Witchy Business

If you go to any major mainstream clothing retailer, one that most western teens or young adults go to (since teens and young adults seem to be the most sexualized age demographic, especially in western society) such as say, Target, H&M, Forever 21, TJ Max, ect. Look at the clothes in the men’s section, and look at the clothes in the women’s section. Really compare and look at the differences between the two sections, and compare the thickness, tightness, length, and overall ‘coverage’ differences between the two sections. 

In which gender’s clothing section are you going to find most, if not all of the shorts are going to be short shorts that often barely cover more area than underwear, and in which gender’s clothing section are you going to find most if not all of the shorts are very baggy, thick, and come down to the knees? 

In which gender’s clothing section are you going to find most of the shirts are thin, tight, and low cut to the point of where you’d probably have to wear another shirt under it or wear a cardigan wear over it (which is more $$$ to buy those extra clothing articles mind you) and in which gender’s clothing section are you going to find most of the shirts are thick, loose, and baggy, and completely keep the wearer covered with no need for extra articles like a tank top or cardigan? 

In which gender’s clothing section are you going to find most of the pants are so thin and tight that you can’t even fit a phone in the pocket, and in which gender’s clothing section are the pants going to be thick, loose, and baggy enough that you can fit a small book in the pocket? 

Whose gaze is this catering to? And whose gaze is this inhibiting or outright blocking? What is the gender of the CEO’s and executives of the clothing companies designing, advertising, and selling these clothes to you? 

This is by no means meant to shame you for wearing these clothes or saying that you’re bad or evil or wrong for buying and wearing those clothes. However, I want everyone to pay attention to how capitalistic institutions like the fashion and clothing industry, which like most industries are male run and owned, sell the toxic gender norm of women/feminine = sexualized, while man/masculine = unsexualized. 

And I mean, look at the difference in your typical formal dress vs a suit. A normal suit worn by your average dude keeps your whole body covered except head and hands, while most formal dresses, at least aimed toward teenage girls and young women, are strappy, thin, low cut, and show lots of leg. Again, this is by no means shaming you or saying you’re a bad person for wearing that, but we need to analyze and think critically of how aggressively gendered it is and which gender’s clothing tends to be thinner and more revealing and which gender’s clothing tends to be thick and keep the whole body covered. A lot of times when I see clothing designs of an outfit that was originally masculine mean to be more “feminized” it’s feminized via making it shorter, lower cut, and generally more revealing, and in reverse an originally feminine outfit re-designed to be more masculine is usually made so by making it longer and generally more covering. 

One last thing I want to talk about, and that’s how girls are shamed into wearing tighter and more revealing clothes from a young age.

hey everyone! I’m going to be closing my shop from april 11th to april 18th in solidarity with other etsy sellers to protest etsy’s latest seller fee price hike and certain new policies you can read about below! you know I’m always complaining about their fees and how I prefer to be paid outside of etsy whenever possible. I hope you’ll join me and not cross the picket line from april 11th to april 18th! you know where to find me if there’s anything I have listed that you want to buy or you have an idea for a commission! 🖖🏻

I’ve done this to several men, and they catch on rather quickly. You’ll be able to have a conversation right then and there, and it works long term too - they might’ve forgot their manners by the time you talk to them again, but by repeating this, they’ll eventually learn to let you talk without you having to do this at the start of every convo. Source: I have a very stubborn older brother, who eventually learned too.

1. When they interrupt you, stop talking. Don’t try to raise your voice or battle them. Be completely quiet and wait.

2. Ignore everything they’re saying. Do not actually listen - just wait until they shut up. Don’t make a point of anything they say, do not answer to anything they say, do not refer to anything they say here. Literally do not listen a single word. Let them rant as long as they want.

3. When they finally shut up and wait for your reaction, say: ”I wasn’t done talking.”

4. Start over whatever you were saying when they interrupted you. I don’t care if it was a 10-minute explanation of rocket science. Start. Over. Repeat you original thought, but do not add anything related to what they just said while talking over you. That gives them the idea that it’s okay to interrupt you, you’ll still listen and pay attention and they’ll get their point clear without having to listen to yours. (It’s especially funny when you get done and they expect you to keep going talking about whatever they talked over you. The face when it sinks in that you didn’t listen a single word is glorious.)

5. If they interrupt you again, return to step 1. If you find yourself repeating the cycle over 3 times, tell them: ”you’re not letting me speak. Either you listen and wait for your turn, or our conversation ends here.” If they try to make excuses, laugh it off or keep interrupting, end the conversation. Prove them that if they wont let you speak, they’re not worth your time.

Why does this work? First, because sometimes talking over is internalized and men don’t actually notice they’re doing it. Being vocally called out makes them realize it and pay attention to it - especially if it happens more than once. Secondly, by refusing to aknowledge anything they say when they interrupt you, they’ll soon realize they will not get their own point across if they keep doing that. Peoole and especially men have the need to be heard and paid attention to when they talk - when you make it clear that by talking over you, they will not have your attention, they’ll learn to wait until you’re done, because they know that’s when you will be paying attention and actually listening.

Hi Guys,

So this is kind of an emergency. As you may know I am out of work currently due to treatment of my type 1 bipolar disorder, and my car has been in the shop due to a car accident (rear ended, insurance covers it) for about 3 weeks now so I cannot due Instacart or Doordash so my means of making money has been negatively affected.

I am not in the best housing situation. My mom has unresolved medical issues, and as a black parent has had to struggle for most of her life for what she has obtained. Due to this she does have the negative mindset, that since I'm not out on the streets struggling, I am not trying hard enough, and has threatened to stop paying for my college education, and my housing next semester so that I will be forced to stay in my current toxic environment. She has been like this for my whole life, to me and my brother who she kicked out in 7th grade, and living with my dad is not an option. This environment is toxic and I do not know how much longer I can here, and do not know if she will just stop paying for my tuition or housing.

You wanna know what happens once you kill yourself? Your mother comes home from work and finds her baby dead and she screams and runs over to you and tries to get you to wake up but you won’t and she keeps screaming and shaking you and her tears are dripping onto your face and your dad hears all the screaming and runs into the room and he can’t even speak because the child that he loved and the child that he watched grow up is gone forever and finally your little sister runs into the room to see what all the fuss is about and she sees you dead. The person she looked up to and loved. The person she bragged about to  her friends, the person she wanted to be just like when she grew up, the person that made her feel safe. But she’s never really going to get to grow up and smile and laugh and love because she’ll always be consumed with this feeling of missing you. And now there’s something missing from your family and they can barely look at each other anymore because everything reminds them of you but you’re gone and hurts more than anything. and you think that your mom never cared because she was always busy and yelling at you to finish your homework and clean your room and forgot to say I love you sometimes but really, she loved you more than anything and she doesn’t leave the house anymore, she can’t even get out of bed and she’s getting thinner and thinner because it’s too hard to eat. Your father had to quit his job and he doesn’t sleep anymore, every time he closes his eyes he sees his baby dead, and the image never goes away no matter how much alcohol he drinks. And at school your best friend sees that your seat is empty and she gets this sick feeling in her stomach and that’s when she hears the announcement. You killed yourself. And suddenly she’s screaming and crying in the middle of class and no one even bothers comforting because they’re all  busy sitting there staring at your empty seat with tears dripping down their cheeks and all she wants is for you to hug her and tell her it’s gonna be okay like you always did, but this time, you’re not there to do it, everything is dark now that you’re gone and her grades are slipping, she barely goes to school anymore and she ended up in hospital after taking too many pills because she wanted to see you again. the girls who used to make fun of the way you dressed feel their throats get tight, they don’t talk to each other anymore, they don’t talk to anyone, they’re all in therapy trying so hard not to blame themselves but nothing works. and your teacher who always gave you a hard time stares blankly at the wall, she quits her job a few days later. And then your boyfriend hears the news and he can’t breathe, he still calls you a lot just to hear your voice and he talks to you on facebook but you never message him back, he can’t fall in love again because every girl he meets reminds him of you, he’s never going to get over you, he loved you and he cries himself to sleep every night, hating himself and slicing his skin because he couldn’t save you and he’s never going to hold you in his arms or hear you laugh again. Now everyone who knew you, whether they were a big part of your life or someone you passed in the hallway a few times a week, they carry this aching feeling around inside them because you’re gone, and they miss you, and they don’t know why you left but it must’ve been their fault and they should’ve stopped you and they should’ve told you they loved you more and that feeling is never going to go away. And so you killed yourself

Please, if anyone out there is considering killing themselves- although you deserve to have a life, if you refuse to keep going on for yourself- at least do it for others.

She believes that having dyed hair is unprofessional and especially for “bigger” jobs like a lawyer or a doctor, it’s just unacceptable because of the societal norm. She thinks that bosses wouldn’t hire people with unnaturally coloured hair

Reblog if you think that

a) anyone is very capable of getting a job with coloured hair

b) the societal norm can get out

From a surgical nurse and certified CPR teacher:

Please pause for 2 minutes and read this:

1. Let’s say it’s 7.25pm and you’re going home (alone of course) after an unusually hard day on the job.

2. You’re really tired, upset and frustrated.

3 Suddenly you start experiencing severe pain in your chest that starts to drag out into your arm and up in to your jaw. You are only about five km from the hospital nearest your home.

4. Unfortunately you don’t know if you’ll be able to make it that far.

5. You have been trained in CPR, but the guy who taught the course did not tell you how to perform it on yourself.

6. HOW TO SURVIVE A HEART ATTACK WHEN ALONE? Since many people are alone when they suffer a heart attack without help, the person whose heart is beating improperly and who begins to feel faint, has only about 10 seconds left before losing consciousness.

7. However, these victims can help themselves by coughing repeatedly and very vigorously. A deep breath should be taken before each cough, and the cough must be deep and prolonged, as when producing sputum from deep inside the chest. A breath and a cough must be repeated about every two seconds without let-up until help arrives, or until the heart is felt to be beating normally again.

8. Deep breaths get oxygen into the lungs and coughing movements squeeze the heart and keep the blood circulating. The squeezing pressure on the heart also helps it regain normal rhythm. In this way, heart attack victims can get to a hospital.

9. Tell as many other people as possible about this. It could save their lives!!

10. A cardiologist says If everyone who gets this mail kindly sends it to 10 people, you can bet that we’ll save at least one life.

11. Rather than sending jokes, please... contribute by forwarding this mail which can save a person’s life.

12. If this message comes around you... more than once… please don’t get irritated... You should instead, be happy that you have many friends who care about you & keeps reminding you how to deal with a Heart attack.