Florence

okay so i have many points to lay out here

1. why do people like it?

i think this is pretty easy to ask, but not always to answer

theres closeness, the feeling, the pleasure, and the intimacy, and the need for sex.

god gave women (and men, but for this we are talking about women) the need for sex, most women when they are on their cycle, have a drive for sex. god hardwired this into womens systems so they would feel the need to reproduce and feel close to a person.

2. but what about the asexual people?

im asexual, and i feel the need for sex, but it grosses me out at the same time, its a paradox of wanting to be close and feeling that, but also feeling so gross about it that i dont want to have it.

the thing is that is in my brain, hardwired.

asexually is a spectrum, so not many people feel that i do but still.

3. what about god.

so if god made all women to want to have kids, take care of them, and watch them grow.

and if god already knew all of our choices, what we are going to do, what we need, and what happens to us

is there really free will?

can we truly make a decision for ourselves?

if everything is controlled by god, all our paths layed out for us, does that just degrade us to puppets for god to play with?

4. if god is all powerful, why dosen't he stop all pain?

because of two people

Adam and eve.

so if all sin came from them, all pain, all r@pe, all death, then its two people who are the problem, not all of us.

in the Geneva convention* it talks about how collective punishment is illegal.

although when the world was first created, the Geneva convention was not yet created, so that basically rules that out. still a fun point to bring up though.

*Article 33, commentary of 2025,  Principle of individual responsibility and prohibitions of collective punishment, intimidation, terrorism, pillage and reprisals

5. wrapping up and conclusions.

we dont truly, fully have free will. and we most likely never will.

but god put us here for a reason, and made this earth for us, so we should just live.

and maybe god didnt make this earth, maybe something else did, maybe it was just the big bang.

but what we can do is just enjoy. we can look outside and see the plants and the tress and just enjoy.

none if this will matter soon enough. so we should just live.

get more nonbinary today. put that pronoun you like in your bio, it’s cool. remove that pronoun you tolerate for “convenience,” you deserve better. try that outfit, you’ll look awesome. use that nonbinary-centering label, it’s wonderful. refuse that attempt to binarise you, you don’t have to let people do it to yourself. research possibilities for hormonal therapy. you can actually pick and choose some things, you have way more autonomy in medical results than people are willing to acknowledge. look for different surgeries. you can get mastectomy and go on E. you can get breast augmentation. you can get breast reduction. you can get a vagina and preserve penis. you can get penis and preserve vagina. you can get nullification. you can get nullification and keep a vagina. you can get orchiectomy and preserve penis. you have a lot of other options!

(obviously you don’t have to wish any medical procedures to be nonbinary and to get more nonbinary. i say it because there is an idea that medical transition is a strictly binary pericisnormative thing, and it’s not. but the point is to be comfortable in your body).

try that hairstyle, it would look great. make or buy that pronouns pin. try that nail polish. or remove that nail polish. wear these shoes. or give/throw them away.

eat a huge delicious meal. read your favourite book or fic, or watch your favourite movie or series or whatever media you like. try to find something that makes your day better.

be proud of yourself. appreciate yourself. be louder. take more space. do whatever you want forever.

stay safe. we care about you. nonbinary community is here for you. we appreciate you and want you here.

cleaning my room

drinking baja blast

yes.

"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."

apparently he (who through my drunken memory I remember only as Earl) liked some woman, and she told him that he wasn't cultured enough and needed to attend his first drag show (she also flaked on him)

Now I'm reasonably androgynous and was wearing makeup, a short leather skirt, and black heeled boots, but still when this guy came up to me when I was standing off alone and asked "So. Do you come here often?" with a very earnest expression, I thought. Surely not. This guy doesn't think I'm a straight woman does he????

Anyway I start talking with this guy and he has no idea what the fuck is going on but he is just a very kind and earnest dude and asked a lot of questions (while asking if it was alright if he asked those questions). I track down my husband and friends and I'm like y'all. We need to make sure that Earl has a Good Fucking Time tonight.

Man was completely out of his depth. At one point they put on a puppy auction to raise money for Pride, that started with a 6 ft drag queen in all her glory leading a leather pup out on a leash to the tune of that damned RSPCA "in the arms of the angels" song

We look at Earl. Nervous. He squints, laughs, and then goes "I was wondering why people were dressed like that!" He turned to me and asked "So they're like dogs?" And I said yeah pretty much. And he just chuckled and went "Yeah I thought so with the tails! Never seen this before!"

When the first drag king came out, Earl looked at me wide eyed and went "There's a dude version too?!" And I said yeah they're called drag kings. And he said, low, "Drag kings."

During one of the queens performances, he frowned, shook his head and told me, "Your legs are better than hers." in a tone that implied he thought there was some travesty taking place and I should also be getting paid

When he found out I was there with my husband (and that I am not a woman) he profusely apologized and said "I'm so sorry, it's dark in here and I thought you were a hot chick! I wouldn't have said nothing if I knew you had a husband, I'm so sorry about that."

When beemovie invited me to the dance floor with him later and I still had a drink in my hand, Earl said "Oh don't worry about that I can hold your drink, you get on out there and shake your ass with your husband!" Then before we left, Earl bought me drinks for "Putting up with me all night and answering everything. Y'all helped me have a great time tonight."

like. You gotta recognize there's going to people who have never had interacted outside of their of their own community. This includes you. And just because your community is familiar with all the right vocabulary and how to correctly say something, it doesn't mean they're actually going to support you. If someone like Earl shows up, confused and out of their depth but kind and curious and earnest, you gotta have patience and truck through the small things, so when he goes back to his friends and his coworkers and they snicker asking how the drag show was, he can genuinely talk about how included we tried to make him feel and that he had a great time