So You Want to Observe the Days of Awe
This post is for people who are Jewish, converting to Jewish, seriously interested in Jewish conversion, or are Jewish-Adjacent (part of an interfaith family, etc.). It is **not** for gentiles who wish to âdeepen their connection to Jesusâ or any similar reason uninvolved with genuine interest in becoming a part of the tribe or participating with loved ones, as that is a form of cultural appropriation. Thank you for your understanding. Gentiles CAN, however, reblog!Â
So you know how to celebrate Rosh Hashanah. You know the ten days between Rosh and Yom Kippur are still important, even if they arenât the main holidays. And you want to do something to mark time passing. Boy, am I here for you!Â
Educate Yourself on what the Days of Awe AreÂ
The Days of Awe are the Ten Days between (and including) Rosh Hashanah (ר×׊ ××Š× ×) and Yom Kippur (××× ×פ×ר)Â
They are called the Yamim Noraim (×××× × ×ר×××) in HebrewÂ
The days that arenât Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are sort of the âintermediateâ Days of AweÂ
But that doesnât mean they arenât still importantÂ
Some include the entire month of Elul with this period in a term called the 40 Days of Repentance (but I decided to start this series after Elul, so yâall are just going to have to wait for next Elul for my Elul-specific post)Â
You can also call these the 10 Days of Repentance, if you choose
The Days of Awe are typically a period of enhanced teshuvah, introspection, and awareness of HaShemÂ
They celebrate the anniversary of Creation and HaShem making decisions about how the coming year will goÂ
The common idea is that on Rosh Hashanah, HaShem opens the book of life, where HaShem inscribes people for life, blots out the names of really bad people, and the intermediaries (ie: almost everyone) spend these ten days trying to repent, return (teshuvah) to HaShem, and do typical âcrap time has passed I should be betterâ stuffÂ
The Book of Life is then sealed on Yom Kippur (though, in theory, you have another chance at Sukkot, but more on that later)Â
So, even though Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are the big days, the intermediate days are important too, because these are the days of high-powered teshuvahÂ
Thereâs also a lot of eating of food, studying of texts, davening, and counting of luck, like Rosh Hashanah, but Iâm not making this post a repeat of my RH post đÂ
There is a lot more to learn about this period - donât just stop here! These are just the basicsÂ
We greet each other with âShana Tovaâ meaning A Good Year (to you), but sometimes people begin to transition to âGâmar Hatima Tovaâ or âGâmar Tovâ (May You Be Sealed in the Book of Life) as Yom Kippur nears. You can also wish people an easy fast, since Yom Kippur is the most widely-observed fast amongst Jewish peopleÂ
On days that arenât Shabbat, Rosh Hashanah, or Yom Kippur, you can work. Donât jeopardize your livelihood for teshuvah, please. If you get those days off regardless, though, more power to you.Â
Try to take some time to DavenÂ
There are three acts to attempt to sway HaShemâs decree on Rosh Hashanah: Teshuvah, Tefillah, and Tzedakah (Returning/Repentance, Davening/Prayer, and Charity/The Necessity of Helping Others)Â
So letâs talk about the middle one first because why notÂ
Davening, or the rough equivalent of prayer in Judaism, is vital to the Yamim NoraimÂ
There are special portions inserted into the regular service - including the Amidah. Follow your siddur (prayerbook)âs directions, if you need toÂ
Sacharit is the morning prayer service (including many blessings for waking up and existing, and praise for HaShem); Mincha is the afternoon prayer service (the shortest one, it doesnât have the Shâma); Maariv is the evening prayer service (in the middle, it doesnât have as many words of praise, but does include the Shâma)Â
You can also try and include more blessings than you usually do in your day, including blessings after meals (benching) and blessings for varying types of foods you eat (which are said beforehand)Â
The point of all of this is to try and be mindful, to have your mind open to HaShem. So if you donât want to follow a traditional davening order, you can also meditate, go outside, spend time amongst nature and with your thoughtsÂ
Introspection is important for this time period. Though a lot of that will be Teshuvah (see below), thereâs also just general looking at yourself, your past year, and how you want the new year to be.Â
What would you like to accomplish?
What would you like to let go of?Â
What are things in yourself youâd like to change?Â
What are things youâd like to stay the same?Â
Who have you lost contact with, and youâd like to get in touch with again?Â
Who do you need to remove from your life, for it to be healthier?Â
How do you want to deepen your connection to Judaism and/or HaShem?Â
Try to keep HaShem, teshuvah, and the spirit of the time in your thoughts throughout the day - and a good way is daveningÂ
You can daven without a minyan (group of 10+ Jewish adults (sometimes only men count), but in some traditions you canât say certain prayers (such as the baruchâu) - look into local synagogues and see if they offer minyan services
The Shabbat between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is a very special shabbat, given its own name - Shabbat ShuvahÂ
This literally means the Sabbath of ReturnÂ
You can also call it Shabbat TâShuvah (Sabbath ofâŚ. Return/Repentance)Â
This is a Shabbat marked by increased solemnity, thinking about teshuvah, and considering the coming yearÂ
The themes are the same as all the Yamim Noraim, but itâs a good day to pay special attention - if you work on teshuvah, tefillah, & tzedakah only one intermediate day, this is the day to do itÂ
Read and study traditional texts!Â
The Torah reading kind of depends on how the year is structured in general, it isnât always one thing or another. Use the internet to find out what the parsha is in a particular year - this year (5779) itâs Vayeilech (Deut. 31:1 - 31:30), last year (5778) it was HaâAzinu (Deut. 32:1 - 32:52). It just depends.Â
The Haftarah (Prophets/Neviâim) reading, however, stays constantÂ
Ashkenazi tradition reads Hosea 14:2 - 10, and Joel 2:15 - 27Â
Sephardic tradition reads Hosea 14:2 - 10, and Micah 7:18 - 20Â
If you wish, you can study all threeÂ
You also can study the Haftarah that goes with the Parsha in question if itâs not on Shabbat ShuvaÂ
This is moderately unorthodox, and if you have limited time focus instead on the traditional Shabbat Shuva HaftarotÂ
For Vayeilech, the Haftarah is Isaiah 55:6 - 56:8Â
For HaâAzinu, the Haftarah is II Samuel 22:1 - 22:51Â
Itâs really up to you, but traditional texts are studied for a reason - try to contemplate what theyâre saying about the season of returnÂ
Try to go to Shabbat services - almost all synagogues will have them Friday night & Saturday morning, and unlike High Holy Day services, you donât need a ticket (usually)Â
This is a solemn Shabbat. Make it solemn for you.Â
This isnât my Shabbat post, so Iâm not going to talk about how to observe Shabbat (or different ways to do so)Â
Just try to spend the day thinking about the previous chag (Rosh Hashanah), and the upcoming one (Yom Kippur), and the themes of the ten days in generalÂ
Have I Talked About Teshuvah YetÂ
Teshuvah is the theme of the season, and every day of the Yamim Noraim are days to practice itÂ
The steps of Teshuvah are as follows:Â
1. Regret what you have doneÂ
2. Abandon these practices (if you havenât already)Â
3. Confess and apologise for what you have done to the appropriate parties (a person, if you have wronged them; HaShem, if you have wronged HaShem, or you know, both - but donât skip apologising to a person)Â
4. Resolve & Commit to acting betterÂ
Sometimes, you canât get forgiveness. And thatâs okay. You have done everything you can - as long as you commit to returning to the right path of behavior, and attempt to rectify what youâve doneÂ
Sometimes, you canât even ask for forgiveness, depending on the circumstance. Be sure to think about what that means for you - how that impacts your teshuvah. What can you do to make up for it? How can you rectify your behavior?
Itâs not enough to just apologize. You have to try and make it right. You have to try and repair the world (tikkun olam)
Teshuvah is an extraordinarily personal process. I canât make too many sweeping declarations.Â
Sometimes, teshuvah involves taking care of yourselfÂ
If you have mental or physical illness, or a rough year in general, or anything else that seriously impairs your ability to do teshuvah, do teshuvah to yourselfÂ
Self-care is a valid method of returning, imo. You can think differently, but itâs too easy to be too hard on yourself - especially for people with mental illness - this season.Â
There is no intermediary in Judaism. A rabbi can not ask HaShem for forgiveness for your sins against HaShem; HaShem cannot forgive you for sins against a person. You have to go directly to whom you have harmed (including, in many cases, yourself), try to rectify it, and ask for forgiveness. And you are not owed that forgiveness either.Â
If someone asks you for forgiveness, consider your own teshuvahÂ
Will forgiving someone who has wronged you help you to take care of yourself? Be a better person? Help you to move on?
Or will it reopen a wound, and hurt you even further?Â
I canât tell you the answer to this question. Only you can.Â
Itâs a mitzvah to forgive someone, but itâs not a mitzvah to hurt yourself. Find a balance.Â
Apart from Rosh Hashanah, Shabbat, and Yom Kippur, you can give tzedakah freely on the Yamim Noraim - and you should!Â
Tzedakah is often translated as âcharityâ, but it doesnât really line up with thatÂ
Charity, in Xtianity, is seen as optional - that youâre doing a nice, good thing, but voluntarilyÂ
Tzedakah, however, is mandatoryÂ
There are hierarchies of tzedakah, but this isnât my tzedakah post, so Iâm not going to go too into them - just know that even giving begrudgingly and as little as you can is fulfillment of the mitzvahÂ
However, the mitzvah is heightened the more you commit to it. The highest step of the scale is giving an individual the ability to take care of themself, and to not rely on tzedakah any longerÂ
Many communities and synagogues take up collections - both of money and of food - during the Yamim Noraim. Look into those as ways to fulfill this mitzvahÂ
You can also donate money to causes and groups you care aboutÂ
Consider ones that aid particularly âhot buttonâ issues (such as the separation of immigrant families, or the prison strike)Â
Groups that aid the Jewish people are also particularly poignant this time of yearÂ
I canât dictate to you how to fulfill this mitzvah; you alone know what you care about enough to give money toÂ
Even the poorest should give tzedakahÂ
If someone receives tzedakah, they must give some of that as tzedakah in turn
Even if you are the worst off person in the world (which, doubt), you can always help othersÂ
HaShem is understanding, of course, but this is a season of returning. Do what you can.Â
It is not a mitzvah to render yourself destituteÂ
You should give tzedakah, but only according to your means
Giving so much tzedakah that you require tzedakah yourself as a result is literally the opposite of a mitzvahÂ
Give, but only give what you canÂ
You can (and should!) also do other acts of tikkun olam, such as volunteering, but nothing really takes the place of giving money or material goods to people who desperately need themÂ
Donât Act Like On Normal DaysÂ
These are important, highly spiritually charged days. Donât treat them just like any other.Â
Besides Teshuvah, Tefillah, and Tzedakah, consider marking the days in other waysÂ
The stories of Genesis are particularly poignant, given that Rosh Hashanah marks the universeâs âbirthdayâÂ
Reading the writings of the prophets, which describe tikkun olam extensivelyÂ
Study the texts in Numbers that describe this time of yearÂ
There are also psalms that discuss teshuvah, and other writings. Sefaria is a great online resource with free access to these texts.Â
Eating sweet foods is always a great thing to do this time of year - you still want it to be a sweet year, right? That hasnât changed since Rosh HashanahÂ
In fact, itâs traditional in some communities to dip challah in honey throughout the month of Tishrei (which the Yamim Noraim are a good chunk of)Â
Honey, apples, new fruit - mark the time with sweetnessÂ
Plus, you know, a certain fast is coming up. Enjoy food.Â
Many people only eat food prepared by other Jews - either year round, or especially during this time period. This custom is called Pat Yisrael. Sometimes this is not possible, though, so donât starve yourself. Follow the minhag (custom) of a group you consider yourself a part of, if you have one
During the week, some Orthodox communities still follow this practice (it was much more of a thing in the past)Â
The idea is purchasing a live Galliform (like a chicken) during the week; and then, on the morning before Yom Kippur, you wave it over your head, praying that the bird is atonement for your sins. Then you kill the bird and give the food (or money equal to the food) to the poor.Â
Some Jewish people today use money instead of a living animalÂ
This practice has fallen heavily out of favor (to the point of many liberal-movement Jews not even having hurt of it) because it seems⌠superstitious, to say the leastÂ
But, if itâs the minahg of the community youâre a part of, knock yourself out, I guessÂ
Rituals are ways for our monkey brains to feel like weâre providing order to the chaos of the universe; to feel like weâre a part of its continuation and fate; and, for Jews, to feel like weâre living Jewishly. If you want to fashion your own ritual (please⌠for me⌠donât kill anythingâŚ) in the style of Kapparot, to give your monkey brain a more physical method of atonement, go ahead.Â
This is not a replacement for teshuvah
And look, Iâm a vegetarian, Iâm not really about encouraging the killing of animals (especially birds! why would you hurt the dinosaur???????) but I would never disrespect a communityâs minhag, so if this is your custom, seriously, more power to you Â
Considering Observing Tzom Gedalia
Iâm going to do a bigger post on how to fast soon, but hereâs a little bit about a random minor fast that occurs during the Yamim NoraimÂ
I say random because it actually has like, nothing to do with the Days of AweÂ
Tzom Gedalia, or the Fast of Gedalia, is a minor fast - meaning one fasts only from dawn of the day until dusk, rather than the full 24/25 hoursÂ
It marks the assassination of Gedaliah, the governor of Judah during the occupation of the country by BabylonÂ
Jews who had fled returned under his governorship, and it seemed like the worst was overÂ
A descendant of the royal family was sent by the king of Ammon to murder GedaliahÂ
This descendant killed Gedaliah, along with other Jewish people; the Babylonian King was furious, and so many of the remaining Jews in the region fled to EgyptÂ
The text of the Tanach indicates this actually happened around Rosh HashanahÂ
So, to mark this tragedy - and the destruction of the First Temple/Babylonian Exile in general - a fast is held right after Rosh Hashanah (so the joy of the new year is not marred with a fast)Â
Special prayers are said, as with all minor fasts, and special Torah passages are read as wellÂ
If you fast, you refrain from eating food or drinking water, from sunup to sundown. Again, Iâll go through more on how to fast later, but thatâs the bare bones of it
It is a solemn reminder of the tragedies of the Jewish people in the midst of the season of repentanceÂ
Take it as a day to think about Jewish history (especially in combination with Rosh Hashanah)Â
If fasting would render you unsafe (such as triggering an eating disorder, making you not take your meds, causing other health complications, etc.), donât do it. Itâs not a mitzvah to fast if it will hurt you.Â
If you donât fast, consider refraining from other joyous activitiesÂ
Focus on your spiritual needs, not material ones. Thatâs what fasting is about. And in this case, focus on the spiritual needs of mourning the tragedies of Jewish history, even if a littleÂ
The Biggest Day of the Jewish Year* is a-cominâ and you should probably get readyÂ
This is an ongoing debate that you really donât want to get intoÂ
Itâs definitely one of the biggest Single Days Per YearÂ
Because Yom Kippur is a fast day, a major part of preparation is eating and drinking the day beforeÂ
Make sure to eat up! Get those carbs and proteinsÂ
Donât eat one big meal before the fast - instead, eat multiple meals throughout the dayÂ
Drink plenty of water. So much water. HYDRATE. Iâm serious.Â
Consider⌠easing⌠your caffeine addictionÂ
Drink less and less coffee every day leading up to Yom KippurÂ
Drink decaf, if you can bear it, the closer you getÂ
Make it so that you wonât be dying of a caffeine withdrawal headache during all the daveningÂ
Make preparations for taking the day off
Yom Kippur is filled with more davening than Rosh Hashanah
Itâs literally the entire day, with a break for sleep in the middleÂ
(for what itâs worth, this makes fasting easier)Â
You will not have any free time, if you plan on going to services. You will be davening for most of a 25 hour period. Itâs worth it! I love Yom Kippur, like, sincerely. But you have to be ready, with all the varying things you do day-to-day taken care ofÂ
Everyone during this time is kind of rushing around, freaking out because itâs the Days of Awe, but that just means you have people to rush and freak out with!Â
You can do volunteer work, give tzedakah, and daven with friends, and discuss the Yamim Noraim moodÂ
Donât be afraid to reach out to a community, if you want to, so that you can mark the days with others. Just explain youâre new and nervous, and people will be happy to help you!Â
You canât spend every day in Jewish Community, but try to at least take some of your time to spend with others, to mark the holy time, and to connect with HaShem.Â
Donât Just Listen To MeÂ
You Know Nothing, Tziporrah⌠SnowÂ
You know what isnât universal? My perspective. Talk to other people!!! Get their perspective!!!! Especially the Kapparot thing I did not handle that topic well I apologizeÂ
Learn from all movements, cultures, and customs of Judaism. They all have something to say, something to inform about this time of year.Â
Read, engage, and donât be afraid to ask questions!Â
SHANAH TOVA, and GâMAR HATIMA TOVAH!Â
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