Anxious Aspec

here u go~

YA DONT PUT TWO BAD BITCHES AGAINST EACH OTHER

It/its pronouns aren’t inherently dehumanizing. It can be dehumanizing when purposely used to objectify or insult trans people, or even just people in general.

It can be dehumanizing when used as a slur. It can be dehumanizing when used to dismiss our identities, but it is not dehumanizing when we make a personal choice to take it/its pronouns and make it our own, whether it’s because we are embracing our difference in experience and separation from the concept of humanity, or because we are redefining what it means to be human, or something else entirely.

What is dehumanizing, however, is refusing to use our preferred pronouns. So even if you don’t understand why we use the pronouns we use: it/its or any other pronouns that may be, please do understand that referencing us with the incorrect pronouns will get you corrected, and if you really can’t stand to use the pronouns we prefer, instead of blatantly going against and disrespecting both our wishes and us as people, please just use our chosen name instead, (or don’t refer to us at all).

I understand that initially, it can be especially startling to discover what our pronouns are, but don’t be an asshole. You’re allowed to be uncomfortable; you’re allowed to not understand or be confused, and you’re allowed to disagree, but if you find that your lack of understanding carries you into being derogatory or acting bigoted, don’t be surprised when you receive backlash.

If you have questions, don’t be afraid to ask them; many of us will gladly answer, and if we aren’t comfortable with answering, it is possible to be confused and respectful at the same time.