BERNIE LIVES!

- Come and sit with us. We're family. We need to be there for each other. - I'm fine. People die every day.

✨ AFTERNOON ✨

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She's not prudish or inexperienced or naive. She's sex-postive. She vouches for her daughter's sexual freedom without being shamed for it, she's cool if Allegra wants to experiment, aware of what it is to send a sexual photo.

She's good with hickeys, with kissing in public, the art of seduction, threesomes, same-sex encounters, she takes mushrooms, has sex in a workplace, has a phone call where she masterbates, likes dirty talk, isn't horrified at the thought of swinging. She's not appalled by gaining male attention and she's very good at flirting too. She prides herself on her looks: her appeal.

BUT she clearly sees sex as intimacy. It's painful for her to be so apart from Raef, and in trying to restore her marriage, she uses sex as a part of that. She hopes for sex and/or sexual contact. She takes it incredibly seriously: it's horrible and confronting to be unfaithful to Raef and she is very guilty about it, despite him doing the same. In addition, in her moments of destabilisation, when her self-esteem is at her lowest, she tries to address this by chasing physical intimacy - like when she attempts to kiss Daniel, or even when she lies to a boy to get her to notice her back when she was young.

Touch equivocates to love. It's not just sex.

BUT we also have the shaming and the weaponisation of her sexuality or desire for sex. Her father, particularly, says he had to be controlling because she was promiscuous. She's described as a handful or as wild. Raef hates her "constant need". Gigi throws out the idea that she was "seduced" by Raef and Juliet. Allegra judges her, Lorna judges her, and she's brought to near-tears by it all.

Lord Corlys went much further, declaring that Ser Addam and his brother, Alyn, were “true Velaryons,” worthy heirs to Driftmark. – Fire and Blood

Every man has the right to expect his mad wife in the attic to behave appropriately.