✦Maturing as an Alpha - an open letter for myself and other lost Alphas✦
I must admit that, although I stay firm in my beliefs regarding many things when it comes to miscehood and even what to me means to be of a certain dynamics, I nowadays feel I have a more complex and, dare I say, complete understanding of that it means to be an Alpha, and why me personally feel I could not be anything else even if I tried.
In the past I thought many times that a rigid mindset was what made me more Alpha, that I had to live my truth no matter what and that everyone else just couldn't or just refused to see it my way, which was "obviously so much better and made much more sense". But now, in my late 20s, and having lived a whole lot of new and unexpected things, I realize that rigid thinking and stubbornness don't make you a better Alpha, it just makes you a difficult one.
Which seems simple enough when said like this. But obvious doesn't always mean acceptable to many people. And I was no different.
Nowadays, I am able to realize that the strength comes from the choice to be non judgemental, empathetic and able to compromise with the people you care about the most. That growth is not about being "better" but more adaptable, and that many times, caring for someone is not about what you believe or what you care to defend in that moment, but about what that person needs from you at that time.
And yes, there will be limits to that, we all have our limits. There are things we're not willing to compromise or change, otherwise that wouldn't make us adaptable, it would make us fake and disingenuous. But it's not about lying to appease or please others, quite the opposite, is choosing the version of yourself that person needs at that moment, and all the versions are genuine, they're just needed at different moments.
To me Alpha strength is not about control anymore. But it's about compassion, understanding and empathy.
So if you're lost in your own thoughts, and you're hurting in your relationships as an Alpha, be them of whatever nature. Don't obsess over regaining control, just assimilate that control is not the end goal or the answer. A loving nature is.
