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Not too long ago I had an anon ask me how to fake it till she makes it in manifesting her luxury lifestyle. I gave a bit of advice (you should read that before finishing this) but I want to elaborate more on a certain aspect that is crucial to obtaining an ideal life: becoming your ideal self. That ask was focused on lifestyle, but what about the self glow-up? That’s where this guide comes in. I see a lot of guides where the OP tells you the type of woman you should become, and it’s usually based on their own idea of what is desirable. This is different. This is a barebones guide that requires you to think hard about yourself and what would satisfy you to live in your own skin. To no longer wish to be anyone else. To be the best version of YOU. Who is the the ideal woman you are aspiring to be?

Here’s how to start:

Step 1: describe your dream girl and create a list of 12 essential qualities/skills she has. Things that are controllable by a person themselves, not reliant on another person or location. (Good: she drinks tea every day. Bad: her boyfriend makes tea for her every day)

Step 2: make a list of how you can acquire those qualities

Step 3: dedicate one quality to each month of the year and for every single day of that month, cultivate habits that will make those qualities now belong to you. 30 days is a great amount of time to build a habit that you can continue on with even after the target date has passed. It’s not too long to feel scary but it’s long enough to make really good progress. Plus you won’t feel overwhelmed about doing all of these new things at once. Just one quality at a time :)

Step 4: after 12 months, you will have dedicated 365 days to your own personal growth and transformation and will now emerge a brand new woman.

To make this even easier on you, I will create an example using a mix of things that are about me.

My dream girl is: a beautiful and fit domestic goddess who speaks multiple foreign languages, plays instruments, is a wiz in the kitchen, and has a killer style

12 qualities to create her:

Takes expert care of her outward appearance

Eats healthy and works out every day

Speaks french

Speaks korean

Speaks spanish

Plays piano

Cooks a proper meal every day

Always dresses well no matter what

Keeps her home spic and span

Manages her emotions well to always be kind and composed to others instead of combative and volatile

Is a minimalist

Studies hard in school

(When you make your list of 12 qualities, don’t worry about making them perfectly correspond to a certain month just yet. First, just get them all written down and then you can rearrange it later. For the sake of this, let’s just pretend that mine are in a perfect order as is)

January: takes expert care of her outward appearance

For January, I will spend 31 days focused on beauty. Every single morning and night I will do my skincare routine, a face mask, use my serums and exfoliants (when necessary), and make sure to apply sunscreen. I will get a skincare consultation if needed, I will schedule a dentist appointment or do at home teeth whitening treatments. I will take a bubble bath once a day and always make sure that I’m exfoliated. I will always make time to shave/wax/epilate/whatever and maintain manicured nails and eyebrows. My hair care will be completely on point because my hair will always be deep conditioned, well moisturized, and styled to perfection.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every single day. You will now be in the habit of taking care of your external appearance and will be used to looking and feeling a certain way)

February: eats healthy and works out every day

For February, I will find a list of healthy breakfasts, lunches, and dinners and make sure to use them as my eating guide. I will watch my calories and eat foods that nourish my body. I will cut out sugary drinks and extra sweets and do a workout for at least 30 minutes every day. I will watch a lot of content on health and fitness to keep me on track and make sure that I know what I’m doing.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every single day. You will now be in the habit of making and eating healthy foods, have a 30 day workout streak, and will have a new relationship with your health and fitness. Because you have successfully committed a whole month to this lifestyle, it will be easier to keep it going to reach your body goals)

March: speaks French

For March, I will study french every day for at least an hour. I will watch french movies and tv shows, learn grammar and memorize vocabulary. I will always keep my flashcards on an app and study them frequently so that I don’t forget anything. I will find a french language exchange partner online and talk to them everyday so they can correct my mistakes.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every day. You will now be in the habit of studying a foreign language for a dedicated amount of time each and every day. This will get you to a strong start and make it much easier for you to continue learning the language as time moves forward)

November: is a minimalist

For November I will focus on living a minimalist lifestyle and being intentional with the items I allow into my space. I will go through my whole house and declutter all of the things that I don’t need. I will not buy things this month unless they are essentials to me and my growth. I will watch/read a lot of content on consumerism and try to understand why I own so many things. I will have a better relationship with my possessions and take better care of the things I own so that I won’t need to keep buying new ones.

(Keep a log and make sure to do this every day. You will form a better relationship with your possessions and learn to let go of unimportant things. This will build the habit of being mindful of the things you allow into your space and allowing you to make better buying choices in the future)

You get the idea. So basically you will elaborate on each of the 12 qualities and make it very clear what your daily goals are for that month. The most important thing is to stick to it. You have to build the habit so that it becomes your new normal. This is how you acquire a new lifestyle and persona. You do it every day until it’s your default setting. You don’t call someone an a good student because they got an A one time, right? You call them a good student because they consistently demonstrate the actions that makes one a good student on a daily basis.

“But 2pretty! How can I stick to these things every day? What if I don’t feel like it sometimes?”

It’s all about discipline and consistency. Having your effort correspond to how badly you want something. Focusing on the big picture and sacrificing a little bit of comfort. Choosing to be your most excellent self rather than the easiness of staying the same. Growth is hard! But that’s what makes it worth it.

You all can sit here and read level up posts until you turn blue in the face but the fact of the matter is, The Ideal You can only emerge if you put in the work to become her. I believe in you.

I can’t wait to meet the new you in 12 months. See ya then.

How to Transform Your Life in 6-Months Using SMART Goals

SMART stands for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and time-bound.

Specific: create a list of things that you would like to do everyday for 6 months. State what you’ll do and use action words. Create a big goal and write down 3 habits you will do everyday to help you achieve that goal (Ex: I want to have visible abs by July - I will exercise every morning, I will eat a salad once a day, and I will drink 2 liters of water everyday). My best tip is to take on one thing at a time. Sometimes we tend to overload ourselves with trying to start too many goals at one time, which can cause us to become overwhelmed and make the goal/habit difficult to achieve and maintain. One week you will start on one goal and the next week you can start on another.

Measureable: find something you will use to show that you are making progress towards the goal or goals that you have. (Ex: I cross out the days on my calendar that I worked out and leave the days that I didn’t blank)

Attainable: make sure all of the goals that you are setting are achievable in the next 6 months. Before working on your goals, make sure you have the tools and resources to achieve it. (Ex: I have a list of my favorite YouTube exercise videos that I can choose from everyday, I have weights, and exercise clothes)

Realistic: be honest with yourself and know your limits or triggers. We are only human, and it’s not easy forming new habits or staying motivated all the time, so do not be too hard on yourself if you skip a day or a week. All that matters is that you keep going, that is when you will see results. Also, make sure that you are being realistic with the deadline, make sure you can achieve these goals in 6 months. For motivation, create a list of why you are trying to achieve this goal in the first place, and read it everytime you feel like quitting. Find a picture or search up someone that inspires you to help keep you motivated. (Ex: I look at my fitness board on Pinterest everytime I feel like I am losing motivation to exercise)

If you want to officially, legally start your own business but don’t know where to start, here are the basic steps:

Define your business Niche, industry, higher goal/your “why”. You need to get clear on what you want to achieve with your business and what it should look like.

Market research Research if there is a need for your products/services, study your competitors, create a ‘persona’ or ‘avatar’ of your ideal client in order to understand their journey. The user journey formula is simple: client’s xyz issue -> your solution for their issue -> reaching their end goal = happy client.

Business strategy After you’ve done market research, and before registration, it’s the perfect time to create a business plan. This is the concrete step-by step plan for your business. Small goals, big goals, a calendar for the whole year.

Legally register your business The process, costs & documents required for this will depend on each country so check your local authorities for this. Now is also the time to decide what legal body you want to choose for your business: Sole Proprietorship, LLC (limited liability corporation), etc. Do your research on the differences between each, and find out what is best for your business to begin with. You have to decide for yourself.

Research your tax obligations For better or worse, it’s your responsibility to be well informed. Remember that any registered business has to pay taxes on their earnings, from 10% up to 50% depending on country.

Accounting Use an accounting service, hire an accountant, or do it yourself. Just be smart about it, this is important. The only way you should go the DIY route is if you literally have less than 10 transactions per month and have a simple business.

“Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” ― Charles William Eliot

Makeup, fashion and hair

Jet Set Ready: 7 easy Steps to your Luxe, Affordable and Ready-to-Wear Style

About Face: Celebrity Makeup Techniques

Elegance - Kathleen Tesaro

A Guide to Elegance: For Every Woman Who Wants to Be Well and Properly Dressed on All Occasions

 Pretty Honest: The Straight-Talking Beauty Companion 

Better Than Beauty: A Guide to Charm

The 21st Century Beauty Bible 

Your Beauty Mark: The Ultimate Guide to Eccentric Glamour

Bobbi Brown Makeup Manual: For Everyone from Beginner to Pro 

Making Faces

How to be Chic and Elegant: Tips From A French Woman  

Dating ( general)

Get the Guy: Use the Secrets of the Male Mind to Find, Attract and Keep Your Ideal Man

The Art of Seduction

The Men in Your Life

How to Make Anyone Fall in Love With You: 85 Proven Techniques for Success

New Rules of Attraction: How to Get Him, Keep Him, and Make Him Beg for More

Why men loves bitches

Love The Psychology Of Attraction

Mama Gena’s Owner’s and Operator’s Guide to Men

Dating wealthy

HOW TO MARRY THE RICH: The Rich Will Marry Someone, Why Not YOU?

Lucrative Love : An Insider’s Secrets to Marrying Millions!

HOW TO MEET THE RICH for Business, Friendship, or Romance 

Ho Tactics: How to MindF**k A Man into Spending, Spoiling, and Sponsoring

How to be Irresistible (Agent Provocateur) 

How to get a rich man

How To Date Like a Courtesan: Attract, Seduce, and Manipulate Men for Love, Money, and Marriage

Etiquette/ wealthy lifestyle

Luxury: A Rich History 

http://eatlovesavor.com/

UltraLuxe Hotels: The Experience Awaits

https://www.instagram.com/cnbcsuperrich/

The Jetsetter Guide: The glamorous guide to living the life ( I wrote this. It is a on amazon)

http://www.legrandmag.com/

http://www.wealthcollection.com/aboutus.html

http://agenceluxury.com/

http://www.realitysense.com/

http://www.departures.com/

http://robbreport.com/

Polish Your Poise with Madame Chic: Lessons in Everyday Elegance

  The Little Book of Etiquette

How to Win Friends and Influence People

Career

The Insiders’ Guide to Becoming a Yacht Stewardess 2nd Edition: Confessions from My Years Afloat with the Rich and Famous 

The Yacht Guru’s Bible: The Service Manual for Every Yacht

How To Become A Flight Attendant: The Ultimate Guide

The Jetsetter Guide: The glamorous guide to living the life

Property Investment for Beginners 

A Modern Girl’s Guide To Networking: How to win friends and influence people - from the office to the party,from the boardroom to the bedroom 

Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich: 75 Avoidable Mistakes Women Make with Money

 http://www.cnbc.com/2014/02/04/ith-the-coolest-super-rich-jobs.html

 The Small Business Start-up Workbook: A step-by-step guide to starting the business you’ve dreamed of 

The Financial Times Guide to Investing:The Definitive Companion to Investment and the Financial Markets: )

Forget a Mentor, Find a Sponsor: The New Way to Fast-Track Your Career 

The Millionaire Real Estate Agent 

Mrs Moneypenny’s Careers Advice for Ambitious Women

Knowledge

1001 Restaurants: You Must Experience Before You Die

1001: Ideas that Changed the Way We Think

Knowledge Encyclopedia

Art: The Whole Story

How to Sound Cultured: Master The 250 Names That Intellectuals Love To Drop Into Conversation

The Business Book (Big Ideas

50 Paintings You Should Know

500 Words You Should Know

The Philosophy Book

The Economics Book (Big Ideas)

I Used to Know That: General Science

A Classical Education: The Stuff You Wish You’d Been Taught At School

Psychology/Social

Uncensored Sales Strategies: A Radical New Approach to Selling Your Customers What They Really Want - No Matter What Business You’re In: A Radical New … Really Want–no Matter What Business you’re in 

No B.S. Marketing to the Affluent: The No Holds Barred, Kick Butt, Take No Prisoners Guide to Getting Really Rich

Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World’s Top Minds

Honey Money: The Power of Erotic Capital

The Charisma Myth: Master the Art of Personal Magnetism

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships

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