✦ Proselyte of the crescent-born star ✦

M'dudes, there are a few things that are obviously slamming against your amidships and not penetrating the several inches of Fragile Mayo-l Eggo (as opposed to 'male ego,' a healthy and non-performative masculine sense of self usually found among elder gay men far more than their supposedly heterosexual contemporaries) that I'm going to put here in plain text. If you don't get it at this point, then you're fucked, there's no help for you. Go attempt a survival challenge in the middle of the Sahara and lose your compass and canteen. You'll be much more useful to the world doing that than continuing to ignore the following:

The 'theory' of "Alpha males" that you think you subscribe to? Yeah, it's a disproven theory that was misinterpreted in the first fucking place and you can all get FUCKED for thinking you're at all valid for claiming that title. Others have explained the science better than I, and just by claiming "Alpha" to justify the absolutely vile behavior you've proven you could give two shits about science or intellectual anything or human achievement or progress or culture or ANYTHING THAT'S HUMAN YOU HORRID, SUB-HUMAN PIECES OF WALKING SHIT! SHUT UP, SHUT UP, SHUT UP! THERE ARE MUSHROOMS I'D RATHER CLAIM KINSHIP TO MORE THAN YOU!

A true Alpha in the miscecanis sense is the Ultimate Caregiver. Defined by more than biology, the Alpha's role in the relationship is to provide a safe and secure place for their mate(s) and to be selflessly loving and kind. This requires that the omega (or beta, I'm not judging. Two Alphas could be in a relationship too, though that gets tricky as you're dealing with, essentially, two tigers in a bag) feel as though you are the very foundation of their world and that foundation is as solid as pure granite but inviting as a squishmallow nest. That means you're more an engineer than a commander. You're more a facilitator than a leader. You're not some fucked up piece of shit who thinks that the tackle between your legs means you're superior to the person you're presuming to stick that tackle in.

Any true Alpha would take one look at you and say, "Oh, hun, it's okay, we understand that you think that's how Alphas work. Don't worry, your Alpha will be along soon and take you away from all the big scary Alphas that you wandered into the middle of." You're a spitting, hissing kitten. Another omega or a beta might be fooled, but a true Alpha will take one look at you and see right through the act. And every single one of them could take you down without breaking a sweat, but they won't because they don't want to be a bully.

And on the outside, the remote possibility that you did happen to be an actual Alpha, you'd be one of those toxic Alphas the omega's birthing person warned them about. You'd be the reason for the #YesAllAlphas hashtag. You'd be the reason omegas carried cans of pepper spray on their keychain at all times. You'd be the reason yet another challenge fight resulted in an "accidental" death after the rest of the Alphas in the area got sick of your shit and arranged for all the cell phones and security cameras to be conveniently off or broken.

I haven't seen the Barbie movie yet, but based on what I've seen from the spoiler-tastic reviews and memes and GIF-sets, here's what I'm betting a true Alpha would say:

"Wow, that Barbie's gotta be an Alpha, look at how she just owns the space around her."

"Yup, she's commanding and every one of those omegas around her are following her orders. Wonder how many of them she's marked?"

"Ouch! First time in a beta-only part of society, huh? Yeah, that sucks how they won't acknowledge your true gender and judge you based on your outward appearance and have no clue that you're an Alpha because their senses are impaired in comparison."

"Look at her defending her pack! Go girl!"

(Again, I haven't seen it, and this is through my particular interpretation of miscecanis as a lifestyle.)

(intentional choice of gif lol)

Honestly /Y E S/. All of that!

Alphahood is often so villainized and pitched as a load of negative things because of asshats such as these.

As an Alpha I'm sick and tired of it.

Y'all don't know what it means to be Alpha even if it hits you with a 5 pound brick to the face.

You don't get to be dominant with your mate because "you're so manly and you have the right to hit that because you're so superior". You get to be dominant with your mate (if you want to at all to begin with) because you've submitted FIRST. Because you were vulnerable FIRST. Because you were willing to show no signs of aggression and let your mate choose what and when they wanted. You let them show you how you hold them. How to care for them. How to love them.

Alphas are protectors not tyrants.

We conquer through empathy and warth not brutality.

How am I supposed to make y'all soup if I'm busy sweating from my eyes all over the floor hahahhaa /j.

As an AFAB person who enjoys penetration and being submissive, I find great comfort in characters who are unquestionably male to all of society having more ambiguous genitalia and the ability to become pregnant. Furthermore, these characters’ bodies can be extremely and irresistibly desirable.

I'm nonbinary and it took so long for me to realize there is so much more than hyper-masculinity and hyper-femininity when it comes to gender, and it's even more than a spectrum.

Of course I'm telling no one in my real life about this cause I'm super afraid I'll either get 'like the sex thing' or 'wtf are you saying'

Maybe you should check those out. Perhaps you'll find other people to whom you can interact with and be perceived as an Omega first and an afab person second (if at all, in some cases). I myself have a discord server packed full of Misce people, I'm sure that if there is not your cup of tea, there's plenty of other communities and misce spaces you can feel at home in and like you belong.

The A/B/O community has afforded me and other Misce people the identity validation we desperately needed. For me it was mainly about being an Alpha. Of course I'm "overly assertive and unyielding for an AFAB person", I'm an Alpha. Of course I'd hate to have biological children who come from my own body, I'm an Alpha. Of course I'm not going to submit and roll belly up for nobody, I'm an Alpha.

See what I mean?

courting? I don't know her.

I love the idea of courting, but I'd be way too uncomfortable to do it the traditional way with someone else.

At the base of my spine I carry a truth live like fire,

Of fangs and claws, at my birth given none,

But my innards, they burn with a savage desire,

And I'm not my mother's lone only son.

For this body was cast on earth bare, weak and poor,

The moon that has birthed me, her power lays farther,

I want to embrace it, consume it and make it my cure,

My siblings, they fuel the flames just like fodder

For I'm not my mother's lone only son.

I've seen my reflection bright in true colour,

I dance to the goddess with chant that is sure,

I pray for the night to cleanse me like water,

And I ask for the moon to free her own daughter,

To make my spirit wild and pure.

I walk through the earth knowing now how to call this,

The child of animal alignment and soul.

I dream of my kin as one in the solstice,

It's complicated tbh. I'm not super duper into the community like some people are, but I do love watching it.

Basically it falls into kin and therian stuff with behaviors and community interest, but it often lacks the spiritual connection(?) that you see in those communities. They are seperate things.

I view it as an identity like gender or sexuality mixed with role-playing.

So like when I lean into it I'm using scents and thinking about my mate and making my den. I'm doing alpha like things because the identity of alpha makes me feel happy.

I recommend looking through the tags and making some deductions from there. It's a lot of aesthetics and doing things that make you feel happy of comfy that lines up with omegaverse, if that makes sense?

Like furries aren't dogs but they'll act like their characters in suit. But you don't need a suit to act like an alpha, omega or beta. And it's less acting like an anime, though it's sometimes animalistic, hence the name.

For anyone curious, I'll try to elucidate further. When I and @spaceyomega created the term Miscecanis (and to a lesser extent miscelupus) originally it was something meant for people that had an "Omegaverse lifestyle".

At first it was more just people that performed as their chosen dynamics as a form of self-expression and as you said it, finding comfort and happiness in what Omegaverse-aligned behaviour could offer them. But as more and more people flocked towards the term, the more I noticed that it wasn't just people essentially role-playing, but people who genuinely identified as one of the dynamics. Either as a part of their gender identity and expression, their sexuality, or both.

I had countless people approach me and tell me that the term Miscecanis was such a game changer for them, because it offered them a word for something they felt even before knowing about it, and by extension offered them a community too.

It's not to say there's no relation to therians or otherkin, because there is an overlap. I see it on my omegaverse server, there's both non-humans and humans identifying Misce individuals. So to some it is about the more "inhuman" aspect of it, but not to all.

A lot of people gravitate towards it in order to alleviate body dysmorphia or gender dysphoria. It helps some people to come to terms with parts of themselves they maybe can't or don't wish to change.

I'd argue against the "non-spiritual" aspect tho. Cause I think it can offer some sort of spiritual tie. Maybe that's not the correct word, but I lack a more appropriate one right now. I don't pretend to be an Alpha, I am an Alpha. Always have been even when there was no word for it in my vocabulary. And the connection I feel with my inner Alpha, or "my true self" could be considered borderline spiritual me thinks.

And honestly, to me in particular, is something that has the potential to gain an even bigger meaning in people's lives. I said before that I wish I had a Warren, and while it was in a bit of a shitpost, I meant what I said. I want to live with other Misce people away in the woods/in a piece of land. Caring for our own, nurturing our own community, our own culture, traditions and rituals. To me that's the ideal life. Life in a pack is my true call for happiness.