#toxic ex

HUENINGKAI

𝚆: love bombing, emotional whiplash, clingy possessiveness.

TAEHYUN

𝚆: condescension, superiority complex, belittling.

BEOMGYU

𝚆: suggestive and a mention of jerking off, emotional whiplash, verbal cruelty disguised as playfulness.

SOOBIN

𝚆: victim playing, passive-aggressiveness, psychological manipulation.

YEONJUN

𝚆: cursing-verbal aggression, threats of violence (against other men), revenge porn (nudes) threats.

𝙽𝚊𝚗𝚒'𝚜 𝙽𝚘𝚝𝚎: who would u dislike having as your ex more? i could probably handle all of their dumbasses except tyun's. i would drown in my tears if someone talked to me like that.

Yeon Sieun

Would honestly be the most mature out of everyone — but that doesn’t actually mean he’d handle the breakup well. Out of the group he’d look the most put together. The one who seems calm, collected, and completely unaffected. Anyone watching from the outside would probably think he moved on immediately.

But that’s just the mask he wears.

Si-eun is extremely good at hiding what he feels. On the surface he continues going to class like normal, answering questions, keeping his usual quiet expression. He doesn’t cause a scene, doesn’t beg for you back, and definitely doesn’t show anger in public. If someone asked him about the breakup he’d just shrug it off like it didn’t matter.

Inside though, it’s the complete opposite.

He notices everything about you whether he wants to or not. Where you sit, who you talk to, what time you arrive to school. Like he didn’t already know that…

His eyes drift to you constantly without him even realizing it. If you laugh with someone else across the classroom his focus is completely gone for the rest of the period.

In the hallways he watches you more than he should. Not in an obvious way — Si-eun is far too careful for that. He’s subtle. Quiet. Calculated. Standing somewhere that gives him a clear view of you passing by. Walking the same route between classes because he knows it’s the one you take.

And the worst part is you probably wouldn’t even notice.

He’s too good at blending into the background. Too observant for his own good.

After the breakup he does give you space technically. He won’t approach you, won’t start conversations, won’t try to force anything between you again. But that distance doesn’t mean he’s actually letting go.

It just means he’s watching from farther away.

Si-eun tells himself he’s only making sure you’re okay. That he’s just used to paying attention to you after all this time. But deep down he knows that isn’t the whole truth. There’s something obsessive about the way he keeps track of you without meaning to.

He remembers your schedule better than his own. Notices immediately if something is different. If you’re late. If someone new is walking beside you. If you look upset.

And he hates that he still cares that much.

So instead of confronting it, he buries it like he buries everything else. Pretends it doesn’t exist. Keeps his distance while quietly observing from the edges of the room, the hallway, the courtyard.

To everyone else, Yeon Si-eun looks completely unaffected by the breakup.

But if someone paid close enough attention, they’d notice his eyes always end up on you eventually — no matter where you are.

Ahn Suho

Would honestly act like the breakup never even happened.

Not in a dramatic denial kind of way — more like he simply refuses to acknowledge that anything has changed between you. One day you’re together, the next day you say it’s over, and somehow Suho just… continues like normal.

He still talks to you the same way he always did. Still walks up to you in the hallway like nothing is different. Still casually throws your name into conversations with his friends as if you’re still part of his daily life.

If someone reminds him that you two broke up, there’s usually a long pause.

He just stares at them for a moment.

Not confused exactly — more like he’s processing whether that information actually matters. Then he shrugs it off and goes right back to whatever he was saying before, like the comment never happened.

To him, the connection he had with you doesn’t just disappear because of a breakup.

It doesn’t work like that in his head.

At first it might seem harmless. Just Suho being stubborn and refusing to accept the situation. But the longer it goes on, the more uncomfortable it starts to feel.

Because he’s always around.

You notice him appearing in places you didn’t expect him to be. The same convenience store after school. The same hallway even when he doesn’t have a class there. Sitting somewhere nearby during lunch when he used to sit somewhere completely different.

It starts feeling less like coincidence.

If you actively try to avoid him, that’s when it becomes obvious.

Somehow he always knows where you are. If you take a different route home, he ends up on that street too. If you spend time somewhere new, he eventually shows up there. It isn’t loud or aggressive — Suho isn’t the type to corner you or cause a scene.

But the pattern becomes impossible to ignore.

He’s keeping track of you.

Not in a way that feels calculated or manipulative like some people would. Suho doesn’t see it that way at all. In his mind he’s just… staying close. Making sure you’re okay. Being around in case you need him.

When you finally tell him directly that it makes you uncomfortable, that’s when things actually change.

Because despite everything, Suho does listen to you.

If you genuinely tell him to stop, he will. He won’t follow you around anymore or show up everywhere you go. The moment he realizes he’s crossed a line that makes you uneasy, he backs off.

Not because he suddenly accepts the breakup.

But because he loves you enough to respect what you’re asking.

Still, that doesn’t mean he fully lets go.

Even after he stops appearing everywhere, he still quietly keeps tabs on you from a distance. Asking mutual friends how you’re doing. Noticing when something seems wrong. Paying attention to things people casually mention about you.

He tells himself it’s harmless.

That he’s just making sure you’re safe.

That he’d do the same for anyone he cares about.

But deep down, part of him knows the real reason he keeps checking.

Because even after the breakup, Ahn Suho never really stopped thinking of you as someone he has to protect.

Oh Beomseok

When I say he’d be one of the worst exes, I’m not exaggerating.

Beomseok would easily be the most emotionally messy and toxic out of everyone. The breakup wouldn’t just upset him — it would completely consume him. One moment he’s acting like he can’t live without you, and the next he’s pretending you meant absolutely nothing to him.

There’s no balance with him.

At night your phone would start lighting up with voice messages from him. Long ones. You’d open them and immediately hear him crying, his voice shaking as he begs for you to come back.

He’d say things like he can’t sleep, that everything feels empty without you, that he doesn’t know what he did wrong. Sometimes he’d apologize over and over again, promising he’ll change if you just give him another chance.

It would almost sound genuine.

But then the next day you’d hear something completely different.

Around his friends he’d suddenly act like he doesn’t care at all. Talking about how he’s over you, how you weren’t even that important to begin with. Sometimes he’d go even further and start saying nasty things about you just to protect his pride.

Like he needs to convince everyone — including himself — that he’s the one who moved on.

The switch between those two sides is so extreme it’s exhausting.

One night he’s crying in your voicemail like you’re the most important person in his life. The next day he’s laughing with his friends while pretending you’re the worst thing that ever happened to him.

It’s completely unstable.

Then there’s the gifts.

Even after the breakup he’d start buying you things — snacks you like, small gifts, random items he remembers you mentioning once. Instead of giving them to you directly, he leaves them outside your door.

Sometimes neatly placed. Sometimes just sitting there like he dropped them off in a hurry.

But he doesn’t always leave quietly.

A lot of the time he ends up standing there too, knocking on your door late at night with red eyes and tear-stained cheeks. When you open the door he’s already crying again, asking if you can just talk for a few minutes.

And it happens over and over again.

It gets to the point where it feels suffocating. Like there’s never a moment where he isn’t somehow trying to pull you back into the situation.

The worst part is when his lies start catching up to him.

Eventually people start hearing both sides — the way he talks badly about you in public and the desperate messages he sends you in private. If you finally show proof of those voice messages or texts just to defend yourself, most people immediately realize what’s really been happening.

And of course, they believe you.

That’s when Beomseok spirals again.

Your phone fills with even more voice messages, this time full of apologies. He cries even harder, saying he didn’t mean anything he said, that he only said those things because he was hurt.

He’ll say he’s sorry a hundred times in the same message.

But the cycle never really stops.

He goes from begging, to pretending he hates you, to begging again. Over and over. Constant messages, random gifts, emotional breakdowns at your door.

Beomseok wouldn’t necessarily be dangerous.

But he would be exhausting.

The kind of ex who never fully leaves you alone — always finding some way to pull your attention back to him, making sure you never get a single day where you can completely forget about him.

Park Humin

In a lot of ways, he’d be similar to Suho — but way more persistent.

Baku deals with the breakup the way he deals with most stressful things in his life: by pretending it isn’t happening. He already has a lot on his plate. Responsibilities, problems, people depending on him. Adding heartbreak to that list is something he refuses to process.

So instead of accepting it, he just… ignores it.

From his perspective, the relationship didn’t end. You might have said the words, but Baku doesn’t treat them like they mean anything.

He’s still just as affectionate as before.

He throws an arm around your shoulders like it’s the most natural thing in the world. Walks beside you like nothing has changed. Drops the same cheesy pickup lines he always used, half teasing and half serious.

“Did you miss me?”

“You look good today.”

Stuff like that — said casually, like the breakup conversation never happened.

And if you pull away or tell him to stop, he just keeps talking. Not aggressively, not angrily — he simply runs straight over the comment like he didn’t even hear it.

If a friend brings it up, it’s the exact same thing.

Someone might say, “Didn’t you guys break up?”

Baku won’t even pause.

He continues his sentence mid-thought like the interruption didn’t exist at all, smoothly redirecting the conversation somewhere else. It’s almost impressive how easily he brushes it aside.

To everyone else it looks like he’s just being stubborn.

But the truth is that the idea of actually accepting the breakup hurts more than he’s willing to deal with.

Because Baku genuinely loves you.

That’s why when you finally sit him down and clearly explain that his behavior makes you uncomfortable, the mask cracks.

For the first time since the breakup, he actually stops pretending.

And that’s when he breaks down.

Not dramatically at first — it starts quietly. His expression changes, his voice gets tight, and suddenly he’s asking you not to do this to him. He tells you he doesn’t understand why things have to end like this.

Eventually the begging starts.

He tells you he loves you. That losing you is one more thing he can’t handle right now. That everything in his life already feels like it’s falling apart and you’re the one person he thought would stay.

Seeing him like that makes things harder.

Because you do feel bad.

You know his life isn’t simple. You know the pressure he’s constantly under. Part of you understands why he tried to pretend the breakup didn’t exist in the first place.

So maybe you give him a little leeway.

You try to be patient. You try to explain your boundaries instead of just shutting him out completely.

But patience doesn’t mean those boundaries disappear.

And Baku eventually realizes that.

On the surface, he starts respecting what you asked for. He stops touching you as much, stops acting like you’re still together in front of other people. He tells you he understands and that he won’t push you anymore.

And he really does mean it.

But Baku is also smart.

Instead of ignoring the breakup outright like before, he just becomes… subtler about everything.

He still finds ways to be around you. Still checks in on you. Still manages to show up in the same places you are. But now it’s harder to call him out for it because he isn’t crossing any obvious lines anymore.

He looks like he’s respecting your space.

And technically, he is.

He just got a lot slicker about staying close to you anyway.

Go Hyuntak

He’s one of the other people who would seem mature about the breakup — at least on the surface.

Unlike some of the others, Gotak actually acknowledges that the relationship is over. If you say you’re done, he doesn’t argue with you about it or pretend it didn’t happen. He understands what boundaries are, and logically he knows he should respect them.

And technically… he does.

He doesn’t try to force you back into the relationship. He doesn’t publicly embarrass you or cause scenes. If someone asks him about the breakup he’ll admit it happened without hesitation.

But that doesn’t mean he’s able to detach from you.

Because when it comes to you, Gotak has almost no self-control.

Every time he sees you his first instinct is still the same as it always was. He smiles automatically and lifts his hand in a small wave before he even realizes what he’s doing. Sometimes the greeting turns into a short conversation because he can’t stop himself from asking how you’ve been.

And once the conversation starts, it’s hard for him to end it.

Even when he knows he probably should.

He tells himself he’ll keep things short and respectful, but then he keeps standing there, talking to you like everything is normal. Asking questions, listening to what you say, letting the moment stretch longer than it probably should.

The same thing happens when you walk away.

Without really thinking about it, he starts walking in the same direction. At first it feels harmless — like he’s just heading the same way. But sometimes he doesn’t even notice how long he’s been trailing behind you until he suddenly realizes he followed you halfway across campus.

Or worse.

All the way home.

That’s when the guilt hits.

Because Gotak knows how that looks.

Online it isn’t much better. He checks your social media constantly — way more than he should. At first it’s just curiosity, wanting to see how you’re doing. But it quickly turns into a habit he can’t stop.

Every new post. Every story. Every comment.

He notices all of it.

Sometimes he checks so often that he already knows what you’ve posted within minutes. It becomes almost automatic, like muscle memory whenever he unlocks his phone.

Even when he tells himself to stop, he ends up doing it again anyway.

And despite everything, he’s still extremely protective of you.

If any of his friends try to talk badly about you after the breakup, he shuts it down immediately. The first time someone makes a disrespectful comment he’ll warn them to stop.

If they keep going, he doesn’t hesitate to get physical.

Gotak won’t tolerate anyone insulting you, even if you’re not together anymore.

In his mind, just because the relationship ended doesn’t mean his respect for you did.

The strange part is that a lot of his behavior isn’t even intentional.

There are moments where he genuinely doesn’t realize how focused he is on you until someone points it out — or until he suddenly notices that he’s been staring in your direction for way too long.

And when he does realize it, he feels terrible.

He knows he should be better about keeping his distance. He knows constantly watching you and drifting toward you like that isn’t healthy for either of you.

But every time he tries to pull himself away, the same thing happens again the next time he sees you.

Because when it comes to you, Gotak’s biggest problem isn’t that he doesn’t understand your boundaries.

It’s that he understands them… and still can’t fully stop himself from gravitating back toward you anyway.

Seo Juntae

This would honestly be the only time Juntae ever really does something wrong.

Normally he’s the kindest person in the room. The one who tries to do the right thing no matter what. Even during the breakup he would be respectful about it. If you said you needed space, he wouldn’t argue or try to change your mind.

He would nod, apologize if he thought he hurt you somehow, and promise to respect your boundaries.

And technically… he does.

He doesn’t approach you anymore. Doesn’t try to force conversations or confront you about the relationship. If you pass each other in the hallway he’ll look away first and pretend he didn’t notice.

To anyone watching, it looks like he handled the breakup in the healthiest way possible.

But that’s only the part people can see.

Because Juntae’s problem isn’t confrontation.

His problem is that he watches.

Quietly. Constantly. From a distance.

Juntae is the kind of person people overlook easily. He’s quiet, polite, and usually keeps to himself. Most people don’t pay much attention to him when he’s standing somewhere nearby.

And after the breakup, that becomes the exact thing he uses.

He positions himself in places where he can see you without being noticed. Sitting at a table across the courtyard. Standing at the edge of the hallway during class changes. Hanging around places you usually pass through.

Always just far enough away that it doesn’t look suspicious.

He tells himself he’s only making sure you’re doing okay.

But the truth is that he can’t stop paying attention to you.

Sometimes he follows you too — not directly beside you, never close enough for you to notice. Just trailing behind at a distance where you wouldn’t think twice about someone walking the same direction.

He knows which routes you take between classes. Knows which convenience store you stop at after school. Knows the small details about your routine because he keeps quietly observing them.

And the entire time he convinces himself it’s harmless.

Because he would never want to make you uncomfortable.

That’s the reason everything he does stays hidden.

Even the small things.

If he notices you’re having a rough day or remembers a snack you like, he might buy it and leave it on your desk before class starts. Something simple — your favorite drink, your favorite candy.

Then he doesn’t stay to take credit for it.

Instead, he waits somewhere nearby where you can’t see him. Maybe around the corner of the hallway or sitting somewhere across the classroom. Just watching to see your reaction when you find it.

When you pick it up and smile or start eating it, Juntae feels a quiet sense of relief.

Like he managed to make you happy without crossing the boundary you set.

Online it isn’t much different.

He still wants to talk to you, but he knows he shouldn’t message you directly anymore. So instead he creates anonymous accounts — nothing obvious, nothing connected back to him.

From those accounts he’ll like your posts, leave comments, sometimes even start small conversations.

Not anything creepy or aggressive.

Just normal interactions that blend in with everyone else.

To you, it probably looks like a random follower.

But to Juntae, it’s the only way he feels like he can still stay connected to you without breaking the promise he made to respect your space.

And that’s the strange part of it all.

In his mind, he’s still trying to be considerate.

Even while he’s secretly watching you, quietly following you, and keeping track of your life from the background where he thinks you’ll never notice him.

Geum Seongje

Easily the worst one.

While some of the others try to hide their behavior or convince themselves they’re being respectful, Seongje doesn’t bother with any of that. The breakup doesn’t make him sad or reflective — it makes him angry.

And when Seongje gets angry, he turns the situation into a game.

Instead of leaving you alone, he starts actively tormenting you. Not subtly either. He doesn’t hide it, doesn’t pretend it’s a coincidence. If he’s following you around, he makes sure you know it.

You’ll look over your shoulder and he’s just… there.

Leaning against a wall, sitting somewhere nearby, staring at you with that same irritating grin like he’s amused by the whole situation.

Your phone becomes another problem.

He calls constantly. Over and over again. Sometimes you answer hoping he’ll say something important — but most of the time he doesn’t even have a real reason for calling.

Sometimes he just sits on the line in silence.

Sometimes he laughs and hangs up.

Other times he’ll start saying random things just to annoy you, clearly enjoying the fact that he’s getting under your skin. If you block his number he’ll just find another way to call you.

And the worst part is that Seongje has way too much free time.

Unlike other people who have responsibilities or places they actually need to be, he doesn’t. Which means he can show up almost anywhere.

And he does.

If you’re hanging out with your friends somewhere, eventually he’ll appear out of nowhere and insert himself into whatever you’re doing. Sitting down at the same table, interrupting conversations, making sarcastic comments just to ruin the atmosphere.

Most people don’t even try to argue with him.

They know how he is.

If you’re working somewhere part-time, he’ll show up there too. Sometimes alone, sometimes with a couple of his goons. They’ll intentionally cause problems — being loud, making messes, bothering other customers.

All of it just to make your shift harder.

If things get bad enough, it could even get you in trouble with your boss.

But the absolute worst situations happen when you try to move on.

If he finds out you’re on a date with someone else, he doesn’t ignore it.

He crashes it.

Seongje will walk right into the place you’re at, sit down like he belongs there, and start picking a fight with the guy you’re seeing. It doesn’t take much for things to escalate either.

More than once it ends with him beating the guy down right in front of you.

Not even because the other person did anything wrong — just because Seongje wants to prove a point.

After that, people start getting nervous about being around you.

Friends hesitate to invite you places because they don’t want him showing up and causing problems. Coworkers get uncomfortable. Anyone who might want to get close to you eventually realizes they could end up dealing with him too.

And that’s exactly what Seongje wants.

If he can’t have you anymore, he’ll make sure no one else gets to enjoy being around you either.

To him, ruining things for you is just another way of staying involved in your life.

Na Baekjin

Honestly, it’s hard to even call what he feels love.

Na Baekjin doesn’t love people the way normal people do. What he does is obsess. Possess. Control. If you were in a relationship with him, it was never really about affection in the first place.

You were something he had.

So when you told him you wanted to break up, the reaction was… strange.

He didn’t argue. Didn’t raise his voice. Didn’t try to stop you. He just looked at you with that same unreadable expression and said nothing.

No begging. No anger. No reaction at all.

Which honestly made it feel like things might actually end peacefully.

You probably walked away thinking it was over. Thinking that somehow you got lucky and avoided a bigger problem.

But of course you were wrong.

Completely wrong.

Because this is Na Baekjin.

He’s not the kind of person who reacts immediately or emotionally. If anything, he’s the opposite. He thinks about things quietly, calmly — and when he decides to act, it’s always in a way that benefits him.

The first thing he does isn’t even direct.

He doesn’t start bothering you himself.

Baekjin has too many other things to manage. Too many people depending on him. Too many plans already in motion. Getting personally involved in something like that would be inefficient.

So instead, he sends other people.

A few of his goons start appearing around you. Not directly interacting with you at first — just hanging around places you go. Standing across the street. Sitting somewhere nearby. Watching.

You might notice them. Or maybe you don’t.

Either way, they’re there for one reason: to report back to him.

Where you go. Who you’re with. What you’re doing.

Not because Baekjin is heartbroken.

Just because he wants to know.

Because he can.

And depending on what those reports say, he decides whether or not to interfere.

If you seem like you’re enjoying yourself too much — laughing with friends, having a good day somewhere — suddenly something goes wrong. A random argument starts. Someone spills something on you. Plans get ruined.

It always looks like an accident.

Like bad luck.

But it keeps happening.

If you’re already dealing with problems in your life, Baekjin might push those even further. Small issues suddenly get worse. Conflicts grow bigger. People around you start acting strangely.

All subtle.

All indirect.

And if you try to move on with someone else, that’s when things get especially calculated.

Baekjin won’t show up and cause a scene like someone more impulsive would. Instead, he’ll quietly arrange things so the person you’re dating starts having problems with you.

Rumors appear. Misunderstandings happen. Situations get twisted in ways that make you look bad.

Eventually the relationship falls apart on its own.

And through all of this, Baekjin never appears anywhere near the situation.

If you tried to accuse him of being involved, there would be no proof.

Everything that happens just looks like unfortunate coincidence. A series of inconveniences stacking up one after another.

That’s exactly how he wants it.

Because from his perspective, you’re still something that belongs within his reach.

Not necessarily someone he wants back in a romantic sense — but something he doesn’t want completely leaving his control either.

So he lets your life slowly become more difficult. More frustrating. More chaotic.

Until eventually the easiest solution might start to look like going back to the one place where things used to feel stable.

Back to him.

Back to the person who treated you like a possession in the first place.

Just so his little “toy” might wander back into his hands again.

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