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I have to assume that in the fullness of time, at least once, a mouse has used a mushroom as an umbrella.

Also! Bonus frog!

Don't date thirty-year-olds until you are at least 25.

Having a glass of water for every glass of alcohol will give you a 50% reduction in hangover viciousness.

Bad people will use your willingness to be quiet as a weapon against you. If someone's being awful to you and trusting you'll be quiet to keep from making waves, surprise them.

There is no physical object in the world that is worth as much as your honor.

Honor is not the same as dignity. Retaining one sometimes means leaving the other aside.

Don't have any sex you don't want to have; have as much as you want of the sex that you do, whether that's a lot, a little, or none at all. Nothing you can do to your own body is immoral, unless you're doing it as an act of self-punishment.

Food is morally neutral. You do not have to earn the right to eat calories. Fat and sugar keep your brain from eating itself.

Learning to sit still and breathe--in, in, in, hold, hold, hold, out, out, out, out, out, out--can give you five feet of clear space around yourself in a maelstrom.

Find out how to make three good meals: A comfort meal you can make for just yourself relatively easily, a fancy meal you can use to wow a date, and a meal you can feed a bunch of people. All the other cooking can come later, but you can build a community on those three meals.

Stop when you still feel good!

Exercise? Art? Hobby? Any physical activity? Stop when you still feel good!!!! Take a break, go recharge and eat. I've had this experience so many times where I'll go "Huh, when's the last time I ate?" while I'm doing some activity or other and I'll think I can still keep doing my activity but soon I'll start feeling alot, lot worse and when that hits it's gonna suck to go recharge and try to make myself something to eat. Many ND people have very delayed signals (or trouble reading their signals at all and being unable to tell when they feel hungry or fatigued) which is why you should estimate your break BEFORE you start feeling bad.

This has been super difficult for me to learn but with experience you can start estimating where your limits actually are bc with disability you will often be punished for excess activity alot worse later so you should not be generous with your spoons and time. We both know it Will hit you eventually, be that today or tomorrow. Do NOT loan your time. Do NOT borrow spoons from the future.

Yes, I know it feels bad and sucks. But you know what sucks worse than quitting while you're ahead?

Burnout