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Rumination is probably the most common type of OCD compulsion, but I rarely see anyone talking about it. I've talked to multiple people diagnosed with OCD who didn't even recognize it as a compulsion.

Basically, if you have OCD you have terrible intrusive thoughts. They can be about anything, but common themes are fear of being a bad person, fear of hurting someone, fear of contamination. etc.

Rumination is when you get stuck in a spiral. Rumination is when you spend hours catastrophizing, overthinking, analyzing, telling yourself it's going to be okay.

I'll say it again:

Rumination is a compulsion.

Rumination is a compulsion, and that means you have to stop doing it.

I did ERP (exposure response prevention) for my OCD with a therapist! For 9 months! And it did help, but the idea didn't really click until I found this website a couple years later.

And Oh My God. It made things make so much more sense, and I was able to pull myself out of an episode even though I wasn't in therapy or on meds at the time.

Genuinely if you have OCD, or even if you suspect you have OCD, I'm begging you to read some of these articles.

Like this was genuinely life changing for me.

Here are some of the ones that were most helpful to me:

Defining Rumination

How to Stop Ruminating

ERP Exercises for Compulsive Rumination

Found the evil version of the "What are you gonna do with that big bat?" post I made with Vere so You Know I Had To

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but what do you call someone who doesn't support proshipping but wouldn't harass proshippers??

that’s literally what being a proshipper means, my friend. it means “even if I think what you like in fiction is questionable and/or messed up, what you do is not my business and I will not harass or shame you for it.”

Write at your own speed. Never let your readers make you feel bad because you don't post fast enough. You post at the speed you can/want to and that's totally respectable! Never get down on yourself because you don't write as fast as those around you.

You being meticulous and taking things at your own speed and doing things in a way that works for you, that's what's important. Everything else can just go in the corner and wait its turn. 💙

I’m actively laughing at this