Meduse Floral

Sometimes we waste too much energy trying to figure out why someone hurt us, betrayed us, lied, ghosted, or treated us badly. We replay the situation over and over, asking ourselves how they could do that. But in reality, we don’t want to understand we just want them to stop the hurt they caused us

Be thankful that your heart and mind don’t operate on the same frequency as theirs. The fact that you can’t comprehend their behavior means you don’t think like them. You don’t treat people with cruelty. You don’t make choices that intentionally hurt others. That inability to understand is a sign of your character not a weakness

Trying to make sense of someone else’s brokenness will only exhaust you. Some actions are simply not logical when viewed through the lens of kindness, integrity, and respect. Accept that their choices are a reflection of who they are, not of your worth

I told you all I tend to be drawn to militaristic motivation and discipline nonfiction books, and how social media culture sees it as overkill, sadistic (especially David Goggins) and red pill, but I never got that feeling from Can’t Hurt Me because he didn’t share his childhood abuse, experiences with racism in the 80s and tearing himself down to build himself up for a cookie and pat on the back.

It’s to master the human condition and build resiliency in the mind, to stop feeding yourself excuses and enabling bullshit because the brain wants the least uncomfortable mode of action. Let’s do this, pretty privilege edition.

These words, like the book, aren’t meant to coddle you and make you feel good, but break you out of cycles, excuses and bad habits to turn you into cycle breakers, give yourself actionable solutions and reinforce positive habits.

You sulk and say you don’t deserve the lifestyle you want, you’re right. That woman living on less than 28 cents a day, no running water and old bread afraid of when or where a bomb could drop on her deserves it more & works harder than you. You deserve to be her server and live viscerally through her every time she visits that upscale restaurant you worked at since high school. Get off of your big, entitled, lazy ass and out of your goddamn way.

You’re envious of the woman younger than you receiving benefits & money from her looks, the world being her oyster and you want to be her?? Screw you. You have no idea she left her old, oppressive life behind and still brought her chronic illness with her since she refused to have her head stamped in any longer by people who wanted her to remain the same. You have the same, if not infinitely more resources than her and complaining about being lost. You should be ashamed of yourself. Stop projecting yourself on her and make your own life.

Oh no, you don’t know how to stop eating junk food because you have no control?? What a 1st world problem. If you’re letting something as necessary as food prevent you from upgrading your life, fat or skinny, go ahead and disappoint your ancestors, future children and prepare to be resented.

Too cold, hot or overcast outside to go for a walk or gym, as you type from your smartphone with an internet connection, on your couch and mattress, with electricity, AC and utilities? No wonder you’re still the same person from 6 years ago still just as lazy, rotting in the bed or couch, and eating the entire fridge because you’re bored. At least you have the luxury and aren’t 6ft under. Stop living like you are.

Low esteem due to racial injustice, war, crime and paranoia? It’s not racial injustice or war’s fault, it’s YOURS. You’re not a victim unless you accept and affirm you are. You can only control YOURSELF, and decide how you want to feel, no one else.

Stop enabling your own mediocrity, suffering and laziness. As long as you are LIVING and BREATHING, you have a fighting chance.

1. One to make you money

Examples:

Freelancing

Ecom

Stock trading

Affiliate marketing

2. One to keep you in shape

Examples:

Pilates

Running

Yoga

Strength training

3. One to expand your mind

Examples:

Reading

Learning a new language

Taking online courses

Puzzles & brain games

4. One that makes you happy

Examples:

Painting

Cooking

Photography

For the right person, the flawed, human, quirky, complicated and multifaceted person that you are, just as you are, is exactly what they find fascinating and magical and perfectly worthy of love. For the right person, you just need to be yourself.

Self-abandonment means not taking care of yourself, your needs, and your feelings. It's like ignoring what's good for you and not being kind to yourself normally in a way that benefits everyone but you.

Not eating well or exercising.

Pretending to be happy when you're not.

Working too much without breaks.

Staying in a bad relationship.

Letting people use you.

Forgetting about things you enjoy.

Not saying what you want.

Always doing things for others.

Not asking for help when you're sad or stressed.

Being alone when you need friends.

Saying mean things to yourself in your head.

Giving up your dreams for others.

Avoiding problems instead of solving them.

Never taking time to relax.

Ignoring how you look or feel.

Not asking for help when things are too hard.

Trying to be perfect all the time.

Doing things that hurt you, like drugs or danger.

Changing who you are to fit in.

Not being yourself and doing what others want.

Ignoring your body when it needs rest or sleep.

Letting others make decisions for you all the time.

Keeping your feelings bottled up inside.

Surrounding yourself with people who bring you down.

Not pursuing your interests or hobbies.

Saying "yes" to everything, even when you're overwhelmed.

Putting up with disrespect or mistreatment from others.

Not giving yourself credit for your accomplishments.

Skipping important appointments or check-ups.

Holding onto grudges and negative emotions.

Comparing yourself unfavorably to others.

Not taking breaks when you're stressed.

Neglecting your financial well-being and overspending.

Ignoring signs of burnout or exhaustion.

Avoiding seeking help for mental health struggles.

Ignoring your own intuition and gut feelings.

Overcommitting and spreading yourself too thin.

Constantly seeking validation from others.

Letting fear hold you back from trying new things.