Dorothy tries

Being afab will not protect you from dying young in a coal mine. They put wee lassies down there all the time and sometimes they died, just as the boys did. Your understanding of historical gender roles is filtered through the gender roles of the mid 20th century. Yes you would also have faced other gender based violence on top of this probably, but that doesn't make you exempt from death via coal mine.

I think one of the funniest abortion stances I've heard was from my parents neighbor. He's a like, hard-core libertarian viking larper guy who is very tall and very fat and very bald.

Y'know I'm so glad someone reminded me of this. Because this was also discussed.

my paternal grandparents were married until my grandfather (emotionally, physically, and sexually abusive alcoholic misogynist) (these things were not Widely Known, though) died when I was nine, and at their 50th wedding anniversary some well-meaning younger women were sort of lightheartedly saying like, "wow, fifty years is such a long time to stay together! how did you do it, how did you manage to stay married this long, what's your secret?" and my grandmother just sort of looked at them and said "you just don't get divorced"

As someone who has not done the wedding/baby thing are lots of events in life that really should involve your supportive circle getting you practical household gifts to help you with a major life thing that just don’t, e.g., divorces in which you have to start completely over, moving out on your own for the first time