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the family would split up after holiday meals. men to the living room to watch football, women to the kitchen to wash dishes. I was expected to go with the men. That's a crumb of male privilege.

Also, it was really easy to get job interviews. and I never got catcalled.

First if you "like" Lolicon or Shotacon, as in you just like that they're cuteee or they're silly cute anime blobs- this isn't about you. I do not think you're a lolicon or shotacon if it isn't sexual to you. The word is just not applicable. I can give a metaphor again; a grilled cheese needs to have cheese, you don't have the cheese. You would just be toast. (Light hearted connotations when I say that lol) Welcome to read my rant of course

So I will stick my neck out here to say my piece since the traction so far is pro-lolicon and pro-shotacon. I am for gatekeeping here through social censorship, not erasure or total banning. Loli and Shota is already tucked away right, like not easily accessible? That's what I am imagining the majority response will be to my take. Why are young girls still heavily sexualized in media? No not fictional media. Real media. Like reality TV, and celebrities and so on. Two fold in Japan. You know why (or should) there are still people actively seeking to harm children.

Sorry for coming off as fear-mongering-y. So you wanna jerk it to chibiusa or whatever, don't care. That's fine. You gotta do all of us favor, one that has gone unthanked for many years but one that us, non-Lolicon and non-Shotacon people appreciate: make sure your friends aren't pedophiles. It's all fictional right? Like it's not real kids in your porn. It's not hard to do, call someone out (or if appropriate get authorities) when someone who's a lolicon or shotacon comes out as a pedo. You're like the first line for treating pedophilia, treat this like a friend telling you they wanna harm someone else or kill themselves. You're doing them a favor by getting them proper therapy, assuming they haven't hurt a kid (at that point police need to be involved). There is far more nuance here than I can discuss, I am already speaking on behalf of too many. Please, don't let fiction become real. It's an ongoing trend of Loli/Shota media factoring into pedophilia, the same goes for a lot of anime communities.

This same shit applies to people who like gore, guns, or cars, or feral furries- like it just boils down to policing your own community and actively trying to help others. There is this defensive reaction (understandably so) when someone calls out Lolicons and Shotacons, the response from Loli/Shota fans is always "it's not real." Thank you for telling us, we know it's not real. Sorry you have to keep saying it. It turns out, fictional child porn attracts real pedophiles. Just like how cars attract chop shops. I'm not saying people who like Lolicon or Shotacon are pedophiles, I'm saying pedophiles like Lolicon and/or Shotacon. I'm asking for vigilance, participate in your community. Care about your friends.

This isn't exclusive to Loli/Shota either, this is a problem in all Otaku culture. Like I feel like I'm being pedantic here but it's 100% because of how kids were (and even now still are) depicted and treated in pop culture. By extent this stretches to women, minorities, disabled and so on- this is so vague and wildly off topic at a glance but the same groups I mentioned are not well received in the same online Otaku/Weeb spaces that like Loli/Shota (I know everyone experiences fandom different, but I am speaking very broadly)

Okay last thing, thank you to all the CSAM, SA and rape survivors for being alive here. I'm so sorry for those who did not survive. I do not want to erase those experiences, I don't want to hide them, I do however want to prevent rape, and SA, and CSAM. This is difficult for me to word, but we do not need Lolicon/Shotacon to share these experiences. There are other ways to convey trauma, I do not think fictional child porn is intended to help CSAM survivors feel seen. Regardless, many do feel that way. I'm also going to point out the obvious, rape porn, incest porn, so on and so forth, assuming they are legal and consensual, are all in this same rhetoric. It's just for fantasy, and pleasure. It's good to be seen still.

“I’m attracted to children. Let’s talk about our fantasies and what we want to do to children.” This is often a prelude to sharing csam. It should not be welcome anywhere online.

The difference is so obvious it's almost painful to explain: framing and consequence. In virtually every mainstream story, murder is framed as a bad thing. It’s a destructive act. The murderer is not held up as a romantic ideal. Look at the poster children for this argument—the GTA protagonists. Are they cool, aspirational heroes? No. Michael is a miserable, paranoid, money-obsessed wreck of a man whose family despises him. Trevor is a literal psychopath, portrayed as a chaotic, dangerous joke. The whole point of these games is the grotesque, satirical exaggeration of criminal life, and the narrative never, ever pretends these people are having a good time because of the murders they commit. Their lives are chaotic, empty, and constantly on the brink of collapse. Murder is the engine of their misery, not the prize.

Same goes for other media. In Dexter, the titular killer is a monster grappling with his own lack of humanity. In God of War, Kratos's past as a murderer is a literal curse he spends centuries trying to escape. The narrative weight is always there: murder is a tragedy, a crime, or a symptom of profound brokenness.

Now, compare that to how pedophilia, incest, or abuse are often handled in the corners of fandom and certain media that this debate is actually about. The problematic element isn't the existence of the topic—it's the romanticization. It's the framing of an abusive power dynamic as a passionate, forbidden love story. The adult guardian and the child aren't portrayed as a victim and a predator; they're framed as soulmates fighting against a judgmental world. The incestuous pairing isn't shown as a destructive family secret causing lifelong trauma; it's written as a deep, irresistible bond that society misunderstands.

That's the critical disconnect. Nobody is out there writing murder-AUs where killing people is shown as a healthy, desirable foundation for a beautiful romance. But people are constantly writing stories where grooming is the meet-cute, where abuse is devotion, and where the victim's trauma is erased for the sake of a hot plot. The comparison fails because it ignores the moral framework of the narrative itself. One presents an act as fundamentally negative; the other deliberately repackages a horrific act as something positive, sexy, and aspirational.

To pretend these are the same is just a bad-faith attempt to shut down criticism. It's a way to say, "All fiction is fiction, so nothing matters," which is frankly a childish view of storytelling. Stories have context. Framing matters. Glorifying real-world harms that destroy actual lives—especially ones involving the exploitation of the vulnerable—is categorically different from portraying a universally recognized crime as exactly that: a crime. The first one can actively warp perceptions of consent and power for impressionable audiences; the second, when done with standard narrative consequences, usually just reinforces that killing is bad.

So let's drop this stupid false equivalence. It's not about "picking which taboo is okay." It's about having the basic media literacy to understand the difference between portraying something as a tragedy and packaging it as a fantasy.

There’s an entire murder fantasy movie genre: Taken, The Punisher, John Wick, Die Hard… designed to sell American white men the fantasy, “what if you had a good reason to murder a bunch of people?” Frank Punisher is an anti-hero, but the dad in Taken is framed as a good guy throughout the movie.

Then you’ve got mainstream porn shown to millions of viewers on pornhub. It frames sibling incest, beating women, coerced sex, racism, and transphobia as desirable.

The Turner Diaries is a pro-nazi fictional novel that has inspired over 200 real-life murders.

kv-85:

the key word here is "misogynized." every trans man is misogynized before his transition. He can also be misogynized post-transition if he's outed to transphobes -- which most trans men will be when they visit the doctor. If "male privilege" is partially defined by exemption from misogyny, then it's an oversimplification to say trans men have it.

@/wolfbirdgirl how does the misogyny know who is a woman?

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people with feminine names will be treated over email as less credulous or competent. people with deeper voices will be seen as more authoritative. suits and other prototypically masculine clothing are more associated with power. prototypically feminine jobs will be devalued and paid less.

if trans people were incapable of passing in any context this would be a somewhat different story. but they literally are? the majority of transmascs and transfems after a year or so pass a pretty solid amount of the time. anyone who is telling you otherwise is lying to your face and probably a terf.

kv-85:

[redacted] yes! that's exactly the answer I was looking for :)

Misogyny doesn't know one's gender identity, and it doesn't know one's agab either. Misogyny targets people with misogynized traits. It can target you for your job, your voice, your breasts, your name, or the sex marker on your ID, to name a few.

Trans women start life with few feminized traits (if present, usually limited to personality and mannerisms) and acquire more feminized traits through transition. Trans men start life with the gender their parents impose on them, meaning they have lots of feminized traits, then they lose those traits through transition.

It's important to note: feminized traits cause one to be misogynized, but masculinized traits don't automatically confer male privilege. a trans woman with stubble doesn't benefit from having it. to get male privilege one needs to lack feminized traits that are targeted for misogyny. So trans women are targets for misogyny starting early in life.

https://incels.wiki/w/Trannymaxxing

1. If you have a form of Federal or State issued ID that you haven’t corrected yet, use that as your main form of ID from now until whenever we’re out of this mess.

2. Get new IDs to replace the invalidated ones ASAP. Yes, they will be incorrect. Yes, they may out you. Yes, I know this is dangerous and unfair (trust me, I have never had the luxury of stealth and only briefly had the luxury of my ID not misrepresenting me). But it is more dangerous to not have an ID that will allow you to vote, travel, get a job, rent, receive healthcare, etc. Get an incorrect ID if that’s what it takes to do those things because you need to do those things to survive.

3. Grieve. Mourn. Be Angry. Feel all the feelings you need to. This is upsetting. This is scary. But remember that you are not alone in this. Reach out, even if it’s scary, even if you think you will let down. There are people out there who will support you but you will never find them if you don’t look.

4. If this is an option for you, talk to a lawyer about the specifics of your situation. Even if you can’t talk to a lawyer, make a plan for how you are going to navigate having an incorrect ID. What resources do you need, what people can you rely on, what are the specific problems you might run into, what options you have. There probably isn’t a one size fits all solution so make alternate plans as well.

5. If it helps, here in Indiana we were temporarily able to argue that this kind of behavior from our State government was a violation of the Fourteenth Amendment and our privacy. I hope just knowing that there is some legal precedent for fighting back against this kind of thing may give you some hope.

ALL TRANS PEOPLE WITH LEGAL SEX MARKER CHANGES IN KANSAS ARE EQUALLY EFFECTED BY THEIR FUCKING IDS BEING REVOKED WITHOUT NOTICE OR A GRACE PERIOD.

Every time I’ve been to traffic court, I’ve had the privilege to be able to present an image of a clean, professional, contrite young white man, and every time, the judge has used his purview to unilaterally reduce my charges and apply the minimum penalties. Black and clocky defendants do not get the same courtesy!

Christians love doing stuff like this and making such a person the face of their religion then turn around and get mad when they're (correctly) seen as insufferable.

it was a 0 out of 25 points. that's not even a huge deal.

she only wrote 650 words.

the girl didn't do the actual assignment; she just wrote what she felt like and submitted it.

the class was a PSYCHOLOGY course yet her essay was about her religious beliefs and provided no citations or psychological basis. she simply insisted her argument was true because the bible supposedly says so.

her entire essay is a mindless rant about how strict gender roles must be upheld and trans people are "demonic"

her writing—and i cannot stress this enough—is on par with that of a child who doesn't want to do an assignment. it's so bad i genuinely thought i was reading a satire article.

the student is a fucking college JUNIOR writing like a 10-year-old. she is also a psychology MAJOR who thinks everything in the bible is literal and that her religion is the only source anyone needs. this is someone who intends to go into mental health care. she is dangerously bigoted and ignorant, and her professor saw this and was punished for grading accordingly.

here's a line from her essay:

"Women naturally want to do womanly things because God created us with those womanly desires in our hearts. The same goes for men. God created men in the image of His courage and strength, and He created women in the image of His beauty."

here's her teacher's reasoning for the grade:

“[I am] not deducting points because you have certain beliefs" but rather because the paper "does not answer the questions for this assignment, contradicts itself, heavily uses personal ideology over empirical evidence in a scientific class and is at times offensive."

the girl is a hate-filled bigot. she is a white christian girl who is now being championed by fox news and turning point usa while her professor sits on fucking forced leave. this is disgusting.

the instructor’s name is mel curth. as of 12/3 she’s listed on ou’s page here, but her email has been removed: https://www.ou.edu/cas/psychology/people/graduate-students

the student’s mother is a local politician and lawyer. her public business page is here: https://fulneckylaw.com/2020/07/about-kristi/