I Hate You

"This is disgusting to me" is totally valid.

"I don't want to read this because it is disgusting to me" is totally valid.

"Censorship of some topics in fiction and art is good and I would be happy if it were to be enacted in a way I approved of"

and

"some things should be banned from ever being written or read about in fiction"

are both authoritarian viewpoints to hold and express, even if you don't have the power to enact them.

Something being nasty is not a good reason to ban fiction about it.

If we accept that "something being nasty is a good reason to bad fiction about it" then we give a foot in the door for all the people who truly, genuinely believe that queer people are nasty to ban all queer literature.

Either you’re for it or you aren’t.

The moment you agree that something should never, ever exist in fiction is the moment that anything can be banned.

Remember a while back how Tumblr banned a bunch of tags, including many popular innocuous ones that even people who are for censorship used and were upset about?

When censorship happens, stuff YOU like can and will be banned. That’s how it works.

Remember how a bunch of people had their accounts terminated here only last year for writing about their own sexual abuse?

When you ban “pedo” topics, say, any talk of child sexual abuse in any form, that means people can no longer write about their own experiences. It means people cannot educate others so they can learn how to protect themselves or get help from these situations.

Censorship is authoritarian. Full stop.

Even if “everyone” agrees something is “gross” and “shouldn’t exist,” that does not fucking matter.

Do you know who generally believes queer people are gross and shouldn’t exist??

The same people who are banning books left and right solely because they have queer characters or relationships.

The same people who attack and kill queer folk for simply exisiting.

This is not just some fandom matter or a case of being chronically online.

In 2007, Livejournal capitulated to the "pedophilia and sex crimes!" cries of (hate group) Warriors 4 Innocence, and you know what communities got shut down? Slashfic communities. Sexual assault survivor support communities. Authors who'd written non-smut m/m fic even got caught up in it. It was DEVASTATING to fandom spaces. I think pretty much everyone knew at least one person whose account was literally DELETED, or were a member of a community that was wiped off the map because they were considerate enough to include topics like "sexual assault" or "BDSM" in the profiles under the badly-named category of "interests" to indicate that posts on said blogs or communities may include discussion of things like that. Even if it was for a SUPPORT group. And it was because a group of religious bigots came to LJ and said essentially "EVERYONE thinks it's gross and that it's promoting CSA, we should ban it."

Like, strikethrough and boldthrough were a large part of what propelled AO3 out of a more unfocused conversation on one person's blog about hosting a site INTENDED for fandom content, into being an actual archive and nonprofit. And it's a large part of why you won't find AO3 banning topics that you find "gross".

I had a friend. We were 12. We had just discovered fanfiction and were obsessed. We read anything and everything we could get our hands on. One of the stories we read was a "pedo fic." It exposed us to scenarios and language that hadn't ever been touched on in Sex Ed at school or with our parents. To be frank, it "corrupted our young minds with topics we shouldn't have to deal with." It also gave my friend words to finally describe why her neighbor creeped her out so much. "He's creepy and weird" gets a 12 year old scolded and lectured on being nicer. "He's a sexual predator" gets adults asking questions and involving the cops. Her neighbor "moved away."

Censorship is pro-pedo and anti-child-safety. There is no communicating what's wrong if there are no words to describe what's happening. Bad things will happen whether you have the words to ask for help or not. Censorship takes those words away.

And for those people who have access to mobility devices but might benefit from a second chair they can abuse without risking expensive damage…

Erik Kondo has made a website, Open Source Innovations, that details plans for DIY wheelchairs. These wheelchairs can be made from common materials like wood, plastic, and pvc. They are lightweight and can be custom fit to the user allowing from the same degree of movement you would get from a custom chair. And they are durable and easily repairable. (he has been stress testing his latest design by dropping it down stairs, dropping it out of a car, launching it across a driveway, and throwing it off a deck). Its 12lbs and I think he said its was in the $200 ish range for parts.

if your ostomy bags, incontinence supplies, and sanitary wipes are single-use,

if your joint replacement, bone plate, pins & screws, or spinal hardware is cobalt & chrome,

if your meds come in a plastic container you can’t recycle or reuse for sterility,

you are still innocent. you didn’t choose this particular life. we all must do what we can to survive and that includes using technology and consuming resources. it is only human and we all do it.

Don’t reuse the syringe. Don’t use cloths over alcohol swabs. Choose the battery powered device over the rechargeable if it means you can carry spares. Don’t use the reusable container if you can’t get it open. Don’t choose the reusable option if you can’t keep it clean. Don’t overfill the sharps container. Don’t improvise the tourniquet. Don’t eat the expired food if you can’t afford to be sick. Don’t choose the sustainable option if it doesn’t meet your needs.

Fed is best!!!

If eating the pre-packaged food means you might have energy for other things you want to do later then do that!

If you have to take a frozen dinner to work for your lunch because you can't stand leftover food and so meal prepping doesn't work for you, then take the frozen dinner that you know you will actually eat.

Don't feel bad for eating the same thing multiple times in a row, if that's all you can eat then that's what you should eat!

Many kids masturbate from very early years. Studies show that kids often masturbate starting at the age of 3-5, and usually only stop because the adults around them shame and humiliate them (often through religious guilt and/or purity culture), rather than just telling them what they're doing and why they should be doing it in private.

Many kids sexually touch each other, too. This includes siblings and cousins and whatnot (studies show extremely high incest rates between young children because they don't understand its not a familial act), because they don't know any better, and you have to teach them if you expect them not to do that.

Kids deserve to understand what is happening to their bodies, deserve proper explanations of their feelings, and deserve to understand how to be safe sexually.

FOOD

Find your nearest food bank or mission, for food

grocery stores with free samples, bakeries + stores with day-old bread

different fast food outlets have cheaper food and will generally let you hang out for a while.

some dollar stores carry food like cans of beans or fruit

SHELTER

Sleeping at beaches during the day is a good way to avoid suspicion and harassment

sleep with your bag strapped to you, so someone can’t steal it

Some churches offer short term residence

Find your nearest homeless shelter

Look for places that are open to the public

A large dumpster near a wall can often be moved so that flipping up the lids creates an angled shelter to stay dry

HYGIENE

A membership to the YMCA is usually only 10$, which has a shower, and sometimes laundry machines and lockers.

Public libraries have bathrooms you can use

Dollar stores carry low-end soaps and deodorant etc.

Wet wipes are all purpose and a life saver

Local beaches, go for a quick swim

Some truck stops have showers you can pay for

Staying clean is the best way to prevent disease, and potentially get a job to get back on your feet

Pack 7 pairs of socks/undies, 2 outfits, and one hooded rain jacket

OTHER

first aid kit

 sunscreen

 a travel alarm clock or watch

 mylar emergency blanket

 a backpack is a must

 downgrade your cellphone to a pay as you go with top-up cards

 sleeping bag

 travel kit of toothbrush, hair brush/comb, mirror

 swiss army knife

Going on 6 months homeless now and have to say PLEASE search online for your local resources immediately. Even within the same county, I reached out to maybe 20 resources before being able to get into a shelter. The one that helped me was a mental illness and substance use recovery nonprofit that told me which homeless outreach division to contact. Where I live, these are departments within local police. I was eventually placed in the shelter I’m currently in through that roundabout way.

On top of that, I only found out about the nonprofit that gave me that advice because a mental health org i was already familiar with.

The shelters in my county are always full and there are multiple. From what I’ve seen, there are always more beds for men than women too, so your gender identity will shape your odds too.

I was in inpatient and residential for a month and was released to live in my car. Even while at a shelter now, the housing navigators never find places for residents and the only hope people have is through external case managers through their insurance or the og plan: moving in with a partner or family. With the latter, I’m seeing like 4 adults and 3 kids in 2 bedrooms.

Idk, this is a long rant but in short: everything is region dependent. Going to food banks didn’t work for me because besides fruit and PB it was all things that needed microwaving at minimum.

In my situation, these things were key:

I intentionally bought my car for car camping when i chose it. The months living in my car would have been even worse if it wasn’t a hatchback.

I was able to donate plasma to get cash quick, a out $80/week in average. But I didn’t get those funds if I wasn’t getting enough protein and ended up deferred

SNAP/EBT/food stamps were most important because my state offers a special program that allows homeless people to use their ebt at restaurants that will accept it.

Everything is 100x harder with ADHD in terms of sticking to a schedule and getting things done. You don’t realize how great it is to be able to leave your toothbrush on a bathroom counter or hang an outfit for the next day on your door until you don’t have those options anymore. I miss having a desk the most

I was able to continue my healthcare plan due to loopholes with my transition from employer’s hmo to state health insurance. This was a MAJOR privilege for me. The hospitals that accept the state insurance are often slow with really subpar care. Broken bones not treated correctly etc.

Free unlimited monthly cellphone service with data (i use the hotspot to do homework)

Access to college resources like the basic needs center

Free entry to local gardens and museums for two adults when i show my ebt card

Discounted Amazon Prime with ability to use ebt to buy eligible foods on there (this has been so helpful for me when I’ve been sick as they deliver to the shelter too)

Medical meals covered through state insurance+snap for me

When I was doing my criminology degree, I went to several professors with several thesis ideas, and all of them were denied. These were all ideas based on transmasculine crime and victimology stats. Every professor shot down every thesis I had on ideas related to transmasc victims of various crimes.

Their reasoning? There's no need for this. This is useless. Nobody is interested in reading about trans men and transmascs being victims of crimes. They wouldn't even let me do my thesis on estimating more accurate stats on transmasculine victims of homicide. Which is an INCREDIBLY important thing!

I’m not going to finish it, but I will show what I already have. So, if it reads weird in some places that’s why, anyway here it is:

Disney Adults: Fat, Obsessed, and Broke (or are they?)

If you’re a Disney fan, watch Disney content, or just commentary content in general, you’ve probably heard of Disney Adults. Disney Adults are typically portrayed as adults who are obsessed with all things Disney, to a humiliating degree. Now, you probably feel like the title is pretty harsh, but do you disagree? Or do know someone who would? Disney Adults are the internet’s favorite punching bag, they’re easy to mock and get easy engagement; an audience that is ready and willing to gawk at their fat, obsessive, broke selves. Admittedly, I used to watch this content, I thought of it as an easy-to-consume reaction video that I watch while eating. Until, I had an epiphany….

I don’t remember the YouTuber but I remember the TikTok, it was a pretty popular one people used when making fun of Disney adults; it was the Winnie the Poo girl.

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I don’t know if the woman was autistic (and I’m not going to assume), but the way she flapped her hands and something about her love for Poo Bear made me think:

“You know, this woman might be autistic and has a hyperfixation.

Wait-

Is making fun of Disney Adults ableist?”

Yeah, Making Fun of Disney Adults is kinda Ableist

A big thing Disney Adults are mocked for is their love for fictional characters, especially the mascots. There are plenty of videos of people commentating and parodying Disney Adults for crying when they meet their favorite characters.

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But why? What is so funny or strange about adults liking fictional characters? Well, I guess the answer is pretty obvious. It’s highly frowned upon for adults to be into children’s media, of course it’s gotten better over the years, but there’s still some tension. You see, even though there’s some niche online spaces for people to nerd out about their favorite things, adults doing childish hobbies still gets some pushback from the general public or “the normies”. That’s why you can’t just tell your coworkers about a thing you like the same way you can on an online forum.

That’s why commentary YouTubers who talk about Disney Adults don’t really have strong interests themselves, or openly identify as autistic (at least as far as I can tell). They don’t know what it’s like to have hyperfixations or have heightened senses that would make someone cry more. And the fact that these creators don’t even consider autism being a reason for this behavior, can lead to the normalization of bullying autistic traits in adults, because you’ll always compare them to the one’s of Disney adults and just think that they’re freaks and weirdos.

Look, I know not every Disney Adult is autistic, but that doesn’t mean none of them are. And I think it can be really harmful to assume the former, since there’s already an uncomfortable rise of things like the r-slur and those Ableist trends that happened as few years ago (ie. “Are you acoustic?”). I don’t think it’s crazy for me to think that this can lead to further ableism on the internet.

Unfortunately, Disney Adult commentary doesn’t just stop at ableism, it also crosses the boundary of fatphobia.

The Fatphobia is STRONG with this one

Another thing Disney Adults are made fun of for is their weight, so much so that it’s a defining physical characteristic of Disney Adults.

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I think it’s pretty obvious why this is bad, people shouldn’t be ridiculed on the internet for their weight, it’s an obvious act of fatphobia. It’s also clearly used to show the “consumeristic greed” of Disney Adults, like their physical gluttony represents their savage love for Disney. Which is obviously insane and hateful, people aren’t “bad” or “obsessive” just because of their weight and it’s ridiculous to think so.

Since this part is pretty obvious, I’ll move on to my next point: Disney debt.

Exploiting the Debt of Disney Adults for Views: AKA One Reason Why We are Never Gaining Class Solidarity

Financial bros or people who are nosy about other’s finances, like to ogle at the mountains of debt that Disney Adults get into when going to Disney.

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It’s no secret that Disney World is expensive, but for some reason, we need to be reminded through other people’s financial humiliation? Well, I guess it isn’t for “some reason”, the reason is that it makes the audience feel better about themselves.

Think about, what are you learning about finances watching some family in Florida spend thousands of dollars on Disney? Nothing, all you feel is a superiority complex knowing that you’re not like those “crazy Disney Adults”, regardless of how bad your financial circumstances.

I call this an act of classism because it discourages the act of class solidarity, because it makes people in the same class look down on each other. This way of thinking accomplishes nothing and further distracts us from the source of our economic condition. So we can feel better than a family that’s trying to have a good vacation that’s being exploited by corporate monopoly.

And that leaves me to my real question, despite all this, why do we still make fun of Disney Adults?

We Hate Autistic Fat people (in a woke way of course)

Disney is a horrible company, they have done material harm to others, people have accused them of ruining their favorite franchises, and they have bought out so many other media companies that they’re inescapable. A lot of people aren’t fond of Disney, so when they see Disney adults, they have this immediate negative reaction.

And to an extent they’re right, blindly supporting a company just because you grew up with their IP is not good, and should be criticized.

waoh stop spinning you're too fasts for me, and i'm a finch.

and im a finch

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's just a character that isn't a hairless baby

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's just an alt dressing transmasc

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's just a transfem's self insert that didn't shave this morning before leaving the house

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's just the concept of HRT working differently for different people

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's a nonbinary person daring to prefer combining traits over removing all of them

"this is a transphobic caricature" and it's just an intersex person drawing their actual fucking body

Growing and still now yk my self esteem is SOOOO low, i always left so insignificant so when a man who sees himself as god thinks I AM worthy of his love it is empowering. Being worshipped and loved by a man LIKE wesker feels like you are as important as him. Im like the only one in my friend group who loves wesker and they all see him as a villain and im like “YES.. he is 1000000% an evil man who did numbers of bad stuff..” but the appeal of getting THAT mans approval… good golly..

ESPECIALLY when hes written with plus sized ladies, i couldn’t feel more better in my body. I love wesker and everyone knows it 🤷🏻‍♀️

PRECISELY!

My type has always been villains and morally grey characters. It makes me such a pick me but I loooove the idea of being the poor little meow meow exception for the guy who doesn't give a shit about anyone or actively hates the world. I wanna be special and his no1 priority and the one he'll raze everything to the ground for 🥰 where's that post that said "the hero will sacrifice you to save the world. The villain will sacrifice the world to save you"? Like THAT is what i want and I refuse to feel ashamed. I DO wanna be the Mary Sue in this story, what of it?

Ik it's not healthy to get validation from other people and use that as a substitute for your self esteem, but I've been fat my whole life. I don't remember what it was like to not feel bad about what I look like. Even now when ive come to accept myself and feel more or less neutrally about my body (i cant ever love myself, but at least I stopped hating myself so there's that) I still don't feel confident and comfortable around others all the time. I don't know what having proper self esteem looks like, so getting validation from others is the only way for me to possess any sort of self esteem lmao. 3 days ago I saw two teenagers laughing to themselves and looking in my direction and im still convinced they were laughing at me even tho they probably weren't. Like im always so fucking aware of how I look and that it is NOT good. Not desirable. And it's not me feeling sorry for myself (though internally it kind of is), it's just a fact. Im 25 and I haven't kissed someone properly, haven't been on a date, haven't held hands or had sex. No one has ever confessed their feelings for me or admitted to finding me attractive (unless it was weirdos on dating sites who only see me as a fetish and wouldn't actually want to be seen out in public with me).

I've missed out on so many 'core' experiences like stupid 'relationships' in middle school that lasted 2 weeks, and messy relationships in high school that ended in tears. I will never know what it's like to awkwardly fumble around with a peer who's just as clueless as you when you're figuring out how to kiss or have sex. I'll always be behind all my friends who are in happy, committed relationships, who are married, who have kids already, while I'm still waiting for my first date at 25.

So obviously the guy who hates humanity and thinks himself so superior he calls himself a god is going to steal my heart and make me fall in love, duh?? If HE likes me, if HE loves me, if HE gets turned on by the way i look, then that must mean I'm lovable and desirable after all.

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he asking you not to erase his lived experience?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or has he been scared by all the posts mocking male transition results into thinking he'll be a laughingstock if he starts balding?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or has he seen masculine people be treated as inherently predatory so often that he holds this back to be seen as a person?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is he trying to avoid being treated the way you treat masculine people?

Does that trans man actually "want to be seen as a woman" or is his childhood still influencing how he conducts himself?

please, please, please remember that this "hating transmascs" and "kill all TMEs" bullshit is just a few edgy weirdos on the internet who enjoy saying inflammatory things for shock value.

transfems are not your enemy, and YES, you do actually need to unlearn transmisogyny. Not because you're transmasc, but because we live in a transmisogynistic society.

transfems are not a hivemind, there's no broader transfem consensus that transmascs are Evil Privileged Abusers, but the small group of people who think that way WANT you to believe that they are representative of trans women everywhere. they're super not. they really are just a handful of angsty people online looking for someone to pick on.

all trans people have more commonalities than differences. there aren't two distinct species of trans people from two different planets, there are just trans people with a wide diversity of experiences and walks of life. we are all affected by the same systems of oppression.