important in relation to gender. You canāt identify as female but go by he/him pronouns. You also canāt identify as male but go by she/her pronouns. It doesnāt work that way.Ā
Identifying as a lesbian but going by he/him pronouns is transphobic, even if you arenāt intending to be transphobic. Claiming youāre aĀ āhe/him lesbianā but using he/him pronouns enforces the narrative that trans men are stillĀ āfemaleā, since lesbians are femaleĀ and he/him pronouns are male.
In conclusion: he/him lesbianism is a huge juxtaposition and is not an identity.
However, there are other potential identities you could go by.
You could, in fact, be a straight trans man. That means you are a trans man attracted to women, cis or trans. This does not mean you arenāt part of the LGBT community. Itās okay to be a straight trans man. Youāre valid.
Alternatively, if you do identify as female, you can be a butch lesbian. Iām not too educated enough on the topic of the femme-butch lesbian scale, but I strongly advise looking into it.
Finally, itās also possible you could be bigender or genderfluid, or maybe even demi-girl. If that is the case, you should take the time to look into these identities, too.
I hope this helps shed some light on the situation.
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