Exalted Chill

Cumberland Mall

Lenox Mall

Phipps Plaza

A Target in the area

The CNN Atlanta Headquarters

Not to mention several local businesses

They burned cop cars, people were throwing knives, they tore through Buckhead. Most businesses in Buckhead, Midtown, Atlantic Station, and other surrounding areas are staying closed so that their employees arent at risk.

This is absolutely unacceptable. This is MY city, this is OUR CITY. YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO BURN AND DESTROY THIS CITY. You are doing NOTHING to stop police brutality. You are putting my SISTER AND BROTHER IN LAW AT RISK EVERY NIGHT with your BULLSHIT. Theyre out there saving lives while y’all act like the animals the racists claim you are.

How to Recognize Abuse

**Emotional Abuse of Men

**Sexual Assault of Men and Boys

**Men Can Be Victims of Abuse, Too

**Domestic Violence Against Men - Know the Signs

**Information for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

**Help for Battered Men

**Battered Men, Battered Husbands

**For Male Survivors of Rape and Sexual Abuse

**Male Survivors of Incest and Sexual Child Abuse

**Help for Men Who Are Being Abused

Help Lines (Phone and Text Chat)

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (or 1-800-787-3224 for TTY)

National Dating Abuse Hotline: 1-866-331-9474

National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-237-8255

Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men: 1-888-743-5754 (US and Canada)

Hopeline Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-784-2433

National Hotline for Victims of Crimes: 1-855-484-2846

National Human Trafficking Hotline: 1-888-373-7888

Polaris Human Trafficking Text Line: Text “BEFREE” to 233733

**1in6/RAINN Chat for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Support Groups

**1in6 Support Groups

Male Survivor Support Groups

Pandora’s Aquarium - Chat (includes chats specifically for men)

Pandora’s Aquarium - Forums (includes forums specifically for men)

How to Find a Shelter

Domestic Shelters Search (shelter locator with filters to find shelters specifically for male survivors)

SAFE (located in Austin, TX, but states they can help people find resources/shelters in their area)

How to Find a Therapist

**Male Survivor Therapist Directory

Mental Health Services Locator

Resources for and About the Abuse of Kids/Teens

Love is Respect Hotline: 1-866-331-9474 (Hotline for teens)

Darkness to Light Helpline (Sexual Abuse): 1-866-367-5444

Darkness to Light Text Line: Text “LIGHT” to 741741

ChildHelp USA National Child Abuse Hotline: 1-800-422-4453

Children of the Night Hotline (Children in Prostitution): 1-800-551-1300

National Runaway Safeline: 1-800-786-2929

Covenant House Nineline (Homeless Youth): 1-800-999-9999

Stop it Now Hotline: 1-888-773-2362 (for adults concerned about the welfare of a child)

Jennifer Ann’s Group (for teens experiencing dating violence)

Other Resource Lists 

(While I tried to include the most helpful resources I could here (i.e., resources that lend themselves to one-on-one communication, individual reading, etc.), there are plenty of other great resources, including regional resources, listed in these links. Some of the resources are specific to men and others aren’t, but they are all helpful for male survivors.)

**Male Survivor (regional, international, and online resources)

**Husband Battering: Men and Domestic Violence

**Help for Battered Men: Online Resources

**Help for Battered Men: National and International Resources

sick and disabled people should not have to be afraid of being sent to the hospital every time they go out to eat but some of you folks in the food industry really go out of your way to make us feel unsafe.

In court that day, the judge asked the boy, “Are you afraid?” No, the boy said.

Pipes says the judge seemed surprised, and asked, “Why not?”

Chief’s thesis was that a child who has been abused by an adult can benefit psychologically from the presence of even more intimidating adults that they know are on their side. “When we tell a child they don’t have to be afraid, they believe us,” Arizona biker Pipes told azcentral.com. “When we tell them we will be there for them, they believe us.” ( Article)

They go on runs to protect the child if they feel even the slightest threatened no matter where. If the child needs them to go on vacation with them, they do. Bikers come from across the nation to watch over and take shifts for these kids. And the best part is once you’re adopted into this family as a BACA kid, you’re always one. Even when you’re 40 and the perp gets released from jail, they’ll come meet with you and find your best options for avoiding the person and maintaining the life you’ve built for yourself. Once a BACA child, always a BACA child. In Florida, there’s 100% rate for identifying the perp based on the child’s testimony. Why? Because BACA stands with the child and supports the child so they feel comfortable enough to point out their attacker.

They’re in Canada as well and probably other countries. I met and talked with a native guy who runs the place near me. His name is Shaman. I got in, and I’m considered a BACA child now. Despite being 17, turning 18 when I talked to them. They spent time with me when my abuser was over, they gave me therapy resources. They give you something called a ‘level 1′ where they go to your house with as many bikers as they can, i shit you not a solid 20-40 bikers came from even out of province, and met me. I got to choose my biker name and I got a vest with patches on it and my name on it. They all hugged a Teddybear before giving it to me, and told me if I ever felt the BACA bear was running out of love, to give them a call and they’d refill it for me, and then I got a ride on one of their bikes. Just a day or so ago I went to an annual party with them and they we ate food one of them cooked and had a lot of laughs. 

I’ve never felt as loved as I did being a part of the BACA family. They also gave me dog tags with the names, and phone numbers of my 2 workers.  So I can call them whenever I feel scared. 

BACA is an absolutely wonderful group that will do everything in it’s power to help any child whos been abused. 

And it doesn’t end when you’re 18 either. As long as you get in contact/get your level 1 before you’re 18? you’re ALWAYS a BACA kid. I’m 18 now and they still invite me to parties, ask me if I’m okay, and are there for me. They’re still trying to find me resources for therapy. 

BACA has changed my fucking life. 

Given what we know now about the Russian government’s attempts to interfere with our election in 2016, Americans have every right to be nervous. There’s no telling what Putin and his Kremlin comrades will have up their sleeves for 2020, and the very freedom that we have fought and died to protect is at stake.

“Crayola ColorCycle will accept all brands of plastic markers, not just Crayola markers. That includes dry erase markers and highlighters! ColorCycle will eliminate placing hundreds of tons of markers into landfills.”

Only the night before, Moran was an unknown 23-year-old student in St. Paul, Minnesota.

That morning, though, she discovered she had become someone else. Strangers were calling her nasty names on social media. Her photo was plastered across internet news sites. A video was circulating online, and she was its villain. In it, she could be seen refusing to serve a group of black men at the restaurant the previous evening.

She then fell from her chair and collapsed. As she gathered herself on her apartment floor, she reached for the only form of solace she could think of.

She started to pray.

The rise of ambient racism

Just about every week we see the same story. Someone takes a jittery smartphone video of a white person caught in the act of doing something that’s labeled racist. An army of online commentators mobilizes. The video goes viral. And the person in the video is publicly shamed, often losing a job or being ostracized by the community. His or her name becomes a hashtag for hate.

The circulation of these racist outrage videos is so common that they’ve become the online version of background noise. The social scientist Eugenia Siapera says they often trigger “ambient digital racism” – racially toxic online posts from ordinary people that are so commonplace they no longer shock.

Yet there is another part of this story that is rarely told because it is not as common.

What happens when you are falsely accused of being a racist in a video?

How does your life change after you’ve become a racist meme?

For the last six months, Moran has been trying to answer those questions. She was dubbed online as the “racist bitch.” The video of her November confrontation was watched at least 7 million times and re-tweeted at least 30,000 times within two days. The incident was covered by media organizations such as ABC News and Fox News.

Chipotle fired Moran after the video went viral. Soon after that, she would be vindicated. But while the internet mob moved on, she hasn’t.

“Life is really difficult,” she said. “Everything has changed.”

She talks as if she’s experiencing some digitally induced form of post-traumatic stress disorder. Mood swings, anxiety – she sometimes recoils when someone tries to take a smartphone video or picture of her.

Moran says she’s “spent a lot more time alone” because of the viral video. “I don’t really have a desire to meet new people right now. I feel drained of energy.”

Maybe, though, there’s something to be learned from her pain.

It’s been said that a lie will go around the world while truth is pulling its boots on. That adage has never been truer than when an entire online audience is, as one critic put it, perpetually “primed for outrage.”

Why did it spread so quickly when there were warning signs from the beginning?

There were three factors at play that made her story so disturbing – one of which offers at least some hope.

Reason 1: The power of confirmation bias

It started about 10 minutes before closing time on a Thursday night. A group of about a half-dozen young black men walked in, chatting loudly among themselves while aiming smartphone cameras at Chipotle employees.

“They’re back,” one of Moran’s colleagues told her as the men streamed into the food line.

Moran recognized two of them. Only two days before, she said, their credit cards had been declined when they lined up to pay. She had also been warned about them not paying before, and seen video footage of them "dining and dashing.“ They had ordered their food in the takeout line, given the cashier a credit card, then dashed with their food after the card was declined.

“You gotta’ pay ‘cause you never have money when you come in,” Moran told them.

The men erupted in indignation. At least one started recording.

“She’s making crazy accusations.”

“Y'all racist!”

“We got no money.”

She called the police twice to defuse the situation, but it seemed like forever before they arrived.

“I cried a lot,” she says. “Just kind of broke down.”

Her ordeal was only beginning.

At 9:49 p.m. that night, one of the men posted a video of the confrontation on Twitter. He has not responded to several interview requests from CNN. Along with the video, he posted this caption:

“Can a group of young well established African American [sic] get a bite to eat after a long workout session?”

It went viral. Online commentators pounced. National media picked it up. It fit into a pre-existing narrative. It seemed to be another example of a new form of racial profiling being caught on video.

“I didn’t think they would do what they did,” she said. “It never crossed my mind that it would be about racism.”

Moran’s mother is still so disturbed by what happened that she declined to speak to CNN for this story. But Moran’s sister, Elizabeth Perez, recalled how their mother reacted to the video.

“I just remember her breaking down,” Perez said. “She cried. She was like, ‘I don’t want people hurting my daughter.’ ”

There were obvious holes, though, in the emerging online narrative. Start with a basic question Perez asked after she noticed the way people kept referring to her sister in online discussions.

“When they said ‘racist white woman,’ I was like, ‘My sister is not white,’” Perez said. “I was just so confused.”

The incident was framed as a white person’s humiliation of black men, but Moran is Mexican-American. Still, many people kept identifying her as white as her story spread.

Why didn’t someone notice she wasn’t white as the video rocketed around social media?

For the same reason so many people were quick to believe Jussie Smollett when the actor reported being attacked by two white men wearing Make American Great Again hats, said Joel Mathis, a columnist for The Week magazine.

It’s called “confirmation bias” - people are predisposed to uncritically accept stories that line up with preexisting beliefs, he says.

“We all think we are rational creatures, but the truth is that most of us believe evidence that confirms our beliefs – and filter out contradictory facts. When a story comes along that so neatly fits our preconceived expectations, we’re ready to give it credence, when maybe the best thing to do is exercise a little caution.”

But caution doesn’t get you clicks on the internet. Why pause to see if a sensational video is true when you can quickly post it and get attention with a snarky comment?

Reason 2: The power of internet mob justice

As her video made the rounds on social media, people started stalking Moran on social media. They left messages.

“I hope you never get another job.”

“You racist bitch.”

“You dumb whore.”

Moran choked up when she recalled one social media stalker’s words. She said he threatened to burn her grandmother’s body and send it to her in a bag. Some of the worst threats have since been deleted from users’ accounts.

“I got really afraid. I didn’t know how I felt,” she says. “I was overwhelmed. What does this mean? Why me?”

What would inspire someone to talk to a stranger that way?

It’s because rage has become the fuel of online discourse. Moran discovered that some people on the left can be just as vicious when they denounce racism.

Her depression deepened when Chipotle fired her after the video went viral. The decision “broke my heart.”

Moran became a victim of what one commentator called “internet mob justice.”

The writer Erik Kain tells the story of a man who snapped a selfie for his kids at a Target store in Australia while standing next to a Darth Vader “May the 4th Be With You” display. Another woman thought he was actually taking a picture of her children. She snapped a photo of the man and posted it on Facebook in hopes the “creep” would be “caught.” Facebook users started calling the man a “pedo.”

It didn’t matter that he was snapping a selfie for his kids. He started to receive death threats. The man’s life was"completely upended” by the mistake, Kain said.

But truth is unimportant in online shame culture, Kain wrote, because “whoever is most outraged wins.”

“It goes on and on,” Kain said. “People are accused publicly, called out on social media. Pictures are posted. Rumors are circulated. Jobs are lost and reputations damaged. Sometimes the people being shamed are bad people. But always the shaming circumvents due process, precedes true justice, and serves mainly to inflate the sense of self-importance and egos of its progenitors.”

The internet could destroy, but it could also save.

Reason 3: All you need is one person with a question

Moran’s reputation was salvaged by a stranger. He decided to ask a question no one else seemed to ask after watching the video.

His name is Andrew Hallwarth, and he is immersed in the internet culture. He devours news sites and Twitter.

When he first spotted the Chipotle video, the racist angle didn’t make sense.

Moran wasn’t the only person in the video suspicious of the young black men’s intentions, he noted. So were her co-workers, who were all people of color. What were the chances of all of them being racist?

Hallwarth did a quick Google search of the man who first called out Moran on his Twitter page. He discovered that the man had allegedly tweeted several times about dining and dashing at Chipotle and other restaurants.

“That’s when the red flags started going off,” Hallwarth says.

He posted his findings on Twitter and started taking on people accusing Moran of racism. Hallwarth said he couldn’t stand to see Moran “publicly crucified.”

“The internet mob is so powerful,” he says. “For as much good as it can do – in the sense of fundraising and getting the word out – it can destroy, it can manipulate.

“It can literally ruin people’s lives in a matter of seconds.”

Others followed Hallwarth’s lead. An online army formed to take on the mob. Defenders responded to critics with posts displaying the dine and dash tweets.

Someone started an online petition to help Moran get her job back. Another started a GoFundMe page for her. The anger started shifting to the men who called Moran a racist.

At least one person even sent a tweet to the man who posted the original video:

“Yeah thanks for f—ing over the future black people that ACTUALLY will deal with racism. For you to turn this into some sorta joke to ruin this lady’s life is disgusting.”

The media picked up the new narrative. It reprinted the tweets boasting of dining and dashing. It quickly ran a series of stories that seemed to vindicate Moran.

Her experience brightened even more. Chipotle called her. They wanted to know if she wanted her job back.

Moran, however, didn’t accept Chipotle’s offer. She said strangers believed in her more than her former employer.

Still, sometimes she wonders: Can people be trusted? Should I even risk taking photos with my family members? What if someone recognizes me in public? She remembers how unsettled she felt when a customer at a clothing store she used to work at recognized her from the video.

She has received no apologies from any member of the internet mob that stalked her.

No contrition from the anonymous commentators who branded her a racist, called her names and threatened her safety.

She knows she’s not the only one who’s been falsely labeled a racist.

To any feminists seeing this.

I support your right to live the way you do. I don’t have to like or agree with it to still do that.

You often see fit to remind us what women in the past did for us. And I thank the ones who won us the freedom of choice. Yes, choice.

That means that I don’t have to live the way that you think right, any more than I have to take anyone else’s definition.

I’ve found a way of living that brings satisfaction and fulfillment to me and to my family.