The Secret Blog

Maybe this has something to do with the fact that I’m agender, but I find cis people’s immense attachment to the gender identity of their children frankly disturbing. 

Necessary background information: I have fallen into a YouTube trap of some sort of TedTalk video list of Parents With Trans Kids Talking About Their Feelings (which I personally don’t recommend, but here we are.)

Over and over and over again I hear these parents speaking of their trans kids in the narrative of “losing” their ‘son’ or ‘daughter’ because their child has come out as trans. They start CRYING. They legit BAWL on stage because they conceptualize their entire damn CHILD in this ONE parameter of this ONE gender - SO MUCH SO THAT THAT CHILD DECIDING TO LIVE THEIR LIFE PRESENTING IN A DIFFERENT WAY IS EQUATED TO THEM LITERALLY ‘LOSING’ THEIR WHOLE DAMN KID.

Like. Is that not…. mind-blowing? Is that not really fuckin’ weird? Your kid is RIGHT THERE. THEY’RE NOT DEAD. THEY ARE. LITERALLY. RIGHT THERE. 

This probably also has to do with ownership of children, and perceived control of their child and how they feel they have agency in the child’s relationship with their identity. But these same adults who laugh about how THEIR parents cried over them getting tattoos or piercings (changing their body permanently, etc) then turn around and pull this whole “MY BABY IS GONE” biz. 

It’s disrespectful to your child AT BEST. You are conflating their gender to their entire fucking identity as a human person with interests and talents and quirks. The fact that this is enough for you to think of your child as ‘gone’ says a whole ton about what you valued about them as a person. 

And let me tell you it was delightful. It tastes like watching the leaves changing color and dancing in the wind. It tastes like picking out pumpkins and gourds and fresh apples at the farm up north. It tastes like witches and freedom.

I make it every year now and this year I walked in the house on the morning of October first with all the ingredients and shouted ‘FALL DRINK’ and my roommates were like ‘????’ so I made them Fall Drink and now every time they get home from work they’re like ‘Fall Drink pls?????’

Also, I do something like this in the crock pot with the overly sweet Growers Pumpkin Apple Cider, chai spices, cloves, a bit of orange juice, and some super dry Pinot Grigio.

White sack wine, cider, spices (clove, cinnamon, nutmeg, mace, ginger) tea, sugar, and if you want it authentic, a bit of cream or whipped egg. All this is brought together in a low temperature and then stewed for a time. It can also be “pulled”, a process in which one “stirs” the concoction by using a ladle and pouring it repeatedly from high in the air. Makes it foamy and frothy. 

Serve warm.

And every time, I ask them, what do you think? What are you feeling? And many of them are hesitant to respond so I’ll prompt, “Was it sad? Was it boring?” And as soon as they know I’m not gonna judge them for it, 100% of the time, they respond, “I feel bad that I don’t feel as moved by it as you. You cried when you told us about it and I get that it was such a horrible day and so many people died, but I can’t really think of what life was like before or just after that time.”

That really struck me the first time I heard it because these kids really don’t remember a time when things were so carefree and relatively quiet. Little to no security screenings. Almost zero school shootings. Kids stayed outside by themselves until the street lamps came on.

Last year, my son entered kindergarten. Within the first few months, he started growing fearful, very fearful about bad guys and death. He had to go through live shooter drills and comes home and tells me he’d protect me from bad guys. And I had to hold him, both of us crying, as I told him I would be the one protecting him, and him saying he just didn’t want me to die.

all i wanna do

is make sure you live through

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