If it's any consolation, there exists a world, somewhere out there, far away, where you could have been happy.

there have been SO many people that ive seen be around my age (13 - 15) dating people who are 16, 17, or 18. my ex partner system, who i dated on and off for two years, is 18. i am 15 and don't turn 16 for another few months.

yet not a single person in all the syscord spaces i was, or on systok, or anything, said anything about the fact i was a MIDDLE SCHOOLER dating a JUNIOR IN HIGH SCHOOL. it was completely viewed as normal, with some of my mutuals even saying they had similar age gaps with their partners or saying the age gap was okay.

i honestly think part of the problem is people making being a good person or a bad person into some form of identity. and then identifying as solely a good person because they are disabled and have a trauma history.

anyone is capable of doing bad things. but identifying as a Good Person makes one a lot more likely to not self reflect at all about what they're actually doing, and justify their actions because they can't be a Bad Person.

anyone can groom someone. and it's more likely if that other person is vulnerable in some manner. and a lot of system spaces are just filled with vulnerable people who don't have the maturity and experience to know what's going on.

like a lot of other systems, i was blessed (/sarc) with very heavy BPD, so obviously, that came with the sense of emptiness and lack of self identity, so... i threw myself into relationships to make myself feel whole again.

the ex mentioned in the og post, the one that's 18, we got together and (tmi, possibly, mb...) got sexual with each other a few hours after we met. i was 12 and this was months before i even got my emergency bpd diagnosis in the ward. i was just so desperate to finally feel whole again, especially considering this was during quarantine and id lost contact with all my irl friends. i was so desperate to just have someone, especially someone who understood my disorder, to help me out and love me.

teenagers, even neurotypical ones, don't really have a fully developed personality and the personality of theirs is just starting to fully come together, so when you add natural hormones PLUS OSDD/DID and in my case, untreated bpd, into the mix? its a toxic, codependent, power imbalanced relationship waiting to happen.

for the sake of this pool, I use the inclusive definition of the endogenic umbrella, which includes created systems.

that nuance being specifically on trans-ids. not ALL transids are harmful/bigoted, of course a lot of them are (transrace, transabled, transharmful/harmed, transtrauma, some transage labels, etc), but there's a lot of them that AREN'T harmful (transspecies, some transage labels, transappearance, transpersonality, transbirthday, transcharacter, etc)

i was in and out of the radqueer community for years. i found it when i was 12, left when i was 13 after i got groomed, then went back when i was 14 as a trauma response, and then left again a month or two later due to burnout and the realization that "holy shit so many of my mutuals want to be groomers and rapists." and that i realized i only went back as a trauma response.

but also, both times i was active in the community, there was also a lot of labels and terms, especially transid terms, that were rly chill. a lot of people made things like "transhappy", "transtall", "transangel", and a lot of them were just harmless labels. a lot of them seemed unnecessary, but unnecessary doesn't mean harmful, and making labels is super fun!

even though im anti-radqueer, im not anti-transid full stop. i even use a handful of transid terms myself due to a lot of reasons (hoard is here), it really just depends on what the transid is exactly.

being in the community also made me very familiar and understanding of people who use transids and the reasons why they use them, especially with atypical dysphoria, which i also have. so i guess i kinda feel empathetic to people who use transids due to atypical dysphoria.

Please refrain from hate filled attacks against any individual, syscourse stance, or identity. These will be deleted/users blocked.

everytime i open syscourse and see multiple people vagueposting, my first thought is immediately "goddamn it what the fuck did sophie do now."

Idol instead of alter

A flag for systems who use idol instead of alter/headmate/part/ect

Note that this is not an origin term or gender.