Perfect Purgatory

We also know that Shane has fantasies about Ilya Wet and Jerking It. (To be clear: This is my interpretation of the shower scene at the end of episode 4. I have Thoughts.)

So my question is for Ilya and it's: Hey dude. How long did it take you to remember THAT look on your Schroedinger's Boyfriend's face and realize how much he would actually genuinely like to watch you jerk off. Definitely didn't happen during their hookup era because Shane would have whined and scowled and probably ghosted for a bit if Ilya wanted to waste one of their precious few meetups on mutual masturbation. The order of operations for Shane goes: 1: Blowjob To Warm It Up 2: Dick in Ass 3: Give it to me baby 4 (optional): Showerhead shower head 5: Make NO EYE CONTACT as the beautiful slutty butterfly returns to the safety of his athleisure chrysalis. So we're working with a very narrow margin of error and absolutely no space for Antics.

Skills like gardening and food preservation and people around who can teach those skills can be a really important part of food security

In particular, access to gardening can really increase the quality of people's diets in areas where fresh vegetables and fruits are not as available.

If we want a world with quality clothing without sweatshops where fast fashion companies aren’t dumping unsold clothes in landfills we need to prepare for that now, even if it’s not the most convenient or practical. If a good percentage of the population can make, tailor, and/or repair clothes, people can use that leverage to fight for an ethical, sustainable fashion industry.

There’s a reason why places like Detroit are hubs of urban farming — because that’s what’s helped people survive after everything collapsed. There are real, actual people around the world who have and are using these skills to help their communities. Hunting and gardening allowed my parents to feed me and my siblings. Preserving food meant that we didn’t starve when ice storms resulted in us losing power for days to weeks at a time because nobody wanted to replace failing infrastructure. My local Master Gardeners donate nearly a thousand pounds of fresh vegetables each year to food banks — better quality and less ecologically damaging than the food bank could ever afford to buy.

Also, people’s mental health matters. Seeing real, tangible evidence that they can *do* something empowers people and gives them the ability to make more changes. And let’s be real, most people’s lives are not going to be improved by even more time at work.

Viktor Lyapkalo Artwork: 'Blowing bubbles' & 'Evening' Painted 9 years apart.

[nudity under the cut]

"wow that must be so terrible" "deserts are so ugly" "I would never want to live in a wasteland like that" "it's just empty nothingness"

wishing 10,000 exploding hammers upon you

behold New Mexico

[ID 1: tall, snowcapped rocky mountains rising above a plain filled with desert scrub

ID 2: brightly colored banded cliff walls of several mesas climbing their way into mountains

ID 3: a desert prairie

ID 4: colorful hoodoos against a twilight sky

ID 5: white sand dunes as far as the eye can see

ID 6: a collection of hoodoos against a stormy sky at sunset

ID 7: a juniper tree standing with a cliff wall in the background

right now the trump administration is attacking the public lands in the Southwestern US. most recently (July 2026), in Utah the Bears Ears and Grand Staircase-Escalante national monuments have been cut by over 90% to allow for mining. these lands are sacred to multiple Native nations in the area and contain irreplaceable archeological sites. additionally, the commission of Native representatives who aided in management of these lands has been dissolved leaving Native people without a voice in caring for the remaining land. (read more here)

here in New Mexico, the 10 mile buffer zone surrounding Chaco Canyon preventing oil and gas drilling is under attack. Chaco Canyon contains incredibly old and incredibly fragile archeological sites sacred to Pueblo people. these sites are threatened by mining and drilling. (read more here)

you can't appreciate the desert and also erase the fact that these places are under attack.

and I'd even say it's downright racist. this isn't "just" the desert, these are sacred locations to multiple Native nations and they are under attack because they are sacred to many Native people. the least you can do is reblog to raise awareness to the attacks on these lands. there is no going back from mining and drilling. there is no way to repair these ancient archeological sites when the vibrations in the ground topple them and when they are bulldozed.

“this isn’t true because the ex-friendship that traumatized me ended explosively after they were mad at me and never told me why” that’s not good. they shouldn’t be doing that

“i don’t think this is true because my current friend group is constantly icing me out until i figure out what ive done to upset them and properly apologized without being told” hey thats not good. they should not be doing that

Same, actually!

Step one: i am upset. I wait and keep it to myself - depending on the scenario i may wait ten minutes or i may wait a month. But i do not ONLY wait, i actively search the feeling and situation to see if this is a Me thing i can work on within myself, or something i can get over easily for the sake of keeping things pleasant and smooth, or whatever. Maybe i am actually just hungry and irritable. Maybe the issue is less about the loud group of my housemate's friends and more about the week i was already having. Maybe it was very frustrating in the moment, but now that the moment is past i no longer really care and don't think it's likely to come up often in the future.

this is where most people mess up. Because doing this step properly LOOKS like just ignoring whatever is upsetting you, so it's hard to learn from role models unless they explicitly communicate how to do this. And i think for many people, letting go of a certain level of upsetting might be an automatic process that happens if they just give it some time, but that's not everyone, for sure, certainly not me. But a lot of times, at least for me, if i do this step with intention, it turns out i can parse what it is and work through it on my on because it is actually some Me shit, and i don't actually need to do step two, But knowing how to do step two is important.

Step two: This is for when you've examined it, and you're still upset, and you know what's upsetting you and why, and you have some idea about what would be less upsetting. Most of the time, again for me, this really just boils down to getting on the same page with whoever else is involved to make sure it doesn't happen again, but sometimes will be something else; it may simply be a need to be heard and acknowledged.

So then you just, calmly, briefly, bring it up with the other person or people. You say something like "I felt upset when ____, and i'd like us to figure out a way to try to make sure that doesn't happen again" or "I felt upset when ____, and i think if i could tell you why it was upsetting in a way that you understood, it would help me be less upset" or even "I felt upset when ____, and i'm not even sure why but i'm still upset and i haven't been able to figure out how to let go of it and i am hoping you could help me resolve it"

anyway, always telling everyone that you are upset and why the instant you feel upset is not always the best way forward, anymore than never telling anyone you are upset no matter what. But being ABLE to tell people you are upset is an important skill.

Take thirty seconds or an hour or a day or whatever you need, to sit with it and see what it is. THEN be comfortable telling people in a constructive way.