What Even Is This

Bc so many ppl focus on the idea of telling A Trusted Adult, but even a well-meaning individual can fuck up and let abuse fall through the cracks or not know what to do

Whereas if a child tells LOADS of adults AND other kids, there's far less opportunity for an abuser to do damage control

Consistently telling their story and spreading it around disempowers the abuser to control and coerce the flow of information, or to utilise gaps and weaknesses in systems of reporting or welfare to isolate the child

for any address to twitter you can replace the “x.com” with “nitter.net” and you will be able to browse as if you have an account. Lifesaver.

Like, if you were at a community theater talent show and one of 13 year olds is pitchy, you might make a snide comment to someone you came with but you wouldn't go up to that 13 year old and tell her her singing was shit and offer notes, because that's just being a dick.

If one of those kids came up in Black face and started singing Zipedy Do Dah Day, that's a completely different situation and you would be completely justified in talking to the director and that kid's parents because what the actual hell.

its easier for women to get diagnosed with things like depression because women are allowed to be more emotionally expressive in society. men have higher suicide rates because it is harder for them to reach out. people take this as proof that men’s mental health issues are worse than women’s.

however, men are diagnosed with other mental illnesses and disabilities, like autism and ADHD, much more and much earlier than women are. there are a lot of reasons why this happens. mostly it is because our current world is centered on men. yes, society is improving in gender equality. but do most people know the symptoms of a heart attack in a biologically female body? I know I don’t, and i’m afab.

i’m going to specifically talk about ADHD because I was recently diagnosed. it’s easier to see male symptoms of ADHD because we’re taught to look out for them. we also care more if our sons are struggling than our daughters. the symptoms do show up earlier and louder, because boys are allowed to take up more space socially. i was a hyperactive kid. i’ve had focus issues for as long as i can remember. yet it took until i was nearly 18 to diagnose me with adhd, because i had good grades and no obvious symptoms. i’d been mocked when i tried to express that something was wrong in my brain.

Women aren’t “allowed to be more emotionally expressive than men”. Women are expected to silence every negative feeling they have in a constant attempt to please others. They are discouraged from expressing anger or asserting themselves or even setting boundaries.

When men express their emotional reality they are more likely than women to be perceived as objective, rational, truthful, and sane. The perception of women as “more emotional” has only ever been used to rationalize misogyny. It’s been the purported reason for denying women the right to vote. It’s enabled centuries of medical abuse because women’s reporting of physical symptoms is always doubted. It’s been used to deny women’s claims of sexual assault and abuse at the hands of others in their communities. And finally, it’s been foundational in the psychiatric abuse of women (example: the diagnosis and treatment of “hysteria”).

If men are afraid of being called “woman” (or an epithet associated with womanhood or femininity) as an insult, this dynamic harms women first and foremost. Period. When men insult other men in this way they are using “woman” as a synonym for the offensive adjectives I listed in my original post. When someone calls them woman-like they may feel humiliated in the moment but the fact that my gender is used as an insult is something that affects me all of the time. Also, you cant chastise me “not to compare” when you open your reply with a comparison between what is “allowed” for men vs women.

Btw- women attempt suicide more than twice as frequently as men; men die of suicide attempts more frequently because they are more likely to use more “violent” methods (for example, they are more likely to have access to firearms).

Extremely crucial point. In high school I had a health teacher say men commit suicide more often but women attempt more. He said “do you know why?” then pointed to a random boy in the classroom and said “how do you think most people commit suicide, what method do they use?” and the boy responded probably a gun. He pointed to a random girl in the room and asked her the same question and she said “idk probably pills or slitting their wrists” and he said “that’s why men effectively commit suicide more, but women attempt more than twice as often.” He went on to say he does this with every class every year and it’s always the same. A boy will always say a more brutal and violent (but more effective and immediate) method like a gun or jumping in front of a train, while a girl will always say a more “passive” method like pills or slitting her wrists, which mean she has more time to be found by a friend or family member and taken to a hospital, or more time to regret and rethink her decision and call 911 herself.

I’ve read somewhere someone making points that women are so socialized to care about their physical appearance at all times, and also socialized to care about and be courteous to others that it’s even factored in (even if subconsciously) in the methods they use to commit or attempt suicide. Women are more likely to use methods that will preserve her face and keep her looking “nice” even after she dies, and are also more likely to pick a method that doesn’t leave as much of a mess so their loved ones don’t have to clean brain matter off the wall or something to that effect. So she’ll be more likely to pick a method that keeps her face ‘pretty’ and in tact, and not something too messy so her parents or partner or children or whoever doesn’t have to clean too much while in mourning, so pills or wrists it is (and if it’s wrists typically in a bathtub or shower so it’s easier for her family to clean up later.) And again, this gives her loved ones time to find her and rush her to a hospital, or it gives her time to feel regret over this decision and call 911 herself.

Meanwhile men are socialized to be more violent and aggressive, and this is reflected in the methods they typically choose for suicide. Men are also much more likely to own or have access to firearms or explosives than women.

I’m not by any means saying male suicide victims and men with depression don’t matter or don’t suffer. But I’m so tired of seeing the “actually men commit suicide more than women” as a gotcha to try to shut up women who complain about how hard it is to live as a woman and how hard it is to have their mental health taken seriously and not be dismissed as a typical shrill hysterical overemotional woman. Women attempt suicide more than twice as often as men

That’s not a small number. It’s significant that women’s attempts at suicide are more than double the attempts men make and that’s factoring in both men’s successful and unsuccessful attempts. Before you use the “actually men commit suicide more than women” gotcha remember men only successfully commit suicide more but their numbers are still dwarfed by how much women attempt suicide.

it took me asking three more times before she finally told me she wanted me to leave the fans where they are instead of moving them to my room or something. and I said oh! I had no intention of doing so but thank you for letting me know what the expectation is.

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