Always tough seeing how rampant polyphobia still is online with the same hateful talking points as any queerphobia. People openly and snarkily celebrating someone grieving a break up in a poly or open relationship because theyβre βbound to failβ and βhopefully you learned your lessonβ (as if every queer relationship hasnβt faced this exact scrutiny in the past. βSee, this gay couple broke up. Yet another example of why homosexuality is destined to fail because itβs unnatural.β).
But then I remember how everyone IRL Iβve trusted to talk to about my poly relationship has either been immediately accepting of it or been really curious and asked me to explain how it works. And when I do, they go, βHuh. I donβt get it but it sounds like it works for you.β The best response was when Tulli explained navigating jealousy and compersion to an older, married person and they went, βWow, I wish I heard this stuff when I was younger.β Itβs a good reminder that in real life people suck less and have more stakes and motivation to show basic human empathy. Harder to be a random dickhead when you canβt just say something shitty to a stranger and run away scot-free.
