i think i'm in like with you

if a dom calls you “my sweet boy,” they’re full of barely contained lust and want to do insane things to you btw

I think people forget that having sex + staying friends can still be healthy and loving???

Stomach hair and gay sex never die forever

whenever i see a post about someone wondering how an  asexual and a sexual can be in a healthy relationship there’s always someone being applauded for saying well asexuals can have sex too or just because someone’s asexual doesn’t mean they won’t have sex but i have never, not once, EVER seen someone say well hey, some sexuals don’t have sex. you can have a full relationship without sex. just throwing it out there

Everyone in the notes saying polyamory and open relationships are great fixes for this too are missing the point. Ace people can have sex—and, yes, some enjoy sex. Yes, open relationships can be loving and healthy for ace people too. But ultimately you’re saying asexuality needs to be fixed by access to sex somehow. To quote op ‘you can have a full relationship without sex’. Your suggestion to find sex outside of the relationship with an ace partner completely misses that point.

btw not all affectionate friendships are queerplatonic. platonic is not the same as queerplatonic. you can have a good friendship with someone and even cuddle and kiss and get married and have a child together and it can still be platonic (as in neither queerplatonic nor romantic). let people love deeply without requiring them to make it about partnership

aro people listen to me. be in as many relationships as you want but never compromise. don’t call it romantic if you don’t want to. it can be different for you than it is for the other person. you can be in a relationship and not call it “dating”. you can be in a relationship and not call it queerplatonic either. the right people aren’t going to be asking you to fit in a box they are going to want to be with (in whatever capacity you decide is fitting) the person you are

its like [puts down mug] its like aromanticism is the lens for everything else i experience, theres no sexual attraction without the presence of my aromanticism, even if the absence of romance shifts that to the left just a little bit, it warps and bends the way i interact with concepts of aestheticism and platoncism too, shifts the way i walk through this world, the greens and golds and blues and browns are a part of me as much as my very bones are, ya know, its an absence that wreaks havoc upon every other aspect of myself in the best, and sometimes worst, ways possible— but hey just call me aro, we dont gotta worry about all the intricacies of the way that the weight of it all is heavier some days more than others

the most attractive thing a man can do is have autism and be transgender I’m sorry I don’t make the rules

dreaming of a world in which people know about aromanticism. And by "know" I don't mean "having a vague idea of it's existence", I mean know. I mean a world where an in depth article discussing people's choice to stay single will include an aromantic perspective. I mean a world where people have an understanding of why love, as an emotion, is detached from morality. A world where people will ask you "what kind of relationships do you want in your life?" instead of asking "do you have a boyfriend?". I dream of a world where aromantic people can exist without the constant underlying expectation of being dehumanized, erased and belittled by an unexpected, unassuming comment. I try to create a microcosm of this world around me. I hope it will be easier one day.

i think love is stored in nighttime conversations and “did you eat yet” and books left outside your door and “i waited to watch this with you” and splitting something in half to share and “im proud of you” and folded towels and “you can pick” and heads on shoulders and “you’re right, that was shitty. im sorry” and knocks on doors and “DINNER!” and stupid jokes and “hey i got this for you” and coffee made just right and… there are so many ways people say i love you silently every day over and over again if you only listen

aaaaaaaarrrrrGGHHHHHHH KISSING IS SO BEAUTIFUL IT’S SHARING THE VERY AIR IN YOUR LUNGS WITH SOMEONE ELSE. LIKE HERE’S THE THING THAT GIVES ME LIFE TAKE IT IT’S YOURS

I think a lot of aphobic/arophobic comments like, “you’ll find the right person someday” comes from the allo person’s insecurity about their own fear of being alone. They think just because they’re afraid of spending their lives without that kind of love, they think everyone else is, too.