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- Brooklyn Nine-Nine: includes a possibly bisexual main character, several badass Latina women, one who is canonically bi, a gay black captain, and a black sergeant that tackles police brutality and corruption. Tackles racism, addiction, and homophobia and shows both healthy Male and female friendships where they show each other how much they love and care about each other with no toxic masculinity/pointless girl on girl hate. Has amazing cold opens and jokes throughout

- Lucifer: includes a pan main who isn’t ashamed of his sexuality, a single mother, a pan South African woman, a genius Hispanic girl with insecurity issues and mental illnesses, and a black guy. Mostly about family, both blood and chosen, how families aren’t always perfect and how hard it can be to get over people’s preconceptions about you. Also shows police corruption but is still quite light hearted

- Wayward Sisters: includes a widowed single adoptive mother, a divorced woman who would have also acted as a mother, a teen girl most likely with Stockholm’s syndrome, an orphan who watched her father leave her and mother die (I think), a black girl whose father practically disowned her for accepting that she’s psychic, and a Hispanic (edit: Native American) girl with mental illnesses who struggled with addiction. Hinted at a wlw subplot and seemed to be actually willing to go down that route. Showed how people grieve over the people they care about and that it’s good and healthy

Good morning! I’m salty.

I think we, as a general community, need to start taking this little moment more seriously.

This, right here? This is asking for consent. It’s a legal necessity, yes, but it is also you, the reader, actively consenting to see adult content; and in doing so, saying that you are of an age to see it, and that you’re emotionally capable of handling it.

You find the content you find behind this warning disgusting, horrifying, upsetting, triggering? You consented. You said you could handle it, and you were able to back out at any time. You take responsibility for yourself when you click through this, and so long as the creator used warnings and tags correctly, you bear full responsibility for its impact on you.

“Children are going to lie about their age” is probably true, but that’s the problem of them and the people who are responsible for them, not the people that they lie to.

the next Pharaoh after her Tuthmosis III  tried to erase Hatshepsut out of history ,chiseled her name off her monuments ,covered the text on her obelisks with stone,knocked down and defaced her statues .

she was even left off the list of pharaohs ..talk about some patriarchy bullshit

her name was lost for a couple of millennia, her body was found in a unmarked grave  in early twentieth century

“That’s Wakiesha,” [Sheila] Hines-Brim said as she walked away.

“That’s Wakiesha!” she said again, her voice louder. “She’s going to stay with you!”

[….]

Hines-Brim and another woman, Melina Abdullah, were booked on suspicion of battery on a police officer. The agency said Abdullah, a Black Lives Matter activist and a professor at California State University at Los Angeles, assaulted an officer before the meeting room was cleared.

Abdullah said she and Hines-Brim were falsely arrested. Gina Viola, who said she was at the meeting and was standing next to Abdullah, said Abdullah never touched an officer and was forcibly taken away.

The women were later released, Abdullah tweeted Tuesday night.

I am going to leave emotions out of this, and try to keep it only to facts.

This is why, objectively, John Winchester should not be forgiven.

In episode 1.18 (Something Wicked), Dean is about nine or ten years old. Sam and Dean are left in a hotel room with no adult supervision, inadequate food, and a shotgun. They are told not to leave the room while John is hunting.

In episode 4.13, (After School Special), Dean is about seventeen years old. Sam and Dean are left in a hotel room by themselves for a month, again without adult supervision. They attend school during that time. 

This is child neglect/abandonment. This is not arguable. Please please read these links, not just because of Supernatural, but for real life situations as well.

Child neglect is a form of child abuse. Which means John was a child abuser. This is also not arguable.

I don’t personally agree with the theory that John physically assaulted his children, but the notion that only physical abuse is “true abuse” is problematic and wrong.

Here are also some signs of emotional abuse:

Ignoring. Either physically or psychologically, the parent or caregiver is not present to respond to the child. He or she may not look at the child and may not call the child by name.

Rejecting. This is an active refusal to respond to a child’s needs (e.g., refusing to touch a child, denying the needs of a child, ridiculing a child).

Isolating. The parent or caregiver consistently prevents the child from having normal social interactions with peers, family members and adults. This also may include confining the child or limiting the child’s freedom of movement.

Exploiting or corrupting. In this kind of abuse, a child is taught, encouraged or forced to develop inappropriate or illegal behaviors (HAHAHAHAHA). It may involve self-destructive or antisocial acts of the parent or caregiver, such as teaching a child how to steal or forcing a child into prostitution.

Verbally assaulting. This involves constantly belittling, shaming, ridiculing or verbally threatening the child.

Terrorizing. Here, the parent or caregiver threatens or bullies the child and creates a climate of fear for the child. Terrorizing can include placing the child or the child’s loved one (such as a sibling, pet or toy) in a dangerous or chaotic situation, or placing rigid or unrealistic expectations on the child with threats of harm if they are not met.

This is in no way a comprehensive view of the extent of John’s emotional abuse. I am not a specialist. But it’s difficult to deny that some of these hit scarily close to home.

Here are some of the most common arguments used to defend John:

1. He did his best.

Legally speaking, John’s children should definitely have been taken away from him. Making a tiny little boy raise his brother alone is not an acceptable definition of “doing his best”. Upon realizing that he was incapable of sticking around, he could have made the decision to find someone else to be their permanent guardian. He could also have made his kids’ upbringing his first priority, rather than hunting. He did neither of these things.

2. He had PTSD, was possibly an alcoholic, might have been depressed, and harboured abandonment issues of his own. It wasn’t his fault.

Abusive parents often have extenuating reasons for not being able to properly care for their child. Addiction is often cited as an example. This does not lessen John’s responsibility as a father, nor does it mean that he is not a child abuser.

3. He was a hero. He had to save people.

See number one.

4. Sam and Dean needed to know how to defend themselves.

This does not explain the abandonment, the poor food supply, the uneven school attendance, and lack of a stable home. This also assumes that being able to “defend themselves” is more important than not being abused. I would argue otherwise, especially since John’s line of work puts his boys in more danger than normal.

5. He loved Sam and Dean. Sam and Dean loved him.

…So?

Look, I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. Love is meaningless. Of course abusers love their children. My dad loves me, probably. People who kick their toddlers while they're drunk and wake up all regretful in the morning love their children. People who drown their kids in their bathtub love their fucking children. Love is meaningless. Love is not a good thing. The idea that abusers don’t love their children is very very dangerous. Abusers aren’t monsters. They’re just people, and normal people are way scarier anyway. No matter how much a fraction of this fandom tries to demonize him, John wasn’t a monster. Dehumanizing him makes it easier to deal with his actions, but it also goes against canon.

@lunellumcas asked:

Hey so I was sneak-reading through your entire blog like the huge fan of you that I am and I saw you talking about how you see Dean as embodying traits/coping mechanisms etc. of a typical male with ptsd and Sam as embodying those of a typical female with ptsd and suddenly so much stuff clicked for me?! So thanks. And anyway, I’m still thinking about it like an hour later, so if you want to talk about that, and your thoughts, and how you see it, I would love to listen.             

Awwww, thank you so much for the ask and for the incredibly sweet comment! (´∀｀)♡  [Not enough room in very long post for cuddly otters gif, but consider yourself hugged by a cuddly otter.] There’s actually so much material for this topic, I’ll have to do it in pieces, so I hope that’s okay.

Sam and Dean are both written, as early as S1, as having negative mental health outcomes from their difficult childhood. For the most part, their mental health issues get worse in realistic ways as the seasons progress and they accumulate trauma. For example, they both have severe problems with self-worth, their verbal conflict management skills are terrible, they’re occasionally physically violent with each other under stress, and they both have physiologic hyperarousal (too much sensitivity of the flight/fight response).

(Top left: 1x11 Sam and Dean asleep. Normal, baseline sleeping pattern- lying in bed, under the covers, Sam in a tee shirt, Dean bare-chested. Compare top right: 1x20 Sam and Dean asleep with their father in the room. Lying in bed, over the covers, fully dressed, including boots. And bottom left: 4x1 Dean asleep after returning from Hell. Sitting up on a pull-out sofa, surrounded by books and next to an empty glass, fully dressed, including boots, plus bottom right 12x02 Sam in bed after being tortured by the BMoL. Awake in bed, fully dressed, with a visual callback to his S4 imprisonment in the panic room)

Not to mention he was highly admired, enough to persuade half of the Host to follow him rather than his rival (an archangel) in his civil war.

In “Point of No Return” he faces five angels all by himself and is able to do so and still come out alive by carving an angel banishing symbol onto his own body.

Moreover, he would have to had been concentrating on not letting any of the blood flow from the carving while fighting off the angels, so as not to alert them with a bloody shirt until he was ready to actually use it.

Archangels are said to be “absolute…heaven’s most terrifying weapon.”

During the series, Castiel has faced all four archangels by himself, knowing it is certain death to do so. (In fact he was killed by two of them).

He managed to break into Lucifer’s Cage and rescue Sam.

In “The Great Escapist” he uses quantum super-position to remain out of Naomi’s grasp while protecting the angel tablet.

In that same episode, he dug a bullet out of his own guts while keeping the angel guarding him distracted before burying the bullet in the guard’s eye.