Breakfast Was Too Early

those who have followed me for A VERY long time may know i often suffer from abuse via my stepfather. i tried to fundraise for this when i was 16, but it ended up going nowhere because my mom told me to shut it down. this time, this was made with her permission.

here's a link to my ko-fi. current goal is 1k. we have a plan but for our safety i cannot fully disclose it; we just need as much money as possible in the meantime.

for further details, read below.

before this change, the way to tell the difference between an account that was deacivated versus one that was banned by tumblr was simple: if a deleted account's username was formatted as [original username]-deactivated1234567 (any sequence of numbers) then it was deleted by the account's owner, if that text wasn't present then it was banned by tumblr. now that this grace period's been implemented, however, this added text to the username won't appear on deactivated accounts until the 30-day period is up.

which brings us to gooseworx.

if this change wasn't in effect, we would immediately know whether she was banned by tumblr or if she chose to deactivate of her own volition. there would be no debate on whether this was yet another transmisogyny-inspired banning of a transfem, through mass reporting from "tadc critical" (which are, frankly and for the most part, gooseworx harassment) accounts or staff just being mad at a transfem being transfem too loud and openly.

this update leaves room for debate in this situation. this update gives tumblr plausible deniability.

with them being increasingly held to account for banning transfems en masse "for any reason or no reason at all" (actual quote from the emails received by some transfems in the most egregiously blatant targeted banning of transfems yet), what do you think's more likely- that @staff implemented this update just now out of the goodness of their hearts, or that it was designed to make it less likely for them to get caught next time, and give them more wiggle room to ban transfems as prominent as gooseworx?

i know which answer's most likely. @staff has burned up too much good will for me to give them the benefit of the doubt.

I have a family friend who worked at our local Salvation Army headquarters as a a secretary. This particular office took all the Christmas donations for children in need, put them in a warehouse, and on a designated day the staff and their friends picked through them all, taking whatever they wanted. She saw people hauling away bikes donated for specific families. Some local children had hundreds of dollars of gifts donated in their name, and on Christmas they received three cheap things, items likely not even from the person who sponsored them.

My friend quit, and I’ve not given them a dime of my money since then.

I’m a wildfire and disaster logistics specialist.

I deal with a lot of agencies who provide disaster relief.

I used to say the Salvation Army’s disaster services were the one (literally the ONE) good thing they did.

They would come in, set up a canteen trailer, make and pass out hot coffee and donated food in a disaster, usually being one of the first agencies to get there and the last to leave.

Then I found out.

Every time they did this, regardless of if they were actually invited or deployed by the agency in charge (usually FEMA, sometimes others) they would SELF-DEPLOY. Meanjng they would just show up. Ok. That’s not TOO bad, sometimes agencies have to take initiative and get there before the red tape is sorted out. BUT. They, after they left at the end of the incident, they would send FEMA or the host agency a BILL. They used one or two paid employees (usually the driver of the truck and a supervisor); and many VOLUNTEERS, but they would bill for EVERYONE’s Labor at standard federal rates. They would bill for the food they distributed even though it was all donated by another agency or private parties. They would bill for the coffee they made and the supplies. Except they would use electricity from the shelter location, water from donations or from the shelter, and in many cases, they would get the coffee and industrial filters DONATED, but bill for them at retail prices.

Salvation Army reached out to Milknmuffins and asked what shelter she’s at with the promise to address the abuse in it. She…ended up saying where she was. She was thrown out onto the street. It’s also all on Twitter.

They invited her to a personal talk so she could explain the situation in person.

And then they threatened her with a screenshot of a rape-threat made supposedly by her:

And then threw her out into the street while claiming she broke house rules that

Like yeah this is Your Vessel. You can kinda change it, but not a ton. At least not without spending large amounts of money or having undesirable side effects. And no you can't choose how your Vessel looks, that's based on your parents sorry. Also as you age Your Vessel will change, sometimes in ways you don't want. Can't really do much about that either.

And all interactions have to be through Your Vessel. You can never escape Your Vessel. If you want to have irl friends they'll have to see Your Vessel. And if you don't show someone Your Vessel, they're going to have an image in their head about what Your Vessel looks like, and its almost certainly not what it actually looks like.