The Greenhouse

roblox rolls out their age group system, and you can no longer talk to any adults on the platform. you can only talk to people in person, i.e. your parents, who are horrid. now you're back at square one, being helplessly abused. to make it worse, you're homeschooled, as I was. you can't reach out to anyone at school for support either.

or maybe you're not homeschooled, and you ask your pronouns to be used at school. it goes well for a while, and you feel some relief.

then your state passes a bill that requires forced outing. your teachers report to your parents that you've been trying out a different name and pronouns.

they pull you from school, send you to boarding school or conversion therapy, and force you to attend private schools in the future that match their values.

you are entirely under their control. you could've made connections with other adults, ones willing to help you out. to treat you like a human, give you access to life saving care. and it's stripped away, you're alone, and everything feels hopeless.

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-Explicitly mentioned the woman is of age

-Specified Japanese schoolgirl uniform

This user is both misogynistic (implying the woman wearing a school-style outfit is somehow suddenly pedophilic. I guess) and incredibly racist (specifically mentioning Japanese schoolgirl uniforms, harkening to the anime=pedophilia/inherent sexualization of all things anime that racists commonly do in particular to pedojacket transgender women)

and like. "you might not know this, but some people are treated badly because they have periods." why wouldn't i know this? what about me makes you think i wouldn't know and that you have to be the one to tell me?

on occasion it can even be hard to take some compliments about our knowledge and skill, because some people go about it in such a backhanded way. why were you not surprised that the trans man was good at makeup, but you were surprised when it was me? "i didn't know you knew how to actually do it." what about me made you think that my system didn't know? my system, which has been stealthing for years?

in a way, i would describe such behavior as maternalistic. as if i am inherently always new to being femme, and i apparently need someone "more experienced" to teach me. and i have had people be mad at me before, for not seeing them as a form of authority on a fashion subculture that they directly told me they knew very little about.

and i do know that there are people out there, tfems who do need some help. which is part of why i consider this behavior to be so bad, because the advice a lot of these people volunteer to give is not good! i am so tired of people sending me those contour maps, thinking about how good and helpful of a person they are, meanwhile the diagram is meant for someone with a different face shape than me.

people have tried to give us fashion advice and recommended us things that would have just emphasized aspects we are dysphoric about, because generally they're too concerned with the idea of how good of a person they are being to who they consider to be perpetually a gender tourist.