But we are family, no matter what they say

You're not wrong for being you, it's not a crime to exist as yourself. You don't need to bend over backwards to please fandom. It's okay.

An image ID for the flags above is highly appreciated. I can not put visuals into words myself, but I will gladly add an image ID if someone will provide it. I will tag @accessibilitea and @idescription for this. Thank you in advance!

Sincerely, Sundrop ☀️🍬, Moondrop 🌘🍬 and Eclipse 🌗⛅️

exotrauma: hello :)

late last year i was having exotrauma show up and i talked about it with my therapist, and she immediately looked for an equivalent in this world. she thought that it must have been my brain painting over memories and traumas from this world. and that put me off from talking about it more. i'm aware there may be an overlap between trauma from here and exotrauma, but i don't think viewing it purely as 'real world' trauma that's been hidden is actually that helpful, at least for me. if anything i think it's had a negative impact, because now sometimes i worry we have more trauma than we think we have, even though before that conversation with our therapist we were fairly confident in what was trauma, exotrauma, and some of the things that fell in between. and even if she's right and it was all based on real life trauma, i don't know if immediately suggesting that is a good idea, because clearly we aren't ready to face that

it just feels invalidating and insensitive to have someone compare it to 'normal' trauma without me suggesting the possibility first.

exotrauma: hello :)

late last year i was having exotrauma show up and i talked about it with my therapist, and she immediately looked for an equivalent in this world. she thought that it must have been my brain painting over memories and traumas from this world. and that put me off from talking about it more. i'm aware there may be an overlap between trauma from here and exotrauma, but i don't think viewing it purely as 'real world' trauma that's been hidden is actually that helpful, at least for me. if anything i think it's had a negative impact, because now sometimes i worry we have more trauma than we think we have, even though before that conversation with our therapist we were fairly confident in what was trauma, exotrauma, and some of the things that fell in between. and even if she's right and it was all based on real life trauma, i don't know if immediately suggesting that is a good idea, because clearly we aren't ready to face that

my d&d guy is also there. for variety.

But even when it's just people saying that internal relationships don't count or they're part of a delusion etc etc etc that's just fundamentally misunderstanding how DID works.

But but but-look, if you think that sounds wrong, then I want to know why you believe that your relationship to yourself is less important than your relationships with others. That sounds unhealthy.

The way we feel for each other is not less real than the way we feel for anyone else externally. The difference is that the way we interact and carry out those relationships is (obviously) within the context of sharing the same body.

We're real people so we have real relationships (they just happen internally, which is complex, and can be upsetting or frustrating at times in its own way). Parental figures are proud of the progress we make because they're watching their kids grow up. People can get jealous because of the time their favorite person is spending with another alter. We have years-long tension over breakups that cause some alters to avoid each other or not get along. Relationships between spouses were built over a long time before those alters considered themselves married. People stress over the way that dynamics change over the course of our life. Normal shit.

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