this is not a place of honor

your stoic f/o’s love for you is canon compliant. they are capable of feeling love and showing affection. and you’ve surely done the work you need to show them you’re a safe and trustworthy person; they wouldn’t be dating you if you didn’t.

think about it: they’ve got passions, don’t they? they have a hobby they sink loads of hours into on a regular basis. they have a favorite type of music, or a favorite movie or sport, or a collection they’re proud of. they’ll defend the “correct” way to take their coffee or tea like their life depends on it. they’ve got opinions— strong ones, at that. so who’s to say it wouldn’t be possible for them to commit to another person? who’s to say they can’t love someone like they love their other interests?

if i asked how you know your partner loves you, you’d be able to name a slew of things they do to show their appreciation for you, wouldn’t you? a stoic f/o is not a “devoid of all emotion” f/o. your place in their life is not undeserved or unrealistic. they care. they love you. i know you know that~

What other people imagine it feels like:

What it actually feels like:

ily people who write angst into your selfship lore.

ily people who have the craziest, most convoluted selfship lore known to man.

ily people who write tropey selfship lore, like enemies to lovers or friends to lovers or found family or enemies to friends.

ily people who write selfship lore that has NOTHING to do with canon at all

ily people who base their selfship lore on preexisting canon characters or fanfiction or ocs.

ily people who base their selfship lore on songs or poems or specific canon dialogue.

ily people who have no selfship lore at all.

ily people who make a crazy amount of aus with their selfship, like coffee shop aus or vampire aus or soulmate aus.

ily people who aren't afraid to "be cringe" in their selfship lore, make "Mary Sue's" or overpowered s/is or whatever people think is lame.

keep doin u