Polyamorous Heathen

I am Polyamorous Heathen. The Demon King of this chaotic, loving, gremlin-infested kingdom on FB where we have 60k followers. Your resident relationship anarchist, polyam educator, streamer, and meme sorcerer who somehow mixes wholesome support with unhinged feral energy. I talk about love, autonomy, boundaries, mental health, kink, and why ownership has no place in relationships.

I create TikToks, Reels, and Shorts that blend humor, education, polyam hot takes, and a little bit of chaos. Sometimes you get a lesson on consent, sometimes you get me bullying mononormativity, and sometimes you get a thirst trap that derails your entire day. Balance.

I also game. A lot. RPGs, story driven adventures, chaotic shooters, and anything that lets me embrace my inner villain or hero. I stream just chatting chaos, dumb jokes, heartfelt conversations, and the occasional existential crisis while getting my ass kicked in whatever I am playing.

I built a community that thrives on honesty, humor, and freedom. A place where we talk real, love loud, uplift each other, and shut down TRASH behavior instantly. If you want connection without chains, education with spice, or memes that hit a little too close to home, you are in the right place.

If you love: • Polyamory that is ethical, nuanced, and fully explained • Body positivity and kink education • Nerd culture, anime, and gaming chaos • TikToks, Reels, Shorts, and stream clips that make you laugh or think • A community that actually gives a damn

As a polyam creator, I talk about unicorn hunting a lot and the amount of comments that flood in of people defending unicorn hunting is absolutely ridiculous af. Like here is just SOME of the comments I have gotten:

Well, let's start with most groups and organizations ostracize a couple if either one of them says "unicorn", regardless of context.

There are gross people in poly does that mean all poly is bad? No of course not. This is just weird that a group supposedly based on acceptance makes posts like this. Even when the unicorns come out and tell you they LIKE being hunted. Just like everything else, if it doesn't work for you that's fine. But that doesn't make it wrong fort everyone.

Ya know the division to make couples look bad is crazy to me in this lifestyle !!! Like yeah when me and my wife got together we was monogamous and a crazy situation that put us into our first “ 3way” changed everything for us. We read up on all things polyam, learned to drop toxic traits and have been really successful in maintaining a thruple so I mean I don’t get the hate !!! It has to be ethical and open communication is the only way … not cool tho dude not nice to take jabs at others

Anon Questions and Answers!

Wanna ask me a question: https://tellonym.me/polyamheathen

Yes, I’m polyamorous. No, it’s not just a sex thing. If that’s all you think it is… that says more about you than me.

Yes, I’m still a whole human being with a full range of emotions. That includes joy, love, connection… and yeah, sometimes jealousy too.

No, it’s not cheating. Cheating requires lying. Polyamory requires honesty. Learn the difference.

No, I don’t have a “favorite.” Different people, different connections, different dynamics. It’s not a competition.

No, I’m not trying to date you AND your partner as a package deal. And no, I’m not automatically interested just because I’m poly. Relax.

Yes, I believe someone can love more than one person. Not halfway. Not diluted. Fully.

Yes, it requires communication, boundaries, and emotional intelligence. More than most people are used to, actually.

No, it’s not for everyone. And that’s okay. What’s not okay is projecting your discomfort onto others.

No, you don’t have to understand it to respect it.

Yes, people do this ethically, consensually, and happily every day.

And yes…

I’m still going to exist whether you “agree” with it or not.

Yes.

I want polyamorous representation in media that is not a punchline, a cheating subplot, or a dramatic love triangle. I want stories where ethical non monogamy is shown for what it actually is. Consent based. Autonomy driven. Built on communication, boundaries, and emotional intelligence.

Most people still think polyamory is chaos or deception because the only time they see it on screen is when a writer needs conflict. Instead of showing real polyamory with honest conversations, relationship models that actually exist, and characters who navigate jealousy in healthy ways, we get triangles and cheating arcs that have nothing to do with ethical non monogamy.

I want characters who practice Relationship Anarchy or polyfidelity. I want media that understands what a polycule is. I want metamour relationships shown as supportive instead of hostile. I want consent and collaboration normalized. I want the same depth and nuance that monogamous relationships have been given for decades.

Representation shapes understanding. And right now, people only know the stereotypes media keeps feeding them. Imagine how many folks would feel seen, validated, or simply less confused if they saw polyamory done right on screen. Imagine how many damaging assumptions would disappear if writers actually researched ethical frameworks, listened to polyam creators, or reflected real experiences instead of tropes built on fear and misunderstanding.