Hari

Dismissive avoidant culture is having physical disgust when someone starts needing your reassurance constantly and assumes your life is much better just because you don’t whine about it

Avoidant attachment culture is getting the ick when someone is codependent and whines all the time without taking the matter in their own hands. Like what are you, a kid? I'm not your mother go bother someone else.

avoidant culture is getting irritated when other people get too attached / need other people for comfort, instead of keeping quiet and dealing with it independently, even if you know that way of coping is unhealthy.

avoidant culture is trying to be more emotionally open and immediately feeling ashamed and like a burden about it despite being assured that you're not

Not sure if it’s fearful/dismissive but avoidant culture is randomly getting the ick for people you care about out of nowhere and after that it’s there forever

Ive finished all Alice Osemans stand-alone book 😭 they were so good but what am i gonna read now?? Im just sad theyre over

I’m sure you’re pretty overwhelmed, so there is no pressure to do this quickly at all. i would love some heartsopper lock screens. From the comics, in color or not. No pressure, ofc, I hope you’re doing well.

One of my favorite scenes is that one in the beginning of episode two, when Nick and Charlie start texting about the Ben situation. Not just because the acting is good, but because the song played throughout this scene mentions being so nervous around someone that you aren’t always a good friend to them. And in this scene, Nick is afraid of being “too much” and tries to tone down his concern for Charlie at first, which doesn’t do any good. When he realizes that Charlie needs to know he’s supported and cared for, he takes the leap and starts saying everything he was previously too scared to say, and the moment he does so, the line “Is it cool when I don’t care?” is sung in the background. It’s not cool, and he realized that.