Love bombing is a real thing ; a real Toxic thing ā¦
A few years back I met a girl ,she was nice
Although we did not have very much in common I chose to give her a chance . We went out on a few dates. on one of those dates as I was getting ready to leave the house
I dropped my phone and it broke I didnāt think much of it , I was mostly annoyed that I would have to add this expense to the ever growing list that I already had .
That night on the date she noticed my phone was broke and offered to buy me a new one , of course I said NO but I didnāt think much of it . At the end of this date
She offered to bring me lunch at work the following day Which I was ok with .
The next day during lunch she shows up with lunch , but not only did she have my lunch but she had a brand new phone with her , newer than what I previously had ⦠honestly I felt a little annoyed
I said to her ā I canāt take this ā I appreciate it but I canāt take it , let me pay for it . This turned into please take it it will mean so much if you do!! I already paid for it and it will be a hassle to take back , needless to say I ended up with a new phone. This was just the beginning I should have trusted my Gut , I should have trusted that vibe I was getting
This only put me in the position where I felt like I had to answer every text
Answer every call I mean itās the least I can do since she bought me the phone right ? Anyway we started hanging out more and more . Soon it became a relationship , throughout our relationship she would shower me with gifts
Rings ,earrings ,bracelets , clothes , shoes
Endless gifts in the beginning I was impressed she really pays attention and listens and is so thoughtful , this girl knows my worth and is in celebration of it! I didnāt realize this was a form of manipulation!! I felt like I owed this woman so much . This relationship became so exhausting . It got to the point where I wanted out but didnāt know how .
I mean how can I repay all of her kindness with telling her I want to break up? This led to an endless cycle of breaking up and getting back together
Her magic phrase āafter everything I have done for you ā???