My experience with my orientation and hender: A ramble by an omni gay trans guy.
CW for talks of harassment.
I've had.. a lot of different experiences with my orientation. It's changed quite a bit over the years, some changes took years, others took months.
My first time I realised I wasn't straight- I realised I liked both girls and boys. I was probably around 11 or 12, and found the idea of bisexuality through a youtube video- one of those storytime channels, in which someone described their experience being bisexual. It felt right, hearing that, so I privately started identifying as bisexual. I became more public about it when I was 12 or 13 at school.
I attended a catholic school, and many students there were unfortunately homophobic. I was exploring my gender privately around this time, and I was starting to realise just bisexual didn't fit- I felt I was a genderfluid, bisexual lesbian. I was definitely more interested in women, both romantically and sexually, but I still had interest in men- but not in a way that was typical. My interest in men was bisexual, but my interest in women was lesbian in nature, if that makes sense.
When I became 14, I was introduced to the mogai community and the concept of microlabels. I was a little confused by them, but I was in a mogai server, which helped me explore my identity a lot more. I realised I was a genderfluid trans man, and that pansexual was starting to make more sense to me, and fit me more around this time than the label bisexual lesbian did. I also started identifying as multigender around this time.
Fifteen is when I fully started embracing xenogenders. I also took in some labels around orientation, but those I was very nervous about. I coined some of my own terms, xenogenders, and had started to find myself more- But then an event happened. I was harassed for being a trans man by a cis lesbian, and she had threatened to 'fix me'. After this, I had lost all my romantic interest in women- especially cis women.
I started to accept myself omnisexual, which took a lot of time, but I'm glad I did. I also accepted the fact I was fictosexual around this time.
When I was 15-16, most likely early 16, when I realised I wasn't *just* omnisexual. I was sexually interested in every gender, with a preference for men, yes, but.. No romantic interest in women. I was Homoromantic. Finally. I felt like I was me- Properly me.
Seventeen.. I think this was when I fully accepted the fact I was objectum. The idea had been brewing in my head for years, but finally, I felt comfortable being objectum. I also believe I felt more confident in my alterhumanity around here, and much more comfortable being polyamorous then I was in the past.
Eighteen: Which is now. I am still an Omni Gay, and I have decided I am comfortable enough to admit to myself that I'm homoflexible, that my attraction to women is dependent on whether or not my partners currently identify as woman at the time or not. There's other bits of my identity I didn't touch on here, like my demisexuality, my aegosexuality, and so on, but this post delves into the main point of my identity.
Thank you for reading, and I'm sorry if it's not the clearest.