Queen SG

It’s being able to generously share without needing anything in return.

It’s about giving and being thankful for being the hand that gives.

Not only to god but giving and thanking the person that received from you. 

Because while you give they can refuse to accept. It happens sometimes. 

We give compliments and the receiving person brushes them away.

What happens then? 

There’s a mixture of sadness and incomprehension.

But we didn’t feel uplifted, instead we tend to take it as a rejection of our thoughts and good intentions.

But when someone receives what we give them, doesn’t this feel so good?

Having more than enough is essentially what we humans should aspire for.

In every aspect or in as many aspects of our lives.

Wanting more for the sake of hoarding and holding for ourselves. Wanting things for us and not for others.

That’s what greed essentially is.

But when your desire comes from a place of wanting to be a super flow of abundance, receiving it, thankfully rejoicing in it, and spreading it, this is generosity.

This is what lifts up entire societies. 

So forget about having just enough for yourself. Why?

Because when you’re wanting to be generous when your needs are barely met, you take away from yourself and you, my dear, should have all of your needs fulfilled because that is your birthright.

When you’re receiving what you need, it increases your feelings of gratitude.

That’s from that place that God wants you to live.

That’s where you praise him for his bounty on you. 

That is worship.

And the more you receive, the more you worship, the more you elevate yourself and others around.

Another reason why “just enough to get by” is good enough is that when you give what you don’t have, it creates a sense of expectations towards the ones you give to. 

You expect them to be thankful towards you, to owe you something, or to love you for helping them out.

The truth is that it’s in human nature to be ungrateful.

And this tarnishes your personal relationships. It also lowers your “good intentions” to give.

If you expect something in return, even just as little as a “thank you” of acknowledgment, a good intention isn’t the real reason behind your giving.

Of course a thank you of politeness is always appreciated and humans are better when they are thankful towards others and especially towards God.

However, the giving hand is the upper one and should be thankful towards the receiving hand and towards God.

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Or are you getting these feelings though watching others experience them?

Just because you keep thinking “I’m too old to xyz” or it’s too late for me to xyz or it’s easier for them because of xyz

I have to admit that I have lived a biggest part of my life just to please my mother. Prove her that I could accomplish things and all I wanted was her approval and love. 

All I wanted was to hear her say I’m proud of you 

Now looking back after waking up to this , though it took me having to reach a burnout, when I asked myself, if it weren’t for this, would I ever had gone through chasing all these goals?

Would I have even wanted to be at the top?

If I was brought up thinking that just being me was enough to receive love, attention and respect, would I have chased all of this?

The answer was a plain no...

And right there my entire life felt like a lie. I wasn’t doing all those things for the reasons I had thought...

Deep down all along, what my heart kept telling me was, I want to be a writer. Even though for someone creative like me there’s hundreds of things we can excel at, all I ever wanted was to live in a nice secluded place and spend my days writing. Releasing books. Imagining stories or creating powerful self help books that would serve as my legacy.

Attending events where intellectual conversations would be exchanged.

When you put any kind of pressure over someone else over what they should do with their lives, you rob them.

You rob them from becoming who God wants them to become. You rob them from allowing them to impact their surroundings with their natural genius. 

You derail them from their path. You break off the strength and alignment with their inner intuition.

You put yourself between them and God.

I get it as a parent or someone who just cares, you want what’s best for them. 

You’re certain that you know what is best for them because you’re older and have life experience they don’t.

But do you know better than God himself? 

Will you ever, could you ever?

Offering guidance yes, pressuring no

Advice should only be taken from the ones who have the life you want to have. 

“But how can you expect a man to pay for all the bills in this world we live in?”

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The truth is, we live in an era that has the most millionaires than ever before. The internet allows ANYONE to make a ridiculous amount of money from their home. This is a reality that we are facing. It’s not a myth. Nor a lie. It’s a FACT.

I think that a whole lot comes down to a few things, Lack of beliefs in possibilities, Still living in the 90′s paradigms, Laziness, and stinginess due to scarcity. Fear.

So please never be fooled into buying into this lie.

Does this means all men should be millionaires?

No but that show that there’s no shortage of money only shortages in mind expansion.

Men aren’t built equally in this world, and the ones who understand their masculine essence and roles DO exist.

So why is it that you don’t really hear or see them around?

Making a living keeps a man busy doing so. That’s why. They are NOT around, telling women how to be women.

They are not around trying to get you to lower your standards to get you to provide wife favors for minimum efforts in returns.

Because quality men EXPECT you to have high standards so they can take on a challenge and rise to the expectations. 👉🏽Earn their Trophy 🏆.

That’s based on this that they will earn the privilege of your attention and company and that’s what makes them respect you.

There’s also a subconscious feeling and need to reward you for making them aspire to become a better person by providing for your needs.

Making you happy makes them happy. 🎯

Therefore, if there’s ANYONE around you (starting with you) trying to make you believe that you can’t have a man in your life that will provide ALL the things you need and more, they are lying to you. They’re also lying to themselves.

They are projecting their lack of faith and scarcity mindset on you. Lack of anything doesn’t come from God. Lack results in fear, anger, stress, again NOT from God.

If that person is yourself, go back reading these last few lines.

It will benefit your life in many ways. Such as creating a better sense of self-love, deep desires and body need for fulfillment. Helping you self generate the love and attention you crave the most. Then any love and attention brought by external sources will be a great addition to complete on what you already have. From self-love comes self-confidence. And strength. And who doesn’t want all that?

The female energy is absolutely all about slowing down and feeling our emotions. But not only that, feeling our surroundings. Feeling the food we eat. Feeling the clothing we wear. Feeling the touches we receive, the hugs we give to others and to ourselves.

Pause, receive, accept, and feel. Letting the sensations sink into our soul. Enjoyment. Savoring every single bit of the moment and wrapping ourselves into it.

In our modern society, we also tend to confuse this with mindfulness. But to me, a sensual lifestyle goes deeper; because it’s not just about observing things around you. It truly is about letting the sensations run throughout your body and enjoy them.

Nowadays, We’re all SO focused on being productive and hyper-efficient. We’re obsessed with time management, never-ending to-do lists, and multi-tasking. This comes from a very masculine driven energy and functioning.

Us women need to feel. Not only emotionally speaking. But awaking all of our senses. Our main sense is touching and we are severely deprived of it.

How much of you right about now feels the craving to be in nature and taking a moment for yourself away from any cares and duties?

The more civilization has “progressed” the less we spent time outdoors. And ironically the more businesses popped up to sell us a plethora of plants and flowers. With the idea to bring nature indoors.

The reason why we crave for natural surroundings is because of our deepest need and desire to FEEL our surroundings and allow its purest energy to fill us up completely into peacefulness.

Not only that but our creator made us from dust. It’s your nature craving for its natural habitat.

I mentioned the words “slowing down “ and that’s one way to start transforming your lifestyle into a sensual one.

I know you’re told to keep working your way up against the clock and one way to facilitate this is to time block for your time to slow things down.

Whatever you may choose to do during this time frame. Even if it’s working on creating anything. Because yes you CAN still be productive while slowing down.

Your idea of slowing down could be soaking yourself into a hot bubble bath. Whatever it is, it should be about what your body needs.

So tune inwards and ask yourself “what do I need right now?”

Another way is to allow yourself to choose clothing that makes you feel like you’re laying down on a cloud. The materials of your clothing are the main thing you feel all day long.

Chose them carefully, whether you prefer fresh cotton, velvet, silky materials or lace details. Let yourself enjoy the feeling of the texture of what you wear, every day.

Another way is to choose a body cream that smells divinely with a texture that you prefer. Apply it on your skin daily.

When you’re on the run, you can apply your favorite hand cream. Give yourself a mini massage from the tip of your fingers to your wrists. I used to do this religiously during my lunch breaks when I was working in an office. This would immediately relax me out of the job stresses. And would mentally mark my “personal time” even when I was at work.

Movements. Slow Movements…

The next way I want to cover is to move your body slowly. If you’re into Yoga, you already know this. If you’re not, then slow body stretches with deep breathing will do the trick for you. Moving your body will release tensions and energies that are locked into your muscles due to stress.

So moving your body will ease up the tensions and help you feel into your body.

Dancing is another way to release sensuality. There are many different dances that will help you feel sensuality in your body. The part that needs to move the most is your hip area. This is the part where your womb is and the home of your sensuality and female energy. Belly dancing and bachata have this mesmerizing effect on people because of the way their movements release the feminine energy at its purest and most intense forms.

Next up, spray your favorite perfumes and scents on and around you. Aromatherapy has proven itself a long time ago. Slowing down and allowing yourself to live in a bubble of scents that are unique to your taste will awaken your sense of smell and relax you. Helping you slow down and give yourself into the moment. Closing your eyes and focusing on what you smell. Breathing it in deeply and savouring its benefits.

The main aim of living sensually is to awaken yourself. Remember not everyone who’s living is actually alive.

The masculine energy is beautiful because it helps us make things happen, stay sharper and provide for ourselves when it’s necessary. However, when us, women stay more on our masculine sides, it numbs our feelings.

We lose touch of who we are and how we really feel. This imbalance in energies forces us to live and act in ways that aren’t natural for us; which leads to either depression or anxiety.

This is mainly caused by the misalignment between who our bodies and souls need us to be and who we’re told or force ourselves to be.

The spiritual path to your success:

A sensual lifestyle helps you to get acquainted with your soul on the deepest levels. Developing your intuition and channel your connection with your creator. Though sensuality, you get guidance from him directly to lead you in your life.

You will find many more details and simple steps to activate your feminine sensuality in my upcoming eBook The Femme Trophy. It’s a straightforward guide that encourages women to refine their style and lifestyle to be more feminine and become the best version of themselves.

The art of feminine essence and elegance. Learning to be a woman in a man’s world. Coming up soon.

.Then the world and the people around you feel it too.So much so that:

They wanna follow you

They like you better

They listen to what you have to say

They ask for your opinions and advice

They want to associate themselves with you

They want to learn from you

They help and open doors for you.And that’s just the beginning of your new and improved life experience.

It’s not much of a secret, in order to become a match for what you want in life you have to “be it” in order to “get it”.An improved personal style is literally you wearing your life goals and being that higher version of you.