Also!!! I tend to use terms like āmy guy,ā dude, bro, bruh, as well as bitch, slut, etc as being well-meaning terms of endearment, but if that doesnāt vibe with you PLEASE TELL ME. And I will stop right away.
Its likely that if I ever talk to you one on one, I will get excited about something and go āOMFG BIIIIIITCHā or āBRUH LISTEN BRUHā and those words can be uncomfy for people! So if thatās the case for you, just tell me.
Same goes for if you are uncomfy with me being a super touchy-feely type. If I get excited or I think youāre awesome Iāll probably express that by saying I wanna smooch you or give you a big hug. Some people donāt want to even think about that, and thereās nothing wrong with that! Just be like āno hugs or smooches pleaseā and you will no longer be at the mercy of my grabby hands! And our friendship will never suffer from it!!!!
Please feel free to call me dude/bro or let me call you dude because it means Iām being real and confiding in youuuuuuuuĀ š
also also i have a bad habit to call peopleĀ āgirlā when i dont even know their pronouns, gotta work on changin that. if i refer to u as something u arenāt in an anonymous answer, i apologize. if weāre chattin one on one, please tell me if a nickname i give u feels uncomfortable!
In the part(s) of California where I grew up, ādudeā was used as a non-gendered term, suitable for males, females, and anyone else. Also for inanimate objects or people whose gender you didnāt know (like the driver of another car: āwhoaaaa dude chill Iām going 5 over the speed limit alreadyā). But I know not everyone experiences the word that way! So if I ever call you ādudeā and you feel you are being misgendered, please let me know and Iāll work on not using it for you! (It might take me a couple tries cuz I have Fibro Brain and itās a long-standing habit, but that doesnāt mean I shouldnāt or canāt change!)
