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I’ve worked a ton with kids including counselor work and occasional teaching opportunities and let me just tell you never has a thought like that, like generalizing all children as snotty brats, ever crossed my mind, even when I’m getting pretty fed up with something they’re doing. kids are, by nature, intently curious about just about everything. a lot of what Those(tm) types of people may deem as “a bratty kid being bratty” is almost always just some kid who wants to know what you’re doing, or wanting you to tell them what you know about how the world works, and even when that kid is displaying behavior that’s a little more harmful than that, chances are that kid isn’t even aware that what they’re doing is bad, they just need someone to tell them that it is. speaking from years of experience kids basically never do things out of actual, genuine malice, I can assure you that.

like, take for instance this one time I was supervising this one group of young kids on a little outdoor trip. this one kid - who the other counselors have basically deemed a “reckless and violent problem child” by now - starts chasing around the others with a sharp stick. The other kids are, of course, terrified, so I take the stick away from them and tell them to stop. when they ask why I took the stick from them, I didn’t say “because you’re being mean to them and you should stop” and leave it at that, because then, they wouldn’t know why what they were doing qualified as mean, and they’d do it again to try to find out why - the reasoning I gave was that “it’s making the other kids scared - and if you keep doing this, they’re not gonna wanna be your friends. if none of them want to be your friends, then no one will want to play with you anymore” and instantly the kid was just like “…oh. Ok.” and guess what? Not only did they cut it out, they didn’t have another incident like that for the rest of the time they were there. Why was that? It’s simple. When you explain things clearly to kids and, you know, actually treat them like people instead of tiny little annoying monsters - they grow from that. When you tell kids what’ll happen as a result of them being bad instead of just letting your anger get to you and yelling at them for being bad, they’ll know that doing bad things carries consequences for them. that kid, though unruly and loud, wasn’t an evil kid. They just needed to be taught not to do the things they were doing.

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The action choreography for Obi-Wan’s lightsaber scenes in the Obi-Wan Kenobi series episode 4 is SO GOOD. Every one of Obi-Wan’s movements had intentional narrative impact. Every. Movement.

He starts off by striking from the darkness, still rusty and lacking in confidence. He wields his lightsaber like a vibroblade, two-handed, heavy, overextended. It takes four strikes to bring each stormtrooper down.

They run together. In the corridor, the seeker droid starts firing blaster bolts. Obi-Wan instinctively takes up a shoulder-wide stance, lightsaber aloft by his right shoulder. Form IV: Ataru. The lightsaber form of his childhood, his apprenticeship.

He deflects a blaster bolt away from Leia. Then another. Stormtroopers flood in from behind him. He tries to deflect a bolt at the Stormtroopers, but it misses, because he’s out of practice. His body is catching up with his muscle memory. But he parries again, and again, and the next shot downs a trooper. He’s stumbling through Ataru stances like half forgotten memory but each step is smoother and more fluid and then the droid is down. The last trooper is still shooting and by then he can act on instinct - and now the trooper goes down in one hit.

Obi-Wan spins his lightsaber afterwards. He doesn’t know why he does it, it’s just years of instinct, written into his bones.

In the next corridor every single deflected bolt is another trooper down. But Obi-Wan and Leia are pinned on both sides, and he finally shifts his weight and moves into a rapid series of flowing movements, a deadly whirl of light. This is the lightsaber style of ultimate defense, the style that proved in the Clone Wars to be devastatingly effective against blaster crossfire: Form III, Soresu. This is the the style Obi-Wan used in his prime.

This is lightsaber style of General Obi-Wan Kenobi.

- You think sexual thoughts about the person out of nowhere

- You feel aroused upon seeing the person outside of a sexual setting

- You find yourself wondering what the person is like in bed and what their genitals look like 

- You want to have sex with that person because your body is screaming for sex with that one person in particular.

- Seriously though if you’re already horny and that person is there you will feel all hot and sexually aroused and might drool a bit and fantasies of doing X-rated things to that person will fly through your mind and your body will literally be screaming for that person to take you or for you to take that person. Even just thinking about that person while horny can do this to you.

- TMI but if you get off while fantasizing about you having sex with that person, the orgasms can be absolutely mind-blowing and may even give you leg cramps.

- You really do “just know.”

You might not be sexually attracted to that person if…

- You make a conscious effort to fantasize about sex with that person, mainly to see if you actually want to

- You feel aroused during a sexual situation, but that arousal has more to do with the activities instead of the specific person. Alternatively, you just don’t feel aroused at all.

- You feel aroused at random, but it’s directed towards no one

- You want to have sex with that person because you want to make them happy or are just horny and want to get off with a partner or want babies or want money or literally any other reason aside from your body screaming for sex with that one person in particular.

- TMI but if you try to get off while fantasizing about you having sex with that person, you may get bored and start thinking of other things. Or, you may start fantasizing about that person doing sexual things that don’t involve you in which case aegosexual might be worth looking into.

- You just don’t know.

If the “you might be sexually attracted” list boggles your mind, you are possibly asexual.

If the “you might not be sexually attracted” list boggles your mind, you are possibly not asexual.

If you can relate to the “might not be sexually attracted” list, but also feel like you’ve experienced some of the things on the “might be sexually attracted” list, it may be worth checking out some acespec identities.

A big one too, I think is, you may fantasize, but the people in your fantasies are never YOU. They’re fictional characters or your OCs but they’re never you specifically. And if they are it’s an idealized version of you.

If you’ve ever had the thought “masturbation is better than sex because it is more efficient and skips the boring bits,” you might not experience sexual attraction.

If you find someone attractive, but the thought of seeing them with their clothes off isn’t more attractive, it probably isn’t sexual attraction. (A naked body is just a naked body. But people are so lovely when in a look they’ve picked out to express themselves.)

If you occasionally notice body parts considered sexual and think they look nice, but do not want to do anything sexual related to those parts, it might not be sexual attraction. (I will occasionally think someone has nice boobs or a nice butt, and I assumed that was sexual attraction for a long time. But I’ve learned that for allo people, thinking those things leads to them having a response of “therefore I want to tap that” which is absolutely baffling to me. Also, again, those thoughts don’t lead to “and therefore I want to see them without clothing.”

— Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’“ (via gothhabiba)