I wanted to list some possibilities for this kind of connection. I didn't separate anything by what kind of aspect, and I did it because even a square can bring positives. Even a trine can bring struggle.
It sheds more light on your chart if, despite having a square, you relate to a lot of positive attributes. This is showing the strength of Venus or Mars in action.
How does this information help? Well, an astrologer can look at your chart for the strength, which planet is more dominant, how the energy can play out and where. This is more for you to explore the different expressions. It's not a full exhaustive list. I may add more as I think on it.
You'll see sometimes I list something and then the opposite of that, that's because this how the connection works. The connection can say abc in a one person's chart, and xyz in another. Reading a chart requires a full view. It requires awareness of the strength of planets and reinforced energy.
Some of these things are obvious, some of these are more niche. All of these things would be reinforced by house or sign or other energies (aspects, degrees, asteroids). If you have questions about why I listed something I would love to answer.
I am not saying you will experience everything on here, definitely not. No fear mongering here. These are potentials, this is just for learning.
PSA: I use male/female in the list, though I mean male or female presenting. In cases like being nonbinary or genderfluid, there's still space here for you. It will just boil down to more specific energies within. Does this person present with an outgoing or active energy? This is an indicator of them being in masculine energy, or we can call this day energy. It's the expressive and outgoing energy of the Sun. Does this present person present more with a passive and inward energy? This is an indicator of being in their feminine, or night energy. It's the energy of the Moon. We all have both energies.
Valuing hustler mentality
Valuing women in leadership
Experiencing objectification and fetishization and the impact on confidence
Self-esteem impacted through sexual experiences
Self esteem impacted through trauma
Self esteem affected by men
Values regime and their routines
Values partners pleasure above their own
Can show how much you value anger, or don’t
Struggling to see how they can be balance of affection and passion in relationships
Feeling like they’re always being pulled in one direction or the other.
Needing a high energy partner
Women role models who are dominant
Feeling like romance is a trap
Experiencing love bombing
Lying as a means to “fix” things
Lying to keep darker things hidden
Women role models who have been through trauma
Not acknowledging problems to keep the peace
A marriage that’s abusive
A marriage of keeping up appearances
Lying in relationships, you or them
Cheating in relationships, you or them
Women role models who are protective
Relationships that are volatile
Relationships that are active
Needing a powerful partner to match your energy
Needing to be with someone who motivates you
Arguments in relationships
Marriage that opens your horizons
Starting a business with spouse
A marriage where you feel safe
A marriage with a divine masculine
Desiring chase more than longevity
Seeing bravery in men growing up
Seeing men who are honorable
An adventurous marriage, lots of adrenaline filled adventures
Partner who’s driven and expressive
Women role models who served in military
Wanting your partner to feel beautiful
Idea that marriage is full of drama and stress and not wanting it
Feeling that marriage can suffocate you
Very physical in romantic affection
Wanting independence in marriage
Feels stress through relationships
Feeling alone even in marriage
Seeing men financially provide or seeing the lack and cementing that as what you want
Witnessed stress from women and internalize this as viewing disproportionate pressure put on women in love & marriage
Almost feels like they need the chaos of a toxic relationship. Ups and downs can feel reassuring that they’re loved, because they’re eliciting a strong response.
Too impulsive in relationships, move forward without paying attention to the red flags
Commits too much, too soon, and with wrong people
Feeling different from other women
Feeling like loner in friend groups
Speaks up for loved one’s injustices
Prioritizes their own desires and passions in life over friendships
Always doing group activities
Envy in friends that leads to a blow up
Friend groups breaking up
Feeling alone even with friends
Feels stress through friends
Having protection in your friend group
May struggle to assert their needs, if they know the other person is struggling
Art of disagreeing, could be an indicator of that friend who always something contrary and enjoys having spirited debates
Friends through shared trauma
Desiring friendships with strong women
Being that friend who’s the one to always get a call to help when shit goes wrong
Can show someone who is reckless in friendships
Friends can introduce illegal shit
Can show violence experienced through friendships
Struggling to find peace due to relational drama, pain, trauma
Manifest as a desire for peace in wartime
Peace maker in times of tension
Overcompensating with sex because of insecurity
Feeling like sex is important for healthy relationships
Needing that spark & fire to feel sexual desire
Feeling like sex shouldn’t factor into relationships at all
Feeling distant during sex
Can manifest as who someone who literally wants clean sex
And on the flip side can manifest someone who wants sex to be messy
Can manifest as repulsion to sex
Wants to explore sex sensory wise
Having sex but not wanting to cuddle, kiss or have pillow talk
Or absolutely needing cuddles, kisses and pillow talk
Having sensual, slow, tantric kinds of sex
Needing to in love to have sex
Arousal from Prey vs Predator dynamics
Having an off relationship with physical touch, touched starved or touch sensitive
They can feel consumed by sexual desires
Can feel like a sexual pariah
Feeling like sex is precious and that the body is a temple
Being conscious of who you sleep with
Sexual attraction that’s surface level
Having sex just to feel better or just to fix the problems in relationships
Love and sex are one in the same
Love and sex for them doesn’t belong together
Understanding their sexual prowess and using it, power in sexuality
Giving good girl, and giving brat
Feeling like sex is your way of expressing your affection
Prioritizing someone else’s sexual pleasure
Wanting to watch your partner cum
Long foreplay focused on the journey instead of the destination
Feeling that sex is the proof they’re loved
Can manifest as belief that sex is unclean and shameful
Can show religious impact on sexual desire
People who are attracted to their charm
Can also have a lot of suitors
Can feel more desired for their body than their worth
Can have people be attracted to their independence
This can present as an attraction either gender, or not have gender factor in
This can present as an attraction to androgyny
Feeling worth in love comes from desirability
Desiring a man who provides for you
Being attracted to traumatized people
Sexual attraction that’s based off surface level
Obsession with being beautiful for male gaze
Wanting to be sexually desired by women
Attracted to how they love others
Attracted to their creativity and expression
Struggling to merge needs & desires
Attracted to dominant men
Attracted to protective men
Attracted to adrenaline junkies
Attracted to men working labor jobs
Or being attracted to women who are in creative fields
Loving a man in uniform- police, military, firefighters.
Desire safe divine masculine man
Attraction to high-risk situations or intense personalities
Can attracted to a clean presenting man
May be attracted to women who are a little rough around the edges
Aesthetics for gore, violence
People who don’t find any beauty in themselves because of trauma
Finding beauty in being an individual and doing your own thing
Beauty in the underdogs story
Finding beauty in honorable actions
Violent films, horror films
Transmuting sexual energy into creativity
Passionate about painting
Struggles to express creatively due to trauma
Can show artists with darker aesthetics and them in their art
Coping with pain through art
Being moved and inspired to express artistically when under stress or use a canvas instead of communicating it
Feeling like you’ve never been financially provided for by a man
Ups and downs with wealth
Success through entrepreneurial endeavors
Money through farming, construction, labor jobs, military, police, firefighting jobs
Can indicate someone who makes money on side with talents – ie jewelry, soaps. Can be lucrative
Needing to protect your finances & being protective over them
Money through accidents, money through loss. Ie; settlements, divorces
Working hard for wealth and success
Success through masculine energies
Or having success impacted by masculine energies
Financial stability matters to them
Financial struggles can impact sex drive
Can show relationships with angry men
Enemies prey on their confidence
Being able to keep calm in danger
A numbed or overactive sense of danger in relationships
Can experience male obsession
Feeling pleasure from getting away with hurtful reactions or feeling like other people get pleasure from hurting you by their recklessness
Fighting intimacy as trauma
Flight from connection as trauma response
Struggling to allow peace in relationships ie sabotaging
Feeling like the good times won’t last and that danger is bound to pop up
Controlling relationships as trauma response
Expecting a women to be chaste while sexualizing or slut shaming her or experiencing this
Having vastly different experiences with men and women and struggling to find safety in either energy
Cutting and running from intimacy
Staying so busy so that you’re never that easy to tie down
Fears of not being good enough
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