Getting There

you can start anytime.

You can lay on top of the blankets. You can lay under the bed sheets directly on the mattress. You can sit in the shower. You can put your hair up and wash your body, or you can sit on a chair beside and just wash your hair. And for that matter— you can bring a chair into the bathroom. You can go in to wash yourself waist down only and get out right after. You can go to bed in a coat. You can lie on the floor. You can just sweep the floor— no need to mop if you cannot.

i clean the bathroom in stages. one day ill do the sink. the other, the toilet. ill spray down the shower in the morning and then scrub it in the evening and wash myself right after. you do not have to do it all at once.

the concept and idea of “you can always start trying to be a better person” is extremely important to me both in media and irl and i continue to be deeply deeply disturbed by the trend on this site pushing that these ideas in media are bad writing or even morally reprehensible

What is the most important step a man can take?

I think part of the pushback about this is the idea that, to “redeem” bad people, their victims must first forgive them for unforgivable acts.

“I am learning that the difference between a garden and a graveyard is only what you choose to put in the ground.”

“the sun is inside me and so are the flowers that bloom with happiness, intention, and grace. the sun is inside me along with the birds praising the sky for the light it has been blessed with. the sun is inside me and also the rainbow when i see the world with freedom shining across my face. the sun is inside me and also the sea of love that’s within me and the earth can’t help but kiss the joy of my feet.”